Somebody please answer this.

[smovexmente]

So I made the decision to stop eating so much and eat healthy. It's kinda like detoxing, because I can't have what I want and I'm angry and in tears all the time.

And now my parents are yelling at me. My mom, in particular, keeps telling me I'm a failure. And now I'm starting to wonder if I really am. I already deal with her telling me I'm fat. I believe it now. I've started to blame everything on myself. Everything that goes wrong is now my fault because I'm a failure. I feel like I'm never going to be any good at anything because I'm such a failure. I'm never going to get through med school and I'm never going to get married. Everything I've dreamed of is going to end up being a disaster because I'm fat, lazy, and a failure. I'm never going to amount to anything because I'm no good. If I can't be good enough in my parents eyes, whose eyes can I be good enough in? I understand that Mom wants the best for me. But does that mean that constantly telling me that I'm fat and lazy and a failure is going to get me going to prove her wrong? Because it won't. It only makes me thing that she's right.

And now she's telling my dad that everything is my fault with this afternoon. But it wasn't. I couldn't print those pictures out with my computer, and I tried to explain that I got them printed out, but she said (and I quote), "I don't want to hear it."

She is now saying that it is all about choices. She's making the choice not to listen to me. And I hate it. She keeps interrupting me. I'm crying. She cares so much that she wants me to not be a failure by telling me repeatedly I'm a failure. I hate it.

I don't know what to do. When I try to talk to her she yells at me, and she'll tell me in the same breath not to let people walk all over me. But if I do anything to stand up for myself, I'll get yelled at, and told to shut up. I get so angry and so hurt because I can't even defend myself. She says she can't wait until I get out of the house and go to college, and she says WHEN I flunk out, I'll not be welcome back home.

It's getting so bad that I don't want to come home. I don't know what to do. Somebody please talk to me, because I can't detox and go through hell and back by myself.

[Fiction]

Well first of all, careful what you do with this detoxing. Don't let it turn into an eating disorder because that would NOT help your situation in the slightest, it would make it worse.

You are only a failure if you let yourself be, I used to think exactly like you, I still do sometimes, but I realised that only I can decide if I fail or not.

If you listen to her, as you said, you will fail. You seem to have realised that it's just her saying it. Don't let her get to you and control your life. It's your life, you do what you want with it.

[Magenta]

Sometimes, family can be a terrible thing. I have no contact with my mother and have a horrible relationship with my father and his new family. I know how hard it can be. But I've learned that I don't have to be perfect in their eyes. Neither do you. Sometimes you have to tough it out for awhile and remember that there are still people who love you and think you are good enough. I do. I know you cannot see me and may never meet me but I do think you are an amazing person.

Keep this in mind until you can leave your family. What I've learned over the years is that you can pick your friends, not your family. However, after awhile, those friends you pick become your new family. You will be happy. It will take time but you will find that silver lining.

I'm always here to talk to if you need me. :)

[Dunce]

It's not your fault your mother see's you like this, it's her own. No mother should see their child as a failure.
No matter what your parents think of you, they don't know you as well as you know yourself. Your dreams are your own, and you don't need your parents to achieve them. I know it's hard to break away from your parents but if you ever wanted to move far away from home at least you wont have to worry about hurting your parents.
You're not a failure, hang onto your dreams.

[smovexmente]

Thank you, ladies. I really appreciate you supporting me. It's actually pretty nice to know that people can care about you without knowing you. :)

[eatthis9999]

A long time since i had Anything to Do with people feeling a Failure

Last Person who was like this i had to help was close to killing themselves so i will keep it simple

If You are to be Happy You have to aim high and have your intensions set firmly on say these goals will be true you have to convince yourself you can be the best you that you can be. Set your Goals then split them up into smaller goals like in school you want to be A+ and your only C at the mo aim for a B, Then an A make it more manageable. The most important thing keep saying i am not a Failure i can achieve and i will achieve. Once you set your goals dont change them and keep to them. This is what sucess is not what other people think. Dont let other people tell you what you are. You know what you are

:)

[polkagurl]

this is coming from a once overweight young girl... i was ALWAYS made fun of. ALWAYS. i hated going to school. and i get to witness what is going on with you, with my sister on a day to day basis. i am on your side, it is terrible what your parents are doing, especially ignoring you, that's completely unneccessary and you should speak to them about that and that you have a voice. but this is what they are thinking, they think you will NOT listen to them unless they use negativity. unfortunately with my own sister - we have to use negativity or she won't even excersise. i'm sure that is what your parents are thinking, talk to them and tell them you are trying. be careful on dieting - if you want a tip - i suggest GREEN TEA ! eat whatever you like, not over portioned and drink around 5 - 6 cups daily. i lost 20 pounds and had a beautiful grad dress. also try to excersise, run, and do crunches ! they really work ! eating habits are important but if you excersise and eat the right fooods that strengthen metalbolism you will be thinning out before you know it ! good luck and remember talk to your parents, tell them how you feel and you will be fine ! good luck !