It just needs to end...

[ktmay96]

What am I going to do? So, my boyfriend. He's a pretty amazing guy, so sweet and all that jazz, and he really likes me. My problem? I'm pretty damn sure I dont like him anymore. When we first started going out, I had my doubts even then if I liked him. After a while, I decided I did like him, I really did. I mean, I for sure wasn't like eternally in love with him, but sure, I liked him. Well about a week ago I starting doubting AGAIN. The thought just kept creeping into my mind. I kept pushing it back, until finally I just couldn't. I assumed it was because I hadn't seen him (because this was while we were on break and I was on vacation). But then I hung out with him Thursday, and my suspicions were confirmed. I didn't get any of those feelings, no butterflies, none of that shit. It was just... empty. Nothing. As if it was just another guy. So now, I know that since I don't have any romantic interest in him at all, there is no point in continuing the relationship.
Plus, I'm sick of being in a relationship. I just want to be single again, to flirt with people, to just have fun. I don't want commitment, not yet.
But what am I going to do? He really really REALLY likes me (and he's kinda clingy. But he has said that he likes me a LOT). Plus its right after christmas, and we have a winter formal dance in 3 weeks (which isn't super close but still, we'd both have to find new dates. I wouldn't have too much of a problem, I would just ask one of my guy friends as a friend). I don't want to hurt him, and this is a bad time, but what else can I do? Theres no way in hell I can continue pretending I like him until after the dance. 3 weeks. No way. Plus that would be leading him on and thats a totally bitchy thing to do, and I dont want to.
So, any advice is appreciated, please and thank you. :)

[maddii-may]

just think about how much you really like him. maybe talk to him about it but just remeber how much its going to hurt him if you end, but you should do whatever feels best. x

[SimSailorNick]

I think you should tell him the truth and if the truth is too hard for him to handle, you should help him through it. OR you could slowly lead him to thinking that you don't like him anymore. Maybe he'll start to not like you that much either and that way, no one really gets hurt.

[ktmay96]

just think about how much you really like him. maybe talk to him about it but just remeber how much its going to hurt him if you end, but you should do whatever feels best. x

thats the thing. i DON'T like him anymore. so staying with him is just as bad i think. and i have been keeping that in mind. thats whats keeping me back, i really really don't want to hurt him. but if i stay with him i'll just be lying to him, pretending that i like him. and its not just him, im not happy with this relationship because i dont like him, plus i don't want the commitment right now. so, i understand it should be done, i was just wondering if it sounded like the right thing to do.

I think you should tell him the truth and if the truth is too hard for him to handle, you should help him through it. OR you could slowly lead him to thinking that you don't like him anymore. Maybe he'll start to not like you that much either and that way, no one really gets hurt.

i agree. im trying to, im distancing myself little by little. but i think i just need to break up with him. by the looks of it, it will take forever for him to catch on, and i dont want to lead him any longer. i think he'll be okay, its not like we've been going out for years, its only been a little over a month.

[affablyeaseful]

The best thing to do would be to let him down gently. Definitely don't lead him on because that can hurt a lot. Also, distancing yourself will just make him confused and it will hurt when you tell him. The best way to do it is to communicate clearly with him.

You just need to sit down with him for a talk and tell him exactly what's on your mind. Tell him that you think he's a really great person and for a while you really enjoyed the relationship and being with him, but that you need something else right now. Make sure he knows it's not personal, it's just that the spark fizzled out. It happens to lots of people at some point, and it's nobody's fault. The chemistry just wasn't there and you're looking to move on. Sure it is unfortunate, and he probably will be upset about it. That doesn't make you a bad person for pursuing what you want though. Your life is about you and doing what makes you happy! There's always the option for friendship if that's something you're interested in with him, and if that's the case you can ask him how you can help him deal with the difficult situation.

Good luck, I hope everything works out for you!