Gay??

[Infidelitas]

I'm gay but havnt come out yet. How can I do it??

[Fact]

Puberty -> Sexuality

If you're worried about coming out, you might wanted to start with a close friend that you trust. That way, you can talk about it to them and it might make you feel less nervous about telling other people and hopefully, eventually, your family.

[PJay]

Everyones family and situation is different so its difficult to give a step by step guide.

Don't do it until you are ready. But its worth it so you can be yourself, so it can be short term pain for long term gain.

All you have to do is say "i am gay" , but its hard to make those 3 words come out. Probably worth making sure you are tight with your parents, spend some time with them. You could start out by telling them (or just 1 of them) that you have something you want to talk about, but your not ready yet. That kind of gives you a little step forward.

There are a lot of bad coming out stories out there that makes it feel like its going to end up like some soap opera episode but dont let that put you off. If it helps, I came out to my sis then parents but we're all close so that wasn't too scary. I came out at school last year. I'm glad I did but school was a bit odd for a while, but totally worth it now because i can be myself around my bf. My bf came out to his parents when he told them about me a couple of months ago and was really scared about it. His Dad was fine but I think his mum isn't totally ok but i think thats mainly about worrying about him getting bullied or something. It all worked out even though he thought it wouldn't, and i've even been staying over with him over the holidays.

Good luck!

[Infidelitas]

I think i might do it in a couple of weeks. Thanks heaps for the advice

[tyler007]

I like PJay1's advice... but remember while you may have be thinking about this for a while, (i hope so) it might come as a total shock to your parents. So be ready to give them some space and time to think about what you have just told them. Some ppl say that moms and dads already know, and other say there the last to find out. I wish you the best of luck, for when you do decided to come out. I have watched a few youtube stories. ( my coming out story... )so you can always go there for some more advice

[LilTurtle]

start by telling one friend... someone u can trust. after u tell one its easy to tell more. its the 1st one that is tough. after your done with the friends you can put in on ur fb to let everyone else know. than i would tell my folks. thats the way i did it and it work out fine with me.

just remember.... be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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[tyler007]

start by telling one friend... someone u can trust. after u tell one its easy to tell more. its the 1st one that is tough. after your done with the friends you can put in on ur fb to let everyone else know. than i would tell my folks. thats the way i did it and it work out fine with me.

just remember.... be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.

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I think this is good advice,
if your 100% sure your gay, and its not just a phase: its kind of hard to take it back when you tell the world. BUT if you do know for sure then you should be happy.... So tell your trusted freind and see how it goes.

Because what hells wrung with expressing yourself?
Being who you want to be?

NOTHING

[Ihaveleftforever]

^EXACATLY CORRECT^
If you are for sure then start by telling someone you love and trust, work your way up as your ready to tell.
Don't be ashamed

[James94]

I think this is good advice,
if your 100% sure your gay, and its not just a phase: its kind of hard to take it back when you tell the world.

Indeed, that would be my advice, make sure that you are completely certain of your sexuality, and that you won't regret telling anyone, because, as above, once you've said it, it's very hard work and takes a long time to go back on yourself.

[Fourth Dimension]

I found that telling your female friends first is easier they are more understanding and I first told my friend amber my freshman year and basically told all my friends freshman year not I'm working up the courage to tell my family so I wish you luck with you situation and remember if the are your true friends they will still love you for who you are

[Infidelitas]

I found that telling your female friends first is easier they are more understanding and I first told my friend amber my freshman year and basically told all my friends freshman year not I'm working up the courage to tell my family so I wish you luck with you situation and remember if the are your true friends they will still love you for who you are

The only problem with that for me is that i dont know any girls. It just feels awkward to me for some reason, i dont know why

[Lights]

I found that telling your female friends first is easier they are more understanding and I first told my friend amber my freshman year and basically told all my friends freshman year not I'm working up the courage to tell my family so I wish you luck with you situation and remember if the are your true friends they will still love you for who you are

I've found things the same. Girls understand it a heck of a lot more. Boys just find it awkward. If you say you're gay to them, they automatically assume you fancy them. -.-

It's a very difficult thing to do, coming out. I haven't done it myself (to many people) because I can't face it. I wish I had the guts, but I don't. So although I don't have the best advice for coming out to family, try watching some 'Coming out' YouTube videos which might give you some confidence. And of course, there are threads all around VT which might make you feel better.
Let me know how things go for you!

[willrod]

The only problem with that for me is that i dont know any girls. It just feels awkward to me for some reason, i dont know why

What I would do is just casually ask some of your close friends how they feel about gay rights, and gays in general. It can be a pretty normal question, like "What do you think about gay marriage?" or "How would you react if your brother/sister told you they're gay?" That usually gives you a pretty good feel on how your friends feel about gays. And, if they speak strongly in favor for gay rights and stuff, you could probably just tell them right then and there, or you could wait if it's uncomfortable for you. But unless you're certain that your family is accepting of gays, you should come out to your friends first- that way you have a support network to help you come out to others, as well as someone to fall back on if things don't work out well with your family.

I hope this helps!

[Infidelitas]

Just to let everyone know, I came out tonight. It feels like a weight has been lifted off of my shoulders. My parents said that they had ideas about it

[Tristin.]

Congratulations!!!!

[grstl]

:yeah: WOW!! Congratulations.............Now id I could just be as brave as you!
Keep on enjoying just being you!

[tyler007]

:woot: HEY THATS AWESOME,, :woot:

I hope it all goes well for you and the way you planed it out.

[jason123]

Congrats. Event though i am str8 i am for Gay rights

[phily08]

tell a friend first then tell your parents.

[TheBlackRose321]

I would tell my best friend first then go down the list. It's not all that bad. Be confident :)