Should I?

[Roar]

My parents have both been remarried many times. When I was about 9 or 10, my dad got mad over something and he hit me.
I haven't seen him since then. He's been calling me, I haven't talked to him or anything yet though. I know he misses me, and I know I miss him, but he has a record of things like that. I don't really know if he has changed. I think he used to do drugs and I don't know if he has stopped.
Do you think I should give him another chance?

I really don't know what to do, but I don't want to grow up without my dad. Even if I did start talking to him, my mom wouldn't like it at all. She hates him. I don't know what to do, I don't know how to talk to my mom about it either. :what:

[Weeping]

Well, if you're sure that you want to see him, but not sure about his behavior,
maybe you u should like.. Meet him at a café or something, where you're not alone.

:hug:

[ProBaller40]

U shud start small and call him, or answer his calls.
i would give him another chance.

[nick]

I would say it depends on the level of violence involved. Most parents smack their kids sometimes, but dont really hit them in an out of control sort of way. If you feel safe then maybe you should give him a chance.

[georgiamay]

If you're absolutely sure that you want to see him, then I'd say give him another chance. Was it just the once that he hit you? Or was it a bit more of a regular thing? I think if it was just the once, then I think you should give him another chance. If it was a regular thing, and he was very violent quite often, that changes things.

Maybe just talk to him on the phone a few times before you decide whether or not you want to meet him in person, and if you think he might be violent in some way, maybe meet him in a public place where there are a lot of people, like a restaurant or something.

Like I said, I think it depends on the circumstances.

[Roar]

Well he had never hit me before that, but he has hit other people, actually he almost killed someone. I don't think he intended to hurt them that bad, but he is a "big guy".

[georgiamay]

Well, if he's only ever been violent towards you once, then I'd say give him another chance. But maybe you could talk to your mum about it first? And have a few conversations over the phone before you decide to meet up with him, if you decide to. But I think you should talk to your mum first. I know you said that she hates him, but if you explain to her why you want to talk to him, maybe she'll understand. And I think it would be a very good idea to let her know what's going on, it wouldn't be a good idea to keep her in the dark about it.

[ikhasgkfjh]

Well seeing as you and your father miss each other. It would help out your relationship if you spoke to him. Over time arrange a meeting in a Public setting, i.e. Cafe, Restaurant, Store, etc. Seeing as he has only hit you once he may have changed, just make sure you do not bring him into a private area with you until you are sure he has changed and will not harm you in any way shape or form. Hoped I helped. :)

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

Dads suck ,,
Hes not worth it ... ive got the exact same problem
ive got the fucking scare on ym fucking leg to fucking prove it
there not worth it there dicks all of them
Save yourself the pain babe dont bother with him
My dad trys to call me ,, texts me ,, inbox's me on facebook
Fuck him ... fuck them all tbh better off without em tbh !
Once a scumbag always a scumbag i guess....

[ShutUpCasey]

Well.. Again as everyone else seems to be saying. It depends on how bad he hit you. and if it was more than once. My dad used to hit me, too. :/ I couldn't see him for six months because he hit my mom so bad that he was arrested for assault and battery and my mom had to put a restraining order on him. Almost every dad has a scumbag moment. Maybe you because you do want to talk to him again you should give him a chance. &+ your mom has to respect your desicion to want to talk to your only biological father. It's your choiche, not hers. Does she have to like it? No. Of course not. Can she comprimise? Yes. Let me know if she's being difficult or if anythig with your dad improves. i'm herree. :3

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

im not being funny
but if your mom doesnt want you to see him
im sure theirs a good reason behind it ...
shouldnt you respect the parent who has never hit youu ?
Rather than the drugged up child abuser ...