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han_117
December 29th, 2010, 04:20 PM
so i just joined here, today, really to just find some other people who can relate to me, i dont really fancy talking to anyone i know. people who i think i could be honest with, suddenly always change, and im still left here with no one, or thats what it feels like anyway :')
ive always been really conscious of my weight (well, i say conscious, i mean i was always aware of it, no matter what i weighed) from a really young age of about 9, i was well aware that i was easily that largest kid in the school, bt back then it never bothered me, it just was. then i got into high school, and by then i wasnt huge, bt had a fair bit of puppy fat lets say :'} i think it must have been about yr 8 aged 12/13?? when i realised it was really easy to drop a couple of lbs in a week. it was easy, all you had to do was have a weetabix for breakfast, instead of the usual feast of cornflakes, and skip lunch. brilliant. thing was, when it came round to the weekend, i was fed up. all week i was thinking so negatively, about all the things im NOT allowed, that by the time the weekend came round, the chocolate, and cake, and ice cream was all i could think about. i ate so much. and then monday was like a fresh start. next week i could lose another couple of lbs. thing was, it was the same few lbs. every week. fed up, and bored, i kinda layed off myself for a few years, bt always thinking that i was fat, and seeing that in the mirror. im in yr 11 now, and at the start of this year, things kicked off again. i havnt really lost that much weight, its just my way of thinking that is beggining to scare me. i have felt like this before, bt not as bad as this. i feel so out of control, and my head is telling me it knows how to fix it; i know what will happen if i go too far :/
im not under, or overweight, im 9st, give or take my water weight, and measure 5ft 7" tall. normal. bt all i see is fat, and rippling blubber. its horrible.
i always make eating, sleeping, and exercise charts for myself, to try and gain some control; it works for a while, and then i dont get anywhere fast enough, and i always fail.
i do feel WAY out of control at the moment. i have my G.C.S.E's in a couple of months. im predicted all A's, and my mum wont accept any thing less. everyone thinks im perfectly happy, and a high achiever, and everyones telling me that these two years are the most important of my life. ie- no exam results: no job: no life, and im ruined. i do get stressed, bt i just pretend not to give a shit. my friends have told me a couple of times, that i have a really bad attitude towards school, and perhaps i should revise even a little bit?? bt i just cant be arsed really. i always get good grades whether i revise or not, so whats the point. it doesnt make me feel any better, like planning out my eating does, so ive started to do that instead. i dont even know if this is even a problem, ive heard of poeple who are anorexic, and just read blogs on here, and some people have genuine problems, that need help. bt i dont feel that this is a problem, its just sommrthing that i have sort of adapted to do; its me. i feel it could become a problem, bt if i stay in control of it, WHICH IS THE WHOLE POINT, then i shouldnt get to that point?? :'/
i currently weigh 126lbs, and would like to lose at least ten by my birthday in febuary. it shouldnt be too hard. if i focus. i know everything that i have to do, its just a case of doing it :') after christmas is over, i will feel a lot more secure :'}

sorry for ranting on ;P just wanted to get some other peoples input, see what you think?? i dont want to have any problems, bt, am i going that way??
any posts are appreciated!!
cheers xxxx

Fiction
December 29th, 2010, 05:06 PM
I think you do have a problem. Your eating habits aren't normal. You are not fat, as i'm sure you know. I know that what you know and what you feel can sometimes be very different. At your weight, if you wanted to, you could loose a bit of weight in a healthy way.
This sticky may be useful.
http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=20321

I understand how you feel, not feeling skinny enough, but starving yourself is not a good way to loose weight. You don't only loose weight but you cause yourself health problems.
Good luck :)

georgiamay
December 30th, 2010, 05:03 AM
this is a problem. It might not be full blown anorexia, but that doesn't mean things can't develop. If you think like that, then developing an eating disorder is very possible. If you want to lose weight that much, there are ways you can do it, diets and exercise programmes you could follow. Skipping meals doesn't work at all. You should still eat 3 meals a day, no matter what. Loosing 10 pounds will leave you a healthy weight still, so there's no problem with that at all. But please do it in a healthy way? That way you reach your target weight, and you don't get health problems.

Good luck :hug: