I think an appropriate title would be Confusion.

[humanesquire]

Hi. I am a boy, I have a girlfriend. Originally, I thought that I was bisexual, but lately, I've been having confusing thoughts about my gender identity. I'm starting to feel that I'm supposed to be a girl. I've never been very masculine, but whenever, during childhood, I caught myself doing something that was traditionally a feminine thing, I would scold myself. I'm increasingly becoming more attracted to guys. I'm scared to tell my girlfriend any of this. I'm not becoming less attracted to her, just more so to guys. I'd really like some help understanding and accepting, if it be the case, my gender identity. Thank you.

Edit: Previous thread might shed some light, might not. http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=91236

[disassociation2016]

Honestly you were born a guy. Your personality may be a bit different then that of others, but that doesn't mean you are a girl. Guys have traditionally been more masculine, but honestly this is just society. If you were to put a male and female in a new environment with no gender roles who knows how it'd turn out.

You might like guys and you might be gay, but that doesn't make you a girl.

[nick]

Dont rush to any conclusions Will, having some feminine characteristics doesnt make you a transexual. During puberty hormone changes can play havock in all sorts of ways, I would wait a bit longer and see how you feel when things have settled a bit more. In the mean time, just be yourself and go with the flow.

[Craig1995]

Since I came on this site I learned that bi, people swing to preferences quite Alot. What I mean is sometimes there more attracted to the opposite sex then for a while there more attracted to the same sex. U should have a look around some of the other threads there's a lot about that sort of thing here.

Hope I helped :)

[humanesquire]

Maybe. I think I should clarify. I don't think that because I have feminine tendencies that I'm a girl. I have always felt feminine, but haven't really thought about it until recently. I have always related to girls a lot more closely than guys. I'm not sure if I'm being clear enough. But I certainly don't think I'm a girl just because I cross my legs or something..

[disassociation2016]

Maybe. I think I should clarify. I don't think that because I have feminine tendencies that I'm a girl. I have always felt feminine, but haven't really thought about it until recently. I have always related to girls a lot more closely than guys. I'm not sure if I'm being clear enough. But I certainly don't think I'm a girl just because I cross my legs or something..

Honestly if I met you it wouldn't matter. I know understanding yourself is important, but there is nothing wrong with how you are now. Maybe your personality isn't so inclined to masculine things. For the most part I'm pretty versatile I can take interest in pretty much the whole spectrum besides drooling over girls, but this isn't about me. I think you may be looking to deep into what is just you.

[affablyeaseful]

Yeah from what you've told us I don't necessarily think that you're having gender identity questions, but rather that you're questioning your sexuality. There are aspects of our personalities that are both masculine and feminine, and in lots of cases there are guys who tend to display feminine qualities as well, and there's nothing wrong with that.

I was in the same situation as you when I had a girlfriend a couple of years ago. It turned out to be the case that I was just more attracted to guys, and that's what I pursued. If you were to tell your girlfriend you need to be prepared for some negative consequences, but if she really loves you then she should be accepting of this. If I were you I would just wait and go with it, and do what you feel is right for you, and what you want to do. If you love your girlfriend and are still attracted, stay with her. If you find yourself more attracted to guys and wanting to pursue that, then take that direction. Good luck, and I hope everything works out!

[humanesquire]

I don't care about my sexuality. I like who I like. No big deal. I don't feel like I should be a boy.

[Dunce]

I feel the same, starting to question whether I share any charachteristics with other girls at all :P

[cantwebefriends]

What your feeeling is fine you would know and everyone close to you would know if you had a gender identity problem. But it may just you finally realising who you really are and tired of scolding your self and hiding just come to term and be honest with your self helped me! :D

[Sebastian Michaelis]

You might like guys and you might be gay, but that doesn't make you a girl.

yep i agree:yes: