Is this weird?

[OutOfOrder]

Hey,

I am a 16 year old male and I'm having some trouble figuring out my sexuality right now. I have had two girlfriends before and have always found girls attractive.

About a month ago, one of my close friends and I had a sleepover at his house. We didn't have much room on the floor, so we decided to just sleep in his bed. We had to stay really close together to be able to stay on the bed, but it wasn't too close that we were touching. In the middle of the night, I woke up and found that he was pressed against me, his ass against my penis, but I didn't think much of it. I woke up again, and found that we were pressed against each other with our chests together and our mouths within a couple inches of each other. I just moved away and fell back asleep.

After that night, I began to notice his ass and legs a lot and found that I wasn't looking at girls anymore. I wasn't attracted like this to any other guys, just this one friend.

This last weekend, we were at another friend's house and were working on Garageband. We didn't have enough seats for all us, so my friend decided to sit on me. At first he sat halfway on my legs, but soon moved all the way up. I got an erection, which he felt on his ass but he didn't move away. I was feeling a bit cold so I put my hands inside the pockets of his sweater and pulled him up against me so my chest was touching his back. Pretty soon, one of my hands was in the back pocket of his jeans and the other was on his waist.

After we went home later that day, I sent him a text asking if the whole thing was awkward, and he replied that he didn't think it was. We all made a video on that day and one of the scenes was him crawling and the camera was looking at his ass. When I was watching the video, I got an erection and wanted to "do it" really badly...

I'm not attracted to any other guys at all, just this one friend... I am still attracted to girls. I'm not sure what this means for me. I'm just wondering if I'm gay, bi, or just confused right now... Can anyone help me out?

[sounddude]

Dude, your hormones are just running wild..and a hot ass sitting on your dick gave your brain something to lust after, just go with your exploration, it's way to early to think you are making a lifestyle decision...enjoy!

[Nancy Boy]

Dude, your hormones are just running wild..and a hot ass sitting on your dick gave your brain something to lust after, just go with your exploration, it's way to early to think you are making a lifestyle decision...enjoy!

YES. You aren't gay unless you have 'feelings' for the guy. Like love? And you are curious if you just want his dick (; hehe. Don't worry. Ur okee (:

[OutOfOrder]

Haha, alright. Do you think my friend is gay? Or interested in me? Or was this all just a misunderstanding? I don't want to ruin our friendship if this was just a one time type thing. Maybe some more background will help:

My friend hasn't had a girlfriend yet. He tells me about liking some girls, but never goes to the next level and tries to talk to them or ask them out. I think he's just a bit nervous or something, but now I'm not so sure. Recently, he told me about this new girl he says he likes, but he doesn't chat or text with her at all. He has never said anything about liking guys either.

Whenever I go to sleep now a days, I'm getting dreams of kissing him... But not having sex or anything like that... I'm kinda confused what all this means...

EDIT: I don't really want his dick, just his ass... For girls that's what I like too, basically the ass and boob sizes...

[differentduck]

Sounds fine. You're lucky to have a friend that open and that doesn't think that was awkward at all. See where it goes and good luck! :)

[tyler007]

Dude, your hormones are just running wild..and a hot ass sitting on your dick gave your brain something to lust after, just go with your exploration, it's way to early to think you are making a lifestyle decision...enjoy!

I agree, its just normal, and we all move around in our sleep and we ge close to each other for warmth, and i know sometime i mess around with my guy friends like that too sitting on laps, and hugging pulling them closer,to me.
Some of us just cravy the attention, and affection from others, BUT YOU NORMAL... just have fun with it,

[OutOfOrder]

Oh, that makes sense. But it's not weird at all to like him in this way? Do you think it's something I should tell him? I don't want to make things awkward if he thinks I like him and he doesn't feel the same way...

[MoveAlong]

You "have always found girls attractive" = you are not gay. How could you be gay if you like girls?

You may be bi, but it sounds more like curiosity.

Sounds like he's confused/curious, too...most boys go through questions in their mind like yours, and he's no different. Either that or he's gay/bi. Maybe put yourself in more situations like this, to see what happens?

Also, this could just be a bromance...which is epically cute, btw.

[tyler007]

IDK if your friend is bi /gay or not. Some guys just get shy around girls.
But no its not at all wierd to like him in that way, but as to what you should do next: thats a bit more tricky. I think you should just be his friend like you are now. and see what happens,,, maybe try to talk the the girl he likes and see if she likes him,,,

I dont think you should tell him anything, just yet cause what are you going to say?

[OutOfOrder]

I guess I'll see what happens between us next time we are at a party or sleepover together. I'm not sure how to "create more of these situations", but I'll try to...

I can definitely talk to the girl he likes since we are both friends. I'm not sure how to make it not awkward for her, but I'll do my best.

Any other advice from anyone about this situation? Anything would really help me! Thanks to those who have helped me this far!

[MoveAlong]

You don't HAVE to create more of these situations!! That's just a suggestion. Maybe you could talk to him about curiosity. Idk. Also I think it would really kill him if you talk to the person he likes and tell her that he likes her. I know if someone did that to me I'd be like DA FUK

[Tristin.]

just go with the flow, you seem happy enough to handle these situations if they arise. dont make them happen or it could get awkward, also dont talk to this girl, he would either be very angry or upset, it could be a bluff also. just talk to him :)

[OutOfOrder]

Hmm... Alright. I guess talking to that girl will probably just end out really badly for everyone... I'm not sure how to talk to him about "curiosity"... The two of us have never talked about that kind of stuff before... I don't want it to be all awkward where he feels really strange and then doesn't want to talk to me for a while...

EDIT:: I'll also not "try" to make these situations come up, but I have been wanting them to come up a lot lately... I'm not sure if he thinks the same way...

I've also started to think about him a lot lately... It's getting somewhat distracting now... Like today I was trying to do homework and I starting thinking about his body again and can't focus on my work anymore... We do text a lot outside of school (we are both each other's most contacted by a LOT), but I'm getting kinda nervous to text him now cuz I might say something weird...

[Tristin.]

if you feel something more than just curiosity, it may be love which may mean your bi, or it remains curiosity

[OutOfOrder]

Hmm... I guess I'll have to see if I feel the same way around my past girlfriends as I do with my friend before saying anything about "love"... We are going to the same party on Sunday so I guess I can check out if there is anything going on there...

Thanks to everyone who helped me so far!

p.s. I can't reply to PMs that some of you sent me because I "have to have more than 100 posts to send a PM"... So sorry about that...

[Tristin.]

i hope everything goes well for you!!!

dont worry, youll get there pretty quick :P

[tyler007]

You go to the girl, your friend ask her if she likes anyone...or is dating anyone? THATS IT.... if she ask why just same one asked you to ask her...but dont tell her who. OR Then you tell your friends, hey im good friends with her, or shes in my english class and i know that she in not dating anyone, want me to put in a good word for you...
then see what he say...


I dont know maybe its bad advice, you know them better than i do.
Good luck.

I like the term BROmance... i think it sums it up.... dont let it be weird for you or towards him.. just be your self.

[Sebastian Michaelis]

wow you just confused me too bro

[OutOfOrder]

Yea, I know that she is not going out with anyone... Today she and I were talking about dating people and she told me that she had someone in mind, but that it wasn't someone from school and that she wanted my help to meet him. I don't want to tell my friend because he might get really sad, but at the same time I do to see his reaction to the whole thing... Maybe he didn't actually like her?

Also, I've started dreaming of doing a little bit more than kissing my friend now... I'm not sure what this means...

[PJay]

Personally if this guy sat on your boner and you had your hands where you said and he told you it wasn't awkward ... hes way more comfortable with that than any straight guys I know. I mean, I'm gay but if I sat on a guy I didn't fancy and he got a boner i'd not be totally cool with that and probably get off him.

Seems to me he'd be up for some experimenting which would probably help you work things out & do you both good. You've said you want something like it to happen again, and you keep having sexy thoughts about him & he seems cool so just go for it.

[OutOfOrder]

Yea, we've known each other for a really really long time, so that's why I think he was ok with it... He's not that expressive, so maybe he was just saying that it was ok because he didn't know what else to say?

We text a lot, but I've noticed that I usually start these conversations. I tried not texting him for the last couple of days to see if he would text me first, but he hasn't... I don't know if it's because he doesn't care to talk to me or because he thinks I'm busy...

Also, I've never experimented with a friend before, and I feel like asking my friend in an awkward might ruin our friendship if he takes it the wrong way... Any suggestions?

Thanks for helping btw!

EDIT:: I think I solved this whole thing now... I talked to one of my really close friends and she basically said that I was mistaking a strong friendship with something more... I think she's right on that actually... So thanks for everyone's help!

[coolkid719]

wow, this is totally my situation T_T
except my best friend has a girlfriend. :(

[Victor ODonnell]

Guys, dont go anywhere for a sex story! lol
Dude, u r straight! its jus that ur hormones are running wild! You are curious and happens to everyone! U have to wait until u r 18 to discover ur sexuality! Good luck!

[ITSGUCCITIME]

Dude, your hormones are just running wild..and a hot ass sitting on your dick gave your brain something to lust after, just go with your exploration, it's way to early to think you are making a lifestyle decision...enjoy!

O agree 100%

[triplet1]

I think your just confused

[metoo]

YES. You aren't gay unless you have 'feelings' for the guy. Like love? And you are curious if you just want his dick (; hehe. Don't worry. Ur okee (: So does that mean that every st8 guy that has sex with a girl but doesnt have feelings/love for her isnt str8. If you have sex with a guy youve had a homo experience. If you are attracted and or enjoy being sexual with guys repeatedly then you are gay/bi.

[metoo]

I think the sleepover is fine...like brothers. The other thing on lap must make you very good friends and both pretty open and comfortable.

[Voodoo]

It's your hormones you are in the puberty stages your urge to have sex is higher then your reason at this time, your best bet it is to talk with that friend, see what you guys can do to make it less awkward. As for the sexual part of it of how you wanna do it with him, if you're single and you want to experiment go for it! But it can be illeagle if one of you is under the age of 16. (I'm not promoting underage sexual activities) But it sounds completely like hormones.

[Sosaku]

Guys, dont go anywhere for a sex story! lol
Dude, u r straight! its jus that ur hormones are running wild! You are curious and happens to everyone! U have to wait until u r 18 to discover ur sexuality! Good luck!

I don't agree with this, I know i'm gay, and i'm 16, i know i have absolutely no attraction to girls, only to guys....but no dude, your are just curious....and he's a really good friend, so maybe this is causing some really good friendship, i know this is confusing lol confused me...but just saying u are good friends, if you want to know anything about him, bring up homosexuality/bisexuality and see how he reacts. If its good, kinda tell him how u feel....if the reaction is bad...dont tell him, just go with it...

[OutOfOrder]

First off, thanks to everyone for posting here and trying to help me!

I thought that I had gotten over this, but it doesn't seem like that... I really don't want to do something stupid like slap his ass or grab it when we're wrestling because I think that would be kinda awkward for him... But I really really want him so badly.

We had a party (a pretty small one) last night at a different friend's house. All of us were sitting on the bed and watching some TV shows on Hulu. Me and my friend were also talking about sex and masturbating some of the time... I don't know if that means he is giving signals or if he just thought we were close enough to talk about it. He claims to not masturbate (he said 3 times in the last month)... I don't know what to make of the whole thing at all...

[Sosaku]

friends talk alot, during teen years, especially about sex...if he is giving signals grats, but dont think that EVERY sexual thing he says is a cue to jump his bones(such an old saying lol) bring up some things u like...(as in asses...see his reaction, then maybe mention male asses may not be the best to do....hmm..) just talk to him if he brings upthese sexual acts, then maybe he wants to know more about you...

[OutOfOrder]

Yea, that sounds like a good idea! I'll definately try that if he brings up the subject again! Thanks!

Any other suggestions?

[Quahog]

Keep to yourself. Don't bring it up, unless he brings it up. If he brings it up, be honest.

[OutOfOrder]

Yea, I've been keeping the whole thing to myself this entire time. I really don't know how to tell him what I feel without him freaking out (or at least that's what I think he will do). Some of our friends are telling us that we are both "acting gay" with each other... I'm not really sure what to make of that, but it doesn't seem to be affecting anything that we are doing. We still wrestle and sit and lean on each other...

I agree with people who said that it might be a good idea to tell him, but at the same time I just think he's being friendly and doesn't want me in the same way I like him.

[OutOfOrder]

Hmm... Not sure why the reply I put on here yesterday never showed up... Anyway, what I was saying is that I really want to tell him and at the same time, I don't because I think he might freak out and ditch me as a friend... So I'm basically afraid that I'll lose his friendship because he is one of my closest friends.

I have thought about having a relationship with him, and it seems like he is the only guy I would ever think that about... Also, I don't find any of the guys my girl friends say are hot even mildly attractive... I just see them as guys... But my friend I see as something more, like someone I would love to spend a lot of time with and maybe go a lot further with...

[Sosaku]

if you are ever alone with him, ask his opinions on being called out on "acting gay" and judge by his response if you should tell him...and if he says "I dont know, what about you?" then tell him how you feel about him, that response usually(99% of the time) means he is just a little afraid to admit it, probably for the same reason you are afraid, losing friendships.

[OutOfOrder]

if you are ever alone with him, ask his opinions on being called out on "acting gay" and judge by his response if you should tell him...and if he says "I dont know, what about you?" then tell him how you feel about him, that response usually(99% of the time) means he is just a little afraid to admit it, probably for the same reason you are afraid, losing friendships.

Alright, I'll try that. The other day, we were both talking and, I'm not sure how this came up, but it ended with us talking about which one of us was "the girl" and which was "the guy" (both of us were arguing that we were "the guy" and the other person was "the girl").

Also, the other day, he got a text from one of his friends and showed it to me saying "I think she likes me. I might go out with her". I got kinda upset and didn't want to talk to him for a while, but got over it after he sat on me again.

I'm not sure if I'm giving off too many signals and he's just not giving off any? Or if he is giving them off and I'm just not catching them... HELP! :confused:

[Sosaku]

ok, sometimes guys don't give off signals. One of my crushes, i saw him playing hide and seek, in the back of a library, where most people make out...kinda hurt, but i never really talked to him, i look everyonce in a while, and i've caught him staring. But i'm kinda over him, now there is another guy i like a bit...he talks to me, i talk to him, i think he's bi, but i'm not sure, he doesn't give off signals. If he is a rather, masculine kind of guy, then he most likely won't give off signals unless you know what to really look for. The masculine guy i'm talking about i've caught staring at me. i've seen in like ALL day one day...and he has secrets ONLY his closest friends know. He doesn't like being at home. and he is mostly quiet. I COULD be wrong, but this is how i was when i was in the closet, which for one person, i AM in the closet, well set of people....ma famille...(my family) Lol, i love being in my french class...but hey, if you need, just pm me, and i'll give you my e-mail, or i can keep posting here...=D good luck I really hope if goes well for you

[OutOfOrder]

Thanks for the advice. I just really like this friend... I can't stop thinking about him, even during classes and tests. Every time I see him I just can't stop thinking about having sex with him. He is so attractive to me, but I don't think he thinks of me in the same way. We are really close friends also and we see each other a lot, so that doesn't help me in trying to stop thinking about me and him doing it.

I kinda want to tell him about what I feel because I can't hold it in anymore. I feel like I'm going to do something that will scare him away forever because i'm keeping these feelings inside...

At the same time that I like him this much, I've gotten very sad when he doesn't call me on days we have off, or doesn't text me as often as I text him. I feel like we are getting further away... I asked him what he thinks of us, and he said that he thinks of me as a brother and that he thinks I feel the same way. I've seen him with some of his other friends, and he definitely doesn't act the same way as he does with me... With me he's a lot more quiet now, doesn't really even try to talk to me, and just kinda blanks out when I'm talking to him.

I don't know if it's something that I've said or if he is actually moving away from me and i'm just trying to hold onto what little I have left of him. I feel like I like him too much now and he is definitely not feeling the same as I am... I'm really kinda depressed now...

[Sosaku]

maybe someone is picking on him fo rbeing so close to you, bring up homosexuality, and see what he says, if he asks if you are, say you dont know...because you dont, you just seem to like him...really good luck, and make the most of it...dont be depressed, just try your best, worst case senario, he says no(mainly)

[OutOfOrder]

Thanks for the reply! Me and him have talked about homosexuality before... We both said that we are straight and that we are accepting of homosexuals because that doesn't really define someone as a certain type of category. Somehow we did eventually end up talking about one of us being "the guy" and both of us were arguing that the other was the "the girl" (we both wanted to be "the guy").

I don't know if he was just trying to be funny and go along with what I was saying, or if he actually meant what he was saying. We haven't talked about this topic since then though... (This happened last week).

[Sosaku]

bring it up, then after joking around about who is the girl/guy, ask him if he is serious....hopefully that will work

[OutOfOrder]

Hey, thanks for the reply. I met him on Sunday but wasn't able to talk about this at all... Something else came up and now I don't think anything else matters except solving that issue first...

[Sosaku]

you will get there, i believe that :D

[OutOfOrder]

Haha, thanks for the vote of confidence! We were just texting and I said something about us being good friends and my friend replied saying "Lets hope ur not turning gay. If u r u can tell me. Just making that clear." What does that mean? Like seriously?

[Alaph]

Hey,

I am a 16 year old male and I'm having some trouble figuring out my sexuality right now. I have had two girlfriends before and have always found girls attractive.

About a month ago, one of my close friends and I had a sleepover at his house. We didn't have much room on the floor, so we decided to just sleep in his bed. We had to stay really close together to be able to stay on the bed, but it wasn't too close that we were touching. In the middle of the night, I woke up and found that he was pressed against me, his ass against my penis, but I didn't think much of it. I woke up again, and found that we were pressed against each other with our chests together and our mouths within a couple inches of each other. I just moved away and fell back asleep.

After that night, I began to notice his ass and legs a lot and found that I wasn't looking at girls anymore. I wasn't attracted like this to any other guys, just this one friend.

This last weekend, we were at another friend's house and were working on Garageband. We didn't have enough seats for all us, so my friend decided to sit on me. At first he sat halfway on my legs, but soon moved all the way up. I got an erection, which he felt on his ass but he didn't move away. I was feeling a bit cold so I put my hands inside the pockets of his sweater and pulled him up against me so my chest was touching his back. Pretty soon, one of my hands was in the back pocket of his jeans and the other was on his waist.

After we went home later that day, I sent him a text asking if the whole thing was awkward, and he replied that he didn't think it was. We all made a video on that day and one of the scenes was him crawling and the camera was looking at his ass. When I was watching the video, I got an erection and wanted to "do it" really badly...

I'm not attracted to any other guys at all, just this one friend... I am still attracted to girls. I'm not sure what this means for me. I'm just wondering if I'm gay, bi, or just confused right now... Can anyone help me out?

Could be bi, or just confused.

[OutOfOrder]

Could be bi, or just confused.

Yea, I'm not attracted to any other guys... Just this one friend... I'm assuming that it's just me being curious... Also, we were just texting and I said something about us being good friends and my friend replied saying "Lets hope ur not turning gay. If u r u can tell me. Just making that clear." What does that mean? Like seriously?

[Sosaku]

Sounds like he wants you to tell him, and by hope not, he can FEEL that you kind of like him, but he isn't sure how to react

[OutOfOrder]

Yea, we texted each other today and talked for about 2.5 hours. He ended by saying he had to go to dinner and that he loved me. I said the same thing back to him. I don't know where this is going to go now, but I feel like I made some progress.

[Rodeo]

Dude I think that you are normal puberty does wierd stuff to us and so I say you are just curious

[OutOfOrder]

Dude I think that you are normal puberty does wierd stuff to us and so I say you are just curious

Yea, I would agree with you (since I still find girls attractive and I don't like any other guys). I kinda want to see where this will take me though... Like today we texted each other today and talked for about 2.5 hours. He ended by saying he had to go to dinner and that he loved me. I said the same thing back to him. I don't know where this is going to go now, but I feel like I made some progress.

[John Marston]

OutOfOrder, what you first said sounds like two fun situations:D

Nonetheless, your a teenager so you shouldn't really know if your gay or straight or bi just yet. I'm attracted to a guy, mostly emotionally but some physically, and i'm 15. I say that I love him but I'm not sure. In fact, I think it's just my hormones.

In any case, I hope this works out for you. And remember, if you need to talk to him then YOU should be the one to bring it up. No matter how hard it is. And if it all turns to custard you can use one of the good old fallbacks like "LOL Just Kidding xD" or "Oh good, because I'm not gay and didn't want to upset if you were coming onto me (or something like that)" etc.

Hope I helped :)

[OutOfOrder]

OutOfOrder, what you first said sounds like two fun situations:D

Nonetheless, your a teenager so you shouldn't really know if your gay or straight or bi just yet. I'm attracted to a guy, mostly emotionally but some physically, and i'm 15. I say that I love him but I'm not sure. In fact, I think it's just my hormones.

In any case, I hope this works out for you. And remember, if you need to talk to him then YOU should be the one to bring it up. No matter how hard it is. And if it all turns to custard you can use one of the good old fallbacks like "LOL Just Kidding xD" or "Oh good, because I'm not gay and didn't want to upset if you were coming onto me (or something like that)" etc.

Hope I helped :)

Wow, that is really great advice! I didn't think about doing that... Thanks a lot! I'll try this out when we are both alone and have time to talk and let you guys know what happens.

Also, some more information that might help:

Whenever we meet each other, we always sit right next to each other (as in our legs are touching and we sometimes are leaning against each other). Sometimes he sits in front of me, so I put my legs around him from the back and lean on his back and like put my hands on the middle of his thighs and just like rub them a little. But as soon as an adult or a friend comes in, we always stop and sit a lot further apart. He says it's because "they might notice how close we are sitting and might think that we're gay".

I don't know if he's just a really good and nice friend where he will let me do all this, or if he actually likes me a little (I doubt this one because he just said that he doesn't want to seem gay to anyone). Any thoughts?

[Sosaku]

Its difficult being a teenager, and being gay/bi at the same time...peer pressure makes it seem bad or wrong. And to tell the truth, it can get kind of embarassing...(i live at school, so you are around your "other" all the time even the straight relationships are like EWWWW but the with the same sex relationships, people are like awww lol but ANYWAY) He if doesn't want to "seem" gay, maybe he HAS to "stay straight" due to his family, or social standing...now, with joking and saying something like "Oh good, because I'm not gay and didn't want to upset if you were coming onto me" because there COULD be someone around to hear you, and they may think you are an open minded person and then lose faith in ALL people hindering them comming out...so personally I wouldn't say this(however i'm out at school, so...anyway, i digress) Just be careful, with how he acts with you now, he obviously ISN"T homophobic, he may seem weirded out if he IS straight, but i'm sure even after a while, he wouldn't care....i mean TECHNICALLY, you are still you, he just knows a little more...

and if he says something that YOU would know is the end of your friendship, then make him think, (if he is straight) ask him if it takes as much Strength and Courage to tell a friend you are straight...I mean really, LGBTQAPO(a friend wants me to put them all so i hope i got them) people MUST be strong, to deal with what alot of people put them through....but ONLY if you will never be friends again...because then you may be friends when he thinks about it...

[OutOfOrder]

Yea, I mean we both enjoy each other's company a lot and we always have fun when we see each other. Yea, he told me his parents don't want him to turn out gay, so that's probably why he makes it seem like he's not at all. I think they might suspect that something is going on between me and him since they don't let him come to sleepovers with me and my friends anymore... They always claim that he got sick or that he has homework to do (he says that they just don't want him to go).

I'll also try to be careful with what I say... I want this whole thing to work out for everyone... And if it doesn't then I hope we can stay good friends at least!

[Sosaku]

When u WANT to tell him, quit thinking, say what you feel, practice though, its kind of difficult to know what you REALLY feel, (especially me, i'm an empath, so i have to discern my feelings from others anyway i digress) but if he is intelligent at all,(not calling him stupid) then he will know you are speaking from your heart

[OutOfOrder]

When u WANT to tell him, quit thinking, say what you feel, practice though, its kind of difficult to know what you REALLY feel, (especially me, i'm an empath, so i have to discern my feelings from others anyway i digress) but if he is intelligent at all,(not calling him stupid) then he will know you are speaking from your heart

Alright, yea! This is great advice!

I'm also wondering what you all think about why his parents won't let him sleepover? We used to have sleepovers quite often, but recently his parents say that he has homework or projects. He says that he wants to come, but that his parents don't want him to. I'm wondering if his parents are getting suspicious of us?

[Sosaku]

That i can't really say, i mean if i new like small details, i could make a hypothesis about it...then think and give you my theory (yes, i am a science nerd...), but i dont know those things, i mean, does he REALLY have those things? oh and im sure you have tried but if they say he has homework, say you'll help him with it/you need need help with your's....If they say he is sick, (if you don't easily get sick) just say that you don't get sick, and it isn't a problem...but they could think ya'll are too old, and you may be doing something...people who fear "the gay disease" (as i've heard it...) suspect people who have sleepovers, to be doing that.

[OutOfOrder]

That i can't really say, i mean if i new like small details, i could make a hypothesis about it...then think and give you my theory (yes, i am a science nerd...), but i dont know those things, i mean, does he REALLY have those things? oh and im sure you have tried but if they say he has homework, say you'll help him with it/you need need help with your's....If they say he is sick, (if you don't easily get sick) just say that you don't get sick, and it isn't a problem...but they could think ya'll are too old, and you may be doing something...people who fear "the gay disease" (as i've heard it...) suspect people who have sleepovers, to be doing that.

Yea, I mean I know that he doesn't have homework when his parents say he does because I usually text him asking if he's free before asking his parents. And I've already tried the "I don't get sick" method before... His parents just say that they don't want to get my parents sick... I mean at this point, I've just stopped inviting him over to sleepovers with my other friends because his parents have said "no" so many times in a row. Whenever we are at parties and he asks to sleepover, and his parents (obviously) say no, he gets all depressed and doesn't talk to anyone, besides me, for the rest of the party...

I kinda do think that his parents are trying to keep him away from me for some reason... I'm not sure if it's because they are getting suspicious that something might be going on (which it's obviously not)... Or if they are saying no because they want him to start hanging out with other friends? (Although he hasn't made much progress in making other friends without me around).

I'm really not sure what's up with the parents, but if things work out between us, I guess I'll be fine just seeing him around at parties and we can continue doing the stuff we normally do and have a lot more fun! I'm thinking about telling him how I feel this Sunday when we meet each other at a party. Any thoughts on this idea?

p.s. Lots of thanks to Sosaku, you've really helped me along this whole thing dude, I really appreciate it!

[Sosaku]

Thanks for the thanks lol, and Nice, really i think you should tell him, i hope it works out, just bring up homosexuality in general, then judge what you say by his reactions. And remember, you'll be terrified or so high on adrenaline it won't matter lol. But do what you feel, (besides anything sexual unless he consents) I'm sure he will understand.

[OutOfOrder]

Thanks for the thanks lol, and Nice, really i think you should tell him, i hope it works out, just bring up homosexuality in general, then judge what you say by his reactions. And remember, you'll be terrified or so high on adrenaline it won't matter lol. But do what you feel, (besides anything sexual unless he consents) I'm sure he will understand.

Yea, I hope this goes really well! I've become really attracted to him over the last couple of weeks and it's getting to a point where I dream about him too. I really hope he feels the same about me and that after I tell him how I feel we can go somewhere with it.

I don't know what to do if he completely rejects me though... I know that he is an open guy so he probably won't judge. What should I do if he doesn't feel the same way about me?

[Sosaku]

well, that's what we all face. (even heterosexuals) Men hate rejection, its their WORST fear. it will hurt, i wont lie. It will hurt like a knife has gone through your heart. But you can let that be the end. Since you know how you feel about it, and he doesn't feel the same, then try to find someone else, and just be friends. i dream about this one guy, but i dont even have the courage to talk to him. I'm too afraid.(kinda redundant i know) I wish you luck, but with all we've said use it, and dont think...Trust your instincts, you were born to be strong, EVERY human is. But as we get older we begin to think and get farther from emotions, our emotions helped us survive Thousands of years ago, and no matter what adults say, Thinking is NOT the best, it only hinders others.

[OutOfOrder]

Wow, that's great advice! Yea, I'll definitely try to find the perfect time to just tell him what I am feeling right now. I really hope that he feels the same way so we can go somewhere. If not, then I hope he's not too creeped out to still be friends with me. I hope that if I tell him, and if he rejects it (sadly) then things between us won't change... I'll let you know how it goes after I see him on Sunday. Thanks again for all your help!

[sdude]

I have a real straight friend that sits on me on the couch all the time...he likes being close to me and we have a good time, I know he is straight, so I just enjoy the closeness he brings and his friendship...

[Sosaku]

great, i'm actually curious to see how it turns out(i love experiments, and this could technically be one...although i dont want it to be....yea i'm a curious person) and i'm actually glad i could help, usually i'm helping my friends with their hetero-relationships, because the guy does something stupid...and i keep the girl calm, by talking about guys lol, we have about the same taste in men lol, another wants to take me to some concert, i told her she has to have Adam Lambert performing...and Taylor Lautner as my date...if she can get Taylor to ask me out, omg i'd do anything. (No sexual reference) anyway glad i am helping you.

[OutOfOrder]

I have a real straight friend that sits on me on the couch all the time...he likes being close to me and we have a good time, I know he is straight, so I just enjoy the closeness he brings and his friendship...

Oh, yea. Do you think I am maybe I'm trying to dig too deep into our friendship?

great, i'm actually curious to see how it turns out(i love experiments, and this could technically be one...although i dont want it to be....yea i'm a curious person) and i'm actually glad i could help, usually i'm helping my friends with their hetero-relationships, because the guy does something stupid...and i keep the girl calm, by talking about guys lol, we have about the same taste in men lol, another wants to take me to some concert, i told her she has to have Adam Lambert performing...and Taylor Lautner as my date...if she can get Taylor to ask me out, omg i'd do anything. (No sexual reference) anyway glad i am helping you.

Haha. Yea, I'll definitely let you guys all know how it goes! I really hope that even if he doesn't feel the same way, that we can still be just as good friends without things getting all weird... That's just the best of the worst case scenarios... I really want things to work out between us!!

[canyon]

Hey,

I am a 16 year old male and I'm having some trouble figuring out my sexuality right now. I have had two girlfriends before and have always found girls attractive.

About a month ago, one of my close friends and I had a sleepover at his house. We didn't have much room on the floor, so we decided to just sleep in his bed. We had to stay really close together to be able to stay on the bed, but it wasn't too close that we were touching. In the middle of the night, I woke up and found that he was pressed against me, his ass against my penis, but I didn't think much of it. I woke up again, and found that we were pressed against each other with our chests together and our mouths within a couple inches of each other. I just moved away and fell back asleep.

After that night, I began to notice his ass and legs a lot and found that I wasn't looking at girls anymore. I wasn't attracted like this to any other guys, just this one friend.

This last weekend, we were at another friend's house and were working on Garageband. We didn't have enough seats for all us, so my friend decided to sit on me. At first he sat halfway on my legs, but soon moved all the way up. I got an erection, which he felt on his ass but he didn't move away. I was feeling a bit cold so I put my hands inside the pockets of his sweater and pulled him up against me so my chest was touching his back. Pretty soon, one of my hands was in the back pocket of his jeans and the other was on his waist.

After we went home later that day, I sent him a text asking if the whole thing was awkward, and he replied that he didn't think it was. We all made a video on that day and one of the scenes was him crawling and the camera was looking at his ass. When I was watching the video, I got an erection and wanted to "do it" really badly...

I'm not attracted to any other guys at all, just this one friend... I am still attracted to girls. I'm not sure what this means for me. I'm just wondering if I'm gay, bi, or just confused right now... Can anyone help me out?

I get what you're going through. It doesn't necessarily mean that you're bisexual, rather just attracted to your friend. You're going through puberty so your hormones are all out of whack. This is the case with my cousin and I. He's 2 years younger than me and we always play around and stuff. I usually get an erection when he sits on my lap and I know he can feel it through my clothes, but he doesn't say anything about it. It's just the kind of relationship that we have.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. You're a teenager, so this is the time for you to be experimenting.

[tyler007]

Wow you have come along way in a month, and it looks like things are starign to work out for you. Sosaku has given you great advice too. Im sorry about the sleep over think and that his parents are being dicks.
I wish you all the luck today, in what every you tell him. :)

[Sosaku]

Wow you have come along way in a month, and it looks like things are starign to work out for you. Sosaku has given you great advice too. Im sorry about the sleep over think and that his parents are being dicks.
I wish you all the luck today, in what every you tell him. :)

Thank you! and i wish you luck to, and courage, lots of that...i don't have the courage to tell the one i like...that i like him...hes a military kid...so i know he'll probably deny it. I know he has a secret that ONLY his closest friends know...and i want to be one of those friends.

[OutOfOrder]

Thanks to everyone!

I basically told my friend today that I really liked him a lot more than he probably knows. He basically got what I was saying and told me that he liked me a lot too! Yay!

We basically just played around like we normally do and had a lot of fun with it! After we got tired, we were both sitting on the bed leaning on each other. I put my hand around his body, basically around his waist. He leaned more on me and my hand slipped into the back pocket of his jeans! I left it there and he didn't say anything, but instead put his hand on my cheeks and was playing around with my face making different facial expressions. As he was doing that, I took my hand out of his pocket and run it around his ass, and it felt so amazing! I was so happy!

We got really close so that our noses were touching and we were looking into each other's eyes. I wanted to just kiss him so badly, it was kinda crazy. Just then we heard someone coming up the stairs so we grabbed some books from the table and pretended to be reading them when our friends came in to call us downstairs for food.

After that, we basically just stayed with our friends, but we were both sitting really close to each other and it was just great! I can't believe that this happened to me after how scared I got before going to this party! Life is looking good now!

Thanks again to everyone who helped me sort out my feelings and what I wanted! Special shout out to Sosaku for helping me throughout the entire process!

[Sosaku]

OMG congratulations!!! I read this earlier today when i was having a bad day, and i had a GREAT day!!! OMG i am so happy, (sorry for saying OMG so much lol) a friend read it over my shoulder and she said congratulations also, and really, i am happy for you, just wish i could use my own advice...

[Mario T]

your just exploring