Need a li'l help please... I won't believe anymore

[Guitar Boy]

Hey everyone....
First of all sorry for my english it's bad...


So i have this BIG problem in my family......It's have something to do with our religion.....

We are christiants....We went to church every week......We pray a lot...etc

But in my life journey i find out that i have no reason to believe in christianity anymore...(but i still pretend to believe)

Several weeks ago my mom finds out that i'm no longer beleive in christianity.... (i still believe in god, but i don't believe christianity anymore)

And since that, my mom seems to really hates me....

I'm confused and i said to her that i still believe in god...but just i believe in my own way....

My mom keep asking me for the reason i won't believe anymore....

And i think i have a pretty strong reason.....



I think christiantity is SO FEMINIME...

In the church we've been told to SHARE, LOVE, GIVE, FORGIVE, etc...

But we've never told to ASK SOMETHING BACK

For me it's not make sense at all....If all humans act like that the Male gender wouldn't exists...

And i think Christanity only good for female but it's not very good for male...

This is because Male and female are very different....

Male perceive each others as "enemies" (not real enemies)
I mean it's like some kind of "competitors"
And we tend to set our independence area....
And if something or someone interupt our area we will and must fight back.

For females it's a very diferent story...

Females tend to share things amongs them....
Girls share about boys they love...
Woman told each other about their husband behaviour..

So it's clear FOR ME that church is fit for females but not very good for males.....


So i need some advice...should i still go to church ??? Coz until now everytime i went there with no reason ...i just "pretending" that i'm believe...
And i'm sick of it....

Please somebody help me....

[Sebastian Michaelis]

just do what makes your mom happy until your 18 or move out

[ProBaller40]

Everyone has their right to what they believe, and she should know that. She will probably just be disappointed for a while. Talk to her.
And about your reason.. being male doesn't mean you have to fight all the time, and be "enemies" to other people.
I dont know how old you are, but I hope you stop believing society's definition of a man and woman. I do not care for sports and am not violent, but Im not all about love and hearts. And I know for a fact there are girls who like to play sports and are not all lovey.
Just my opinion, not trying to argue or anything.

[XxHaViiK]

I don't exactly share the exact same perspective as you, but it's similar. My dad is a heavy christian, and he always tries to push his religion on me. Basically, he thinks his religion is the only right one. If I was to label myself under a certain religion, it would probably be Roman Catholic, but I don't share all of the perspectives of the Catholic Church, so I don't label myself as being a member.

Basically this; everyone has the right to their own religion. Believe in God how you think he should be believed in.

[Quick_Sylver]

Woah. Wait a minute here. You're saying its not "manly" to be good to others? That its feminine and "weak"? A bit of a male superiority complex in a male dominated religion, dont ya think? And sharing and giving and forgiving? Thats being a strong and compassionate person, not being "female". Being macho like this? Its not going to get you anywhere easily. Im not being argumentative, Im being honest on my opinion on your opinion.

But in total, sit your mother down and tell her, CALMLY how you feel. Explain your thoughts on the matter and be honest. This'll encourage her to do the same, just discuss it properly.

[disassociation2016]

Wow, I don't think I can conjure up an appropriate response to this. Religion is a great way to learn good values. Obviously you feel that you are to manly to act decent and give or share? Why has everything got to be a competition or struggle over things? Why can't you share your feelings?

Honestly I think that you have an issue with the values being taught more then believing, and they might do you some good instead of using gender roles to say your above any of it.

[Trevoooor]

I think christiantity is SO FEMINIME...

Even with your explanation, I have trouble understanding why you think this.

Religion knows no gender.

[Craig1995]

I think you should believe in what ever you want to but I also don't think christianity is very feminine and I kinda think you should really decide upon what is best for you and your situation.