Do you think its ok?..... [Archive]

PJay

January 6th, 2011, 05:36 AM

There have been some interesting polls on this site about acceptance and stuff like what guys would do, maybe have a look through some of those. Short answer is this is a very gay friendly place so you might get a different opinion than where you live. What you prolly really want to know is 'if I come out, how much shit am I going to get" ... which is kind of hard to answer.
I'm gay, and I wouldn't want to be straight.

Bath

January 6th, 2011, 05:56 AM

Simple. It's natural and I support the equality of the LGBT community with straight people.(: No one should be judged by what genitalia they like.

Fact

January 6th, 2011, 06:00 AM

Simple. It's natural and I support the equality of the LGBT community with straight people.(: No one should be judged by what genitalia they like.

Many gay people find that there's more attraction to the opposite sex than just physical attributes. I personally don't know any gay person who hasn't had some form of affectionate or romantic experience/relationship with a person of the same sex.

In answer to the OP's question, yes I believe there's nothing strictly 'wrong' with being gay.

Bath

January 6th, 2011, 06:13 AM

Many gay people find that there's more attraction to the opposite sex than just physical attributes. I personally don't know any gay person who hasn't had some form of affectionate or romantic experience/relationship with a person of the same sex.

I'm aware, I'm bisexual, x)

Fact

January 6th, 2011, 06:13 AM

I'm aware, I'm bisexual, x)

Ahh, I see. So you were probably speaking from personal experience that other people are like D: you like girls too! Kind of thing :P

nick

January 6th, 2011, 10:22 AM

Of course its OK, everyone should have the right, and the confidence, to just be themself, and that includes their sexuality.

Tristin.

January 6th, 2011, 10:30 AM

ofcource its ok to be gay, yes there are haters, but its who we are. I Love being gay lol

coming out was the best thing that i have ever done :D

Zazu

January 6th, 2011, 11:22 AM

No different to being openly straight.

I see no need to put that segregation there in the first place.

PJay

January 6th, 2011, 12:00 PM

No different to being openly straight.

I see no need to put that segregation there in the first place.

I agree, but the trouble is there are a lot of straight people (guys mainly) who get unbelievably angry that you've been keeping some sort of secret that for some reason they think they have a right to know.

Like I really dont care or want to know if they are off doing bondage or whatever (which I dont get at all btw) but apparently MY sex life is their business.

Lights

January 6th, 2011, 12:32 PM

Simple. It's natural and I support the equality of the LGBT community with straight people.(: No one should be judged by what genitalia they like.

I don't like boys specifically for their genitalia.

Well this is a pretty accepting community so most people will be accepting. Still, some people won't like it for whatever reason.
I wish being 'gay' was as normal as being 'straight'.

Zazu

January 6th, 2011, 12:35 PM

I agree, but the trouble is there are a lot of straight people (guys mainly) who get unbelievably angry that you've been keeping some sort of secret that for some reason they think they have a right to know.

Like I really dont care or want to know if they are off doing bondage or whatever (which I dont get at all btw) but apparently MY sex life is their business.

You do have a good point there mate. I had this kind of conversation a while ago with a friend, discussing the question "Why should I have to come out as 'gay' is no one has to come out as 'straight'?". He raised the [obvious] point that the majority of human beings label themselves as 'straight' but I still fail to see the need as to why anyone should be pressured into having to shout about their sexuality (OK, exaggerating a bit there but I hate the whole 'coming out' thing).

My sexuality isn't something that I particularly broadcast as no one else broadcasts that they're straight (I still stick to that ethos). People will say "Well what do you do if you're 'gay' and you want to find someone to go out with / have sex with / a partner?" but I strongly believe that if someone catches your eye, you should get to know them first and then ask about their sexuality / explain yours / explain your feelings towards them.

I'm just not much into the whole 'flamer' attitude - people who feel the need go go shouting (both verbally and non-verbally) that they choose to label themselves as 'gay'.

PJay

January 6th, 2011, 12:44 PM

Yeah I don't understand 'flamers' either David. I am just myself, I dont need to act like a girl, i'm a boy and i like being a boy. But also I consciously try not to be too macho cos I hate that too. But tbh the fact that everyone knows i'm gay at school helped my boyfriend of 2 months say he thought i was cute. So being 'out' was great in that case.

I think we are getting to where you want it to be (http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2011/01/05/research-finds-straight-men-are-happy-to-kiss/)in the UK though.

Zazu

January 6th, 2011, 01:03 PM

I think we are getting to where you want it to be (http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2011/01/05/research-finds-straight-men-are-happy-to-kiss/)in the UK though.

I dunno if that's something in particular I'd envisioned in my mind but I do agree that it's nice to see that people are slowly chilling the fuck out about sexuality and realising that another human being's life is another human being's life, not theirs to dictate.

I've always thought that people in general (including myself) need to stop trying to force labels onto sexuality all the time.

PJay

January 6th, 2011, 01:20 PM

I've always thought that people in general ... need to stop trying to force labels onto sexuality all the time.

Totally. :yes:

Dimitri

January 6th, 2011, 04:06 PM

I have a cousin and friends who are gay and there is nothing in the world that could make me hate them just because of their sexual orientation and I think that more people in society should be open minded towards the gay society. I am straight btw.

skinny_white_boy

January 6th, 2011, 05:01 PM

There is nothing wrong with being gay in my eyes. I know ALOT of people who hate gays and I don't know why. How could you hate someone because they like something different then you think is normal? They don't make me happy when they talk trash about gays.

Infidelitas

January 6th, 2011, 06:51 PM

I dunno why people make such a big deal about others being gay. its not any of their business. So long as your happy. I used to try to deny it to myself, but then i realised that there is nothing wrong with it. Ive always been gay and always been happy

Philleeep

January 6th, 2011, 07:56 PM

Simple. It's natural and I support the equality of the LGBT community with straight people.(: No one should be judged by what genitalia they like.

Hi five im bi too. ;) sorry randomness. its fine who you are if anything it a problem if you spend your whole life trying to find out your sexuality.

OutOfOrder

January 6th, 2011, 09:21 PM

Personally, I don't care if someone is gay, straight, bi, or whatever... All I care about is if they are a cool person, fun to be around, and can have good conversations with you. I don't see why other people factor someone else's sexuality into their friendability... It's kinda weird to do that... (I'm straight by the way if that helps at all).

Nobody

January 6th, 2011, 09:53 PM

I see nothing wrong with being gay. I mean, the only difference between gay and straight people is their sexuality. So why shouldn't be they accepted just as well as straight people. It's none of other people's business whether you like same or opposite sex... So yeah, I think it's perfectly okay.

MoveAlong

January 6th, 2011, 11:54 PM

I think it's great! More people should be gay! Especially cute guys.

Commander Thor

January 7th, 2011, 12:09 AM

I think it's great! More people should be gay! Especially cute guys.

I second this statement.

LilTurtle

January 7th, 2011, 02:22 PM

not one of my friends had an issue with it when i came out. and three years later we are all still friends.

remember and live by this..... be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

.

tyler007

January 7th, 2011, 11:03 PM

Yea I dont care either, i am begining to thing that this one guy i know is bi at least. BUt he has not said anything, and if he does i dont care, He's still my freind and i will be the same and support him either way. I really wish that everyone could just get along.
I think that gay, bi and straight all have the right to be happy and express themselves.

tisdave

January 8th, 2011, 06:01 PM

I think its absolutely fine, and im glad a whole lot more are actually revealing their true colours.

One thing that angers me though, is people being unable to accept their (once)friends, for who they are.

James94

January 8th, 2011, 06:13 PM

Firstly, I'd like to say that I think that I might be gay, and I've been sure that I was in the past, so this isn't meant in a homophobic way, just as how I see it. Homosexuality clearly isn't "how it's meant to be", as the purpose of sex is to reproduce, and obviously that's not going to happen. However it's simply wrong when people say that it's unnatural - it occurs in animals, in nature, so therefore it is natural, and in that sense I don't think there's anything wrong with it as such. However, in the same way that someone might be dyslexic or have other "abnormalities", I think that it is, for lack of a better word, a disorder. I don't think that people should be judged differently because of their sexuality, and I don't think that they should be forced to oppress their true feelings, as it isn't a choice as some people claim it to be. However, I personally do view it as something gone slightly wrong.

Mrs.KermitTheFrogx

January 8th, 2011, 06:15 PM

You are who you are nobody can stop
Gay / lesbian / bisexual / trans-gender / straight
You are who you are and so its all 'okay'
some people may not accept you for who you are
but i would rather be hated for the real me
than be loved for being sombody else :) x

PJay

January 8th, 2011, 06:42 PM

However, I personally do view it as something gone slightly wrong.

I posted somewhere else about this today wierdly - there are studies out there that show that homosexuality within social animal groups seems to basically give that group an extra aunt or uncle type figure to help with rearing the young, bringing in food, stuff like that. It improves survivability of the children by increasing the ratio of adults to children.

