Boyfriends: Is it okay?

[LadyRhiannon]

Hello, I am a 14 year old girl. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two months. I am finding myself caught up in a few other guys, just because of having feelings for them before I started dating this new guy.

A few questions:
1. Is it okay to sext/flirt-text when you are in a relationship?
2. Is talking about masterbation and "personal sexual things" with a different guy ok, when you do not talk to your boyfriend about it?

I have loyalty issues, as I have cheated on every one of my boyfriends thus far. I am trying really hard to not make the same mistakes. Please help!

[Sage]

A few questions:
1. Is it okay to sext/flirt-text when you are in a relationship?
2. Is talking about masterbation and "personal sexual things" with a different guy ok, when you do not talk to your boyfriend about it?

With both, it really depends on how open the two of you want the relationship to be. If I were in a relationship, I'd be okay with it being entirely open, in that my girlfriend could even sleep with other people and it would not bother me. However, everyone has their own preference, and your boyfriend might feel jealous or uncomfortable if you're being flirty or intimate with other people. The only way to figure out what's okay in your relationship is to talk to your boyfriend and be open about these things. If you want to do these things with other guys and your boyfriend disapproves of it, then you should find someone willing to practice a more open type of relationship.

[Rutherford The Brave]

1. No.
2. No.

You should probably stop fucking around.

[Sage]

1. No.
2. No.

You should probably stop fucking around.

It depends who you're with.

[Kelsey123]

no you are 14, far too young to date

[Sage]

no you are 14, far too young to date

I dated when I was 14. It last seven or eight months and ended quietly. There's nothing wrong with dating at 14, it's just unlikely to work out in the long run.

[XxHaViiK]

Really depends who you're with. Really, you need to ask your BF. Personally, I'd be downright pissed the hell off. But that's just me.

[Aves]

Personally, I'd be a bit pissed if my girlfriend was talking about that with other guys. But that's just me.

[The Joker]

Hello, I am a 14 year old girl. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost two months. I am finding myself caught up in a few other guys, just because of having feelings for them before I started dating this new guy.

A few questions:
1. Is it okay to sext/flirt-text when you are in a relationship?
2. Is talking about masterbation and "personal sexual things" with a different guy ok, when you do not talk to your boyfriend about it?

I have loyalty issues, as I have cheated on every one of my boyfriends thus far. I am trying really hard to not make the same mistakes. Please help!

1. Well, it really depends on the case. I don't find flirt texting bad at all, if it's mostly PG-13. Sexting is another story. I'm not against people showing their genitals to a consenting person, I'm more worried the person you show/send them too may spread the images or messages around, which is presumably something you don't want.

2. While I think it's fine to do this with permission, I also think you should at least also be talking about these kinds of things with your boyfriend. That's called being a tease.

Or you could become a polygamist!

[ProBaller40]

1. No, I would be pissed. That's a version of cheating.
2. No, you should be comfortable talking about that with your boyfriend, but if not, I would only bring it up with a guy like once, and that's it. If you do it more than once, he might think your flirting on him, or want to spend time with him.

[Arantor]

No. If you're going to cheat on him then just break up with him. If you care about him at all, you will. Cheating hurts a lot more than being dumped.

[notsure101]

Both 1 and 2. No

If ya keep doin what your doin hes gonna find out and break up with you.

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Im sorry but i hate people who cheat >.>
If you cant stay loyle why be with someone ?!
Just stay single and save the person the heart break !!
But as for you question
i would sexting / flirt text with other guys !
This is practically cheating and illegal (Sexting) its classed as child pornography
But with the masturbation thing
i dont think this is to bad i have guy friends who im very close to
and it can sometimes be awkward talking to your bf about it !

[Arantor]

Im sorry but i hate people who cheat >.>
If you cant stay loyle why be with someone ?!
Just stay single and save the person the heart break !!
But as for you question
i would sexting / flirt text with other guys !
This is practically cheating and illegal (Sexting) its classed as child pornography
But with the masturbation thing
i dont think this is to bad i have guy friends who im very close to
and it can sometimes be awkward talking to your bf about it !

Exactly. Being cheated on is the worst feeling. Ever.

[Bluesman]

1.No
2.No

If that's what you're doing come clean about it and end the relationship. If you can't stay loyal, then don't date. I know it sounds harsh but it's that simple.

no you are 14, far too young to date

I'd have to disagree... it all depends on how mature you are. You'll have 14 years olds that can pass for 17 and then some who can pass for 10... the wonders of puberty :) I started dating last year when I was 13 and I was perfectly happy. It just probably won't last... if anyone thinks that their "childhood sweetheart" will end up as their wife, then they're smoking something.

[mranderson]

aprsolutly not, end ur relationship or stop pissin around with other guys

[Jess]

#1, #2. No.

you should stop, as the others said. stay loyal to just your bf

[Weeping]

Stay loyal, or leave him.

[CMEBACH]

heres the deal so many people are say no dont its cheating but not really. its flirting so long as nothing serrious comes from it it's just inncoent flirting the sexting dependes on your realationship how "open" you are. also think if you'd be unhappy with your boyfriend if he did so.

[Hastro]

Stay loyal, or leave him.

Agreed.

If I was your boyfriend, Id rather you dump me than cheat on me.

[TheSingingBird]

I do both of those. My boyfriend gets a little angry or hurt. Bit it's all good.

[tyler007]

NO its not OK to sextext withsome one else if you dateing sombody
NO its not ok for you to talk to other guys about your masturbation habbits, you should talk to your boy freind about that, not some other guy you want to hook up with.

Just think about for a mintue, would you like it if your boy friend did any of those thing with another girl? My guess is that he would not be your boyfreind for long if he did.

If your going to cheat by doing this when i find out i'll break up with up you, so just dump me before you do.