Doesn't understand!

[Meaningless-Darkness]

Spoke to my mum on the phone today about my arms as she noticed the fresher scars on my arms the last time i went to see her. She mentioned how they were a lot worse than when i used to do it. When i replied about having to do more cuts or deeper ones so that it helped like it used to her reply was 'maybe your growing out of it?'
This has made me so angry! Its not something im going to grow out of. Its not like im rebelling or throwing tamtroms. Its NOT A ******* FAZE! Its real and it wont go away no matter how much i want it to! She used to understand when i did it before, now it just seems like she feels im doing it for attention! Why would i do that? No-one even knows i started doing it again apart from the people on this site. I live alone so its not like anyone sees me without clothes to cover them.
It hurts so much to feel that she doesnt believe how much im hurting! After all the years i gave up to care for he when she needed me! Shes never there for me when i need her, she doesnt understand me and it feels like she doesnt care how i feel.
Sorry for the rant, really needed to get that out!

[MadManWithaBox]

Don't be too hard on her. She most likely hasn't experienced this sort of thing of before, and so doesn't understands its not the kind of thing "you grow out of"

She's mostly like scared, and disappointed with herself, and so she's trying to convince herself that you will get over this easily.

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Maybe its her way of coping with worry, she doesnt kno how to react so shes trying to be supportive by saying ur over comming it. Why dont u talk to her about how u feel?

[Bath]

My mom always claimed I did it for attention :/ I know how you feel. It's frustrating. They want to help but they keep saying the wrong things..

[Love.Hate]

Don't worry I got the whole it's a faze thing. Talk to her tell her it's more than just a faze, tell her you need help. She is probably feeling confused by it and is reassuring herself that you are ok and you will grow out of it, maybe she is saying that because she is scared for your safety? And it's better to lie to herself than accept the truth.
Don't take it out on her, she just doesn't understand :/

[Fiction]

If she hasn't gone through self- harm herself it is very unlikely that she will understand. Unfortuantly all you can do is try to get her to understand. Ask her if you can get help. Even if she thinks it's just a phase what's the problem in getting help?
Then maybe you can get your doctor to explain to her about self- harm. It may hit home more if she hears it from a doctor.
Good luck :)

[FullyAlive]

I'm so sorry to here about that I pretty much agree with the advice everyone else has given your mum probably hasn't self harmed so can't understand exactly what you're going through but I'm sure she wants to support you she just doesn't know how. I'd try talking to her again explaining it's not a "phase" and you aren't doing it for attention. Or as Kathy said get someone professional to explain it to her. Whatever you do good luck!! xx

[Meaningless-Darkness]

Thanks everyone!
I have tired talking to her again today about it as she rang about something non-persific, but it was like talking to a brick wall *sigh*. Told her about this website and she didnt understand at first. Once id explained about how lovely everyone was and how supportive you all are, she softened up a bit and just said 'well im glad you're getting the support you need' then changed the subject.
Sounds like she is just kidding herself and shifting responsibility onto other people. Its not really that important. We've grown apart now ive moved out anyway i supose it doesnt really matter that much if she doesnt understand me, its not like she ever has anyway.