So the evidence tends to suggest that this is an evolutionary thing that favours social animals, and therefore not 'something gone wrong' any more than any evolutionary mutation.

lipstick_kisses23

January 8th, 2011, 06:46 PM

Honestly from what I see, they love each other more openly in public then straight people do and it's inspiring. Love is love <3 It's totally okay by me

grstl

January 8th, 2011, 09:37 PM

I hope it is ok.........even though my family, our church, and most people in this area think it is a perverted sin. Personally, I have always tried to please everyone on the surface...but I can't stop craving guys. I guess I'm like. One of those multilayer Russian dolls. The outer one my church and parents see is straight.
The middle me my girlfriend knows is bi (she hates gay but oves me anyway she says). The inner me is totally guy crazy gay. Someday I hope I can show everyone the inside me....if gay is really ok.
I think it is for me.

blackmusicbox215

January 8th, 2011, 10:47 PM

If people are gay let them be. What right do other people have to tell you have and to have a certain orientation. I'm gay, and honestly if people hate me cause of ut, let em. Their loss not mine.

jovien

January 8th, 2011, 10:49 PM

honestly i support gays all the way and they are troopers but u dont have to

triplet1

January 10th, 2011, 05:05 PM

There is nothing wrong with being gay

Mandala

January 11th, 2011, 05:02 PM

I think the sexuality doesnt matter, liking guys or girls is the same than liking chocolate or vanilla icecream, its a shame that so many people make such a fuss about it. Ex: Half of the guys of my class cant accept people aside from the str8 standard, and coincidentally all of them do catholic religion (i dont mean anything bad about catholic people, its just a fact about my class)

sieg

January 11th, 2011, 07:56 PM

I think that being gay is perfectly fine(I'm gay), but hey thats just me, kinda wish my parents had the same views as me.

PAfarmerkid

January 11th, 2011, 08:30 PM

I think its perfectly ok. I come from a small country town in a small school that doesnt support gays very well. I think everyone has a right to their own sexuality. Im straight but very curious... I personaly think sometimes peopl esay they dont support gays so they dont sound like their gay themselves, even though their not and people know it. I have alot of issues saying I support gays myself because of that reason.

Ace7

January 12th, 2011, 05:38 PM

In my mind it's totally okay. :yes:

Skeptical Bear

January 12th, 2011, 06:01 PM

There's nothing wrong with being gay at all. It's the ignorance that the people "breathe" in and don't think before hand.

Rayquaza

January 12th, 2011, 06:22 PM

nothing wrong with it. However, if a gay couple choose to have a child, they may lack the female attention and support. Apart from that its perfectly fine. In fact, we have a gay couple next door :-)

phily08

January 14th, 2011, 04:24 PM

I think its fine, im bi so i have no prob with any sexuality. even though gays can be mean to bi ppl i woulnt stoop to that level

Slytherin_Prince

October 2nd, 2011, 05:26 AM

My opinion is fairly simple. I'm gay myself, so I'm all for it.
Where I live it's not that much of an issue though, in fact, it's considered as normal as heterosexuality. Still, it brings along problems, as I am sure you are perfectly aware of.
I myself always say: "Straight people don't make a big deal that they're straight, so why should I scream my sexuality from the rooftops?"
As for the sexuality, sexuality is a preference, a choice, and as long as democracy exist, we all have the freedom to choose.
And we must always have that freedom, lest democracy is lost.

Most sincerely,
Robert.

LuckyLuke

October 2nd, 2011, 08:28 PM

I don't care.

It's your life and, so long as you're not hurting others, you can do anything you want with it. You're attracted to what you're attracted to and whether that be males or females, that's what it is and that's okay.

holdendeman

October 3rd, 2011, 09:22 PM

There's nothing wrong with attraction towards your gender. I'm gay and glad I am. Gay people are unique in the sense that hey see the world differently and experience life in a way that most don't, and that is special.

Tobias

October 14th, 2011, 02:27 PM

i think is ok to be gay as long as you are not tressing like a women and stuff like that becouse thats just sick.

Megson

October 14th, 2011, 03:40 PM

It doesn't matter who you like. You should have the freedom to fall in love with the person you love.

The issue is religion, I think. There's, like, 2 or 3 verses that mention homosexuality being an 'abomination' in the bible and suddenly it gives everyone a right to hate them. Honestly, I don't think the bible is very reliable. It says things against tattoos, eating seafood, touching pig skin, and it even says some negative things about menstration. It was written by men of that time period, so obviously it has some flaws. Maybe we should start moving forward instead of focusing on the past.

Personally, I do not believe there is anything wrong with homosexuality at all.