help

[cyates]

:( well, i think im bi, but am having trouble admiting it to myself, never mind others.

i usually hang around with girls, as most boys in my year are stupid, and i think im more mature then them, but how would i know if i am bi? also i am very flirty with girls, and kinda like a girl but i have had gay experiences before :/

THANKS FOR ANY ADVICE YOU CAN OFFER.

[Harley Quinn]

Well you said you have had gay experiences, so did you like that? If you did then that would indicate to me that you are indeed bisexual. You said you like a girl, there isn't anything wrong with that, just because you may like guys doesn't mean you can't like a girl. You can't change who you are, and if you try to deny it, it will only get harder.

[cyates]

Well you said you have had gay experiences, so did you like that? If you did then that would indicate to me that you are indeed bisexual. You said you like a girl, there isn't anything wrong with that, just because you may like guys doesn't mean you can't like a girl. You can't change who you are, and if you try to deny it, it will only get harder.




yeah i did like it a bit, but he was my best mate so after it was very awkward, and we didnt speak for a while as i thought he hated me, but after i said hello and that we went on as if nothing happened but to this day im still quilty about it :(

[Harley Quinn]

I wouldn't feel guilty about it, he hasn't shown that he hates you, so i wouldn't really worry about that. You are who you are, you don't need a label to prove that, yeah sure it's nice to know what you are from the LGBT theme, but that doesn't actually matter, just live your life, and don't let anything like this affect you.

[cyates]

people say that im there gay best friend, but i deny being gay.......do u think i should come out and maybe tell them, or do u think they already kinda have a clue?

[Harley Quinn]

I think that they may have a clue, but, it's up to you whether you want to tell them or not. Weigh up the pros and the cons, then go from there :)

[cyates]

what could the pros and cons be though? because i dont want to be gay but i do, like i want to but other people will think bad of me i think. :/

[ShatteredWings]

only bad thing i can think of is some people might possibly reject you, but if they do fuck'em (not literally)

[Craig1995]

Cyates I think they might no. I get the same sort of thing they call me the gay- wise- man even tho I tell them I'm not. Since they kinda allready know u should just tell them I would but there's direct links from my school to my family and my parents find everything out from my bro lol. I know people r happier after they come uor tho. Sorry a little off topic I know.

[MoveAlong]

Your sexual orientation can't be determined by who you hang out with.

Sure, a lot of gay guys happen to have more female friends than male friends. But that doesn't define your sexuality.

A lot of straight guys have "gay" or male-male sexual experiences, like handjobs, blowjobs, mutual masturbation, etc. But your sexual orientation is more than what you've done - it's what you like, it's who you're attracted to and/or love.

Since you don't even know your orientation yet I would advise you to NOT TELL YOUR FRIENDS YOU'RE GAY OR BI. It's pretty embarrassing to come out as something, and then later, try to change what you've said because you've realized you're something else.

If I were you, I would keep being myself and keep not mentioning what I feel to your friends until you understand yourself more. Of course, this isn't the only option - you could also open up to one or more of your friends to talk about your feelings.

[willrod]

Since you don't even know your orientation yet I would advise you to NOT TELL YOUR FRIENDS YOU'RE GAY OR BI. It's pretty embarrassing to come out as something, and then later, try to change what you've said because you've realized you're something else.


I agree completely- nobody should feel pressured to come out- trust me, you'll know when the time is right. It sounds kind of cliché, but it's true. To me it seems like sort of a phase that you have to go through first- questioning, and then discovering who you are- before you can confidently come out to people.

[ccrunner]

I'm pretty similar except I hang with guys too and I classify myself as straight curious

[Fruit_Tart.]

just be who you are and don't let anyone let you down. if your not all that comfortable with coming out that your bi then you don't have to at the moment. once you build that confidence you can start letting people know that you think already know. *shrugs* and that too, people may already know and it might not be hard to come out. i wish the best of luck to you dude! :D

[Wicked_Syn]

You only know who you are, if it's what you feel in your heart, don't be ashamed.

[Sceneboy612]

When you think about it, Nobody can tell you if you are gay/bi or not. You are who you are, and only time will tell you. The way i kinda found out is i just... well stopped liking girls, and i found myself to like boys more "to be blunt".