Theres a catch

[Nevermore]

So my parents are working things out with my psychologist. I used to watch what I'd say to her, and make it sound a lot better then it is. However they are going to talk to her asking her not to tell my parents anything. :) Which is awesome. However there is a catch. Everytime I self harm, I have to tell her and show her. She will only say it to my parents if I need stitches. I just hope my psycologist goes with it. My psychiatrist was pretty kool about it. It was her idea.
However I'm afraid to show her still honestly. I'm afraid because there are a lot of recent cuts. :/ I'm afraid of going too deep by accident. I'm also she'll be angry at me for lying to her for months about not cutting, and she'll just try to lock in me a pysch ward because she's angry at me.
Anyone's psycologist not tell there parents? Were they open to it? How did your psycologist treat you afterward?

[georgiamay]

I've only seen my therapist a few times, but each time she's asked me how many times I've self harmed, and I've been honest. I asked her not to tell my parents, and she said she wouldn't, and so far she hasn't. She didn't seem to react badly to it at all. She probably sees it all the time or something. I think it's a good idea, this way they'll be able to see the extend of your self harm. And I doubt they'll put you in a psych ward, unless they think that if you don't you'll be a danger to yourself, so I wouldn't worry about that.

I've never had to show her my cuts, but I suppose it could be a good thing if you do show you're psychologist your cuts. I mean, it might give you a reason not to do it too deep.

I hope it all goes well, good luck :hug3:

[UnknownError]

I've never been to a psychologist but from what I've seen on VT they seem to have helped alot of people.
And she will stick to her word and not tell your parents. She's a proffessional so she has to keep her promises to you.
Good luck. :)

[Mike321]

I've never personaly seem a psychologist, but one of my friends did for quite a while and, as you probably know they are really helpful in most cases, and I think you've got a pretty good deal there with her.
But I think its best to be as honest as possible with her, it might help her to understand you more, and the chances are she's seen similar things all the time.
And like Georgia said, she won't put you into a psych ward unless your a danger to yourself or others.
I think as a professional she will keep her promise, plus you said she was quite cool about it all too.
Hope this helps

[Nevermore]

Thank you guys. :) I'm still a bit skiddish about it, but I think you guys are right. She'll probably won't lock me up.

[Myrnodin]

A psycologist job is not to lock you up or judge you, remember that at all times. She has no reason for "wanting" to tell your parents whatever you tell her; its just that your parents handle the money, therefore if you need stitches, shes gonna have to tell someone with the money to pay for them. If she says shes not gonna tell them unless its quite severe, you can trust in her word. Discretion is an important part of psycologists training. Try to be completely honest if you wish, technically you can even make her promise not to tell anyone just before every sentence you say... and that kinda binds her. (someone did that to me and im not even graduated yet)

Ofcourse there are mediocre psycologists out there who cant handle anything and have no respect for pacient-therapist discretion, but those are very few.

Words are more powerful than most realize, and they dont even have to be directed at you to change your life...

- Josh

[Nevermore]

I know, but I just feel like she's out to get me. She's a med pusher, and my psychiatrist is even like why is she telling me to keep giving you all these meds, when we need to focus on one thing at a time. They supposedly work together, but I feel as if they don't tell each other anything. She has unfortunately told my parents many things I wish she hadn't. She told me she was going to tell them every time I cut. Which is why I lied to her in the first place. She's threatened to institutionalize me for forgetfulness with school. For school and me forgetting to take my meds. She then recommended that I go to the hospital for a bit on two other occasions. For nothing! I'm like really? DX I just feel like she doesn't listen to me, she's literally all over the place, I've told my close guy friend (I mentioned about him in the other post) about her, and he said she was crazy. Very true, but before it was if you even scratch yourself, or think about it, tell me, and then I'll tell your parents. I try to be honest with her I do, but it's hard. I mean I will now if she will swear not to tell. Wow, I didn't know that. :) I'm going to try that.
Thank you again Josh. :)

[Eagle63]

I don't enjoy therapy as much as the next guy (anger issues), but one thing I know is that they're not out to get you. They're there to help you. And if you still don't trust them, you can message me if you need to talk.