Emotional Checkmate

[The Harlequin]

I don't know what to do...
I have come out to mos people as bisexual, which is fine, the people who matter don't care about it, and I've got the most amazing girlfriend ever.

My problem is that I don't feel as in love with her as I think I should - I know that sounds crazy, but when I went out with my last boyfriend, I was madly, head-over-heels in love with him, couldn't stop thinking about him, and yet - I find that I don't have that same extemity of emotion with her.

Don't get me wrong, I do love her, when we're together it's nice, I like doting on her when I can and at times, I really do miss her greatly - I get the feeling she's more into me than I am into her, is that okay?

Also I find myself looking at more guys - come to think of it I rarely register a girl in terms of 'face-meltingly-gorgeous' but I have done for guys recently. When I fanticise it isn't usually over girls, it's over some really cute guy at school or at work.

My girlfriend is also going through one hell of a rough time atm - