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[UnknownError]

Yeh so tonight/this morning I've been a dick.
Since I haven't been cutting I get random mood swings okay?
So usually I stay off facebook, twitter, msn and that when I feel one coming.
I can always tell cause first Im all "I LOVE EVERYONE ON EARTH" then Im all hyper then I start feeling like killing everyone. :/

But just before I clicked Sign off on msn my girlfriend said hi.
Well she is classing herself as a goth all of a sudden, dying her hair and wearing different clothes and stuff.
So I went in a rage about how everyone knows its an act and why doesnt she just give "the shitty act" as I put it, up.
Also she asked me if I wanted to go to the cinema on Sunday and I just went "No." and stopped talking for like 5 minutes. D:

Well now I feel like a total jerk. :/
What should I do? Im deffinatly going to be sorry but Im thinking I should tell her why I was acting like that.
Cause she knows about my SH soo. D:

Urgh this is my 3rd time trying to post this.
Making a new thread on VT always takes me forever.
Cause Imma idiot.
Sorry if you read all that and dont know WTF Im on about.

[Fact]

Yeh so tonight/this morning I've been a dick.
Since I haven't been cutting I get random mood swings okay?

But just before I clicked Sign off on msn my girlfriend said hi.
Well she is classing herself as a goth all of a sudden, dying her hair and wearing different clothes and stuff.
So I went in a rage about how everyone knows its an act and why doesnt she just give "the shitty act" as I put it, up.
Also she asked me if I wanted to go to the cinema on Sunday and I just went "No." and stopped talking for like 5 minutes. D:

Well now I feel like a total jerk. :/
What should I do? Im deffinatly going to be sorry but Im thinking I should tell her why I was acting like that.
Cause she knows about my SH soo. D:


Well, from what I've read, you've not really been a jerk, you've just told the truth. You seem to be hiding behind your mood swing in order to express the fact that your girlfriend is actually pissing you off, you shouldn't have to do that.

You can explain to her about your self harming and mood swinging, but reality is, if it really is irritating you, then either tell her or don't be with her.

[UnknownError]

Its not that its irritating me, its just that she's kind of, changed since we started going out.
Not really the way she acts, just her appearance and the things she likes and stuff.
I've talked to one of her friends and she said that all of her other friends agree that its an act and she'll soon get bored of it all.
So I dont know what to do tbh. Cause I really do like her and according to her friends she really likes me aswell. So I dont want to break up with her.

[closed]

I saw this message just now, so sorry if it's irrelevant><
Look, 1st, don't be that hard on yourself... What you said isn't that bad, but if it has hurt her, you should apologize. 2nd, having mood swings because of not cutting is ok, and it won't last too long. 3rd - if you like her, because of who she is, then you should accept her no matter what she is doing. After all, you've said yourself, it's just her appearance, not the character that changes, so be supportive towards her, so she knows that she has you behind her back wherever she goes :)
Next:
Tell her about the cutting, just if you want to. Don't let anything else influence you. After all, if she likes you, she should accept you for who you are. If you feel like it, tell her. I think she will appreciate that you share such a secret with her.

And one last thing:
Connor, you are one of the best people i know, you shouldn't talk like that about yourself. You are smart, and mature for your age, and you are a really awesome kid :)

So if you ever need to spit something out, some advice, or anything else, feel free to turn to me :hug:

[Sage]

You're 13, chico, and I'm going to assume she is too. You're both a lot younger than you might think, and both of you are going to change many, many times before you become adults. You might not like the way she's changed, but there's nothing that can be done to stop that, because she (and you as well) will continue changing until you find something that works, and even then, you'll still change, but not as radically.

Also, being 13, you'll break up sooner or later. So enjoy what you have while you have it.

[UnknownError]

Thankss both of you. ^
But we split up last week. Decided it would be better. xP