Advice please

[Infidelitas]

I am gay, but i dont know how to tell my parents. How can I tell them?

[AussieBiBoy]

Although I am not actually gay (at this point, I am curious), my parents caught me wanking to gay porn on the computer, so that solved the whole problem for me. However, I know some of my gay friends sat down with their parents and told them and all the parents already knew (well had guessed it). You will probably be surprised by how much they know already. And maybe tell your mum (or dad) first, depending on who would take it the easiest.

[Fushigi]

tell them when ur ready... when there is no doubt in ur mind and u have already have a job... is that if they will kick u out u have a place to live in hahaha kidding!!! just wait for the right time...

[indieboy]

Tell them when you're ready. Im pretty sure they'll understand after all it isn't really a crime against humanity. At the end of the day, if you have made up your mind about it, nobody can really stop you. Life is too short to not be happy, so if this makes you happy then stick with it.

There will come a time when you will feel ready to tell people. Plenty of Gay/Bisexual people remain "in the closet" for years, plucking up the courage to tell people incase they are disowned or hated. Nowadays thats lesser the case. Be happy about it and don't let anything get in your way.

Hope this helps

=)

[nick]

There's no hurry to tell them unless you are dating someone and they might find out that way, otherwise in your own good time. Everyone has to find their own way because everyone's circumstances are different. I came out to my dad when we were rooming together on holiday last year (my mum left us a while back), his response was "I wondered when you were going to tell me", so it doesnt always come as a shock to them or go badly.

[1_21Guns]

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[smitty35]

do it when you think you are ready and start with the easiest parent ( mom or dad)

[Infidelitas]

Thanks for all your advice. Im not sure, i think my mum already knows because she caught me looking at gay porn once. I asked her not to tell my dad, and she has kept that promise. I denied being gay at the time, because mum and dad were having trouble with my older sister. I know that they will accept me for who i am. But its gonna be a hard thing to do. Im planning to do it in a couple of weeks, I dont want to live a lie.

[PJay]

Good for you Charlie. Its definately better out than in, and any problems usually work out pretty quick as people get used to it. My bf had to come out to his folks because we'd started going out a couple of months ago, and he didn't want to live a lie either. It was ok but they hadn't guessed so his mums still a bit funny about it.

[Infidelitas]

I think my mate is a homophobe, but i think he just puts it on. He is not a true friend if he cares

[PJay]

I think my mate is a homophobe, but i think he just puts it on. He is not a true friend if he cares

My experience was a few guys will do that, but its like camoflage. THey aren't necessarily gay (but i suspect one might be not straight). That isn't a rule though, so its always a risk that a friend might react badly, but then you'd rather know the truth about them too, right?

[LilTurtle]

i came out at 13. i told all my friends than i told my mom and she didnt have any problem with it. i never told my step dad but i dont tell him anything. im sure he knows because my step brother told me that he knows im gay..... i told him that you don't have to tell me.... i already know i'm gay. we dont get along at all. we never did and we never will.
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[Infidelitas]

Just to let everyone know, I came out tonight. It feels like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. My parents said that they had ideas about it

[PJay]

Congrats! Who to? How did it go?
We're here for you if you need support.


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[Infidelitas]

Congrats! Who to? How did it go?
We're here for you if you need support.


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To my mum first, then mum came with me to tell dad. It feels better now. It went well, they are happy for me. Thanks everyone for your advice.

[phily08]

thats so good because now you dont have to worry

[tyler007]

Hey Good for you.... im sure that it was not easy, but im also sure that you must feel better now, and dont feel like you have to hide it from mom and dad.
I have heard that parent almost always know, its just weather they accept it themselves befor you tell them and confrim it.

Again... i wish you all the best, and hope it all works out for you.

[jason123]

Good luck Kingcharlie.

[Deathwingo0o]

I want to say I'm bi but I'm afraid my parents will ask if I'm top or bottom. That would be really, really akward.

[Sosaku]

I want to say I'm bi but I'm afraid my parents will ask if I'm top or bottom. That would be really, really akward.

just say that you dont ask about their sex life, and they shouldn't ask you, or tell them you havent done anything and you arent sure, i mean, people are different and if in a male relation ship you ARE bottom, then say both, because technically its true, (unless the girl is top that is...)

[jet7up]

I am gay, but i dont know how to tell my parents. How can I tell them?

Why do u need to tell them ? If u feel okay this is the most important thing.
They maybe won't understand you, then u will feel angry.

[Infidelitas]

Why do u need to tell them ? If u feel okay this is the most important thing.
They maybe won't understand you, then u will feel angry.


Its ok i came out, they were fine with it lol

[Deathwingo0o]

just say that you dont ask about their sex life, and they shouldn't ask you, or tell them you havent done anything and you arent sure, i mean, people are different and if in a male relation ship you ARE bottom, then say both, because technically its true, (unless the girl is top that is...)

Lol. It will get me grounded. My parents never wanted me to say anything that in unconfirmed... But I only like guys around my age. Anything more than 5 years will turn me off. That's why I can't confirm yet...

[car_krazed94]

tell them when ur ready. it wasnt hard for me. my mom looked thru my history on my laptop and saw gay porn sites. she pulled me aside and talked to me privately about it. she was fine about it. and told me she tried stuff with another girl(didnt wanna hear it=P) my dad was fine with it. i thought my dad would hate me but oddly enough he was the more understanding parent. we get along alot better now. =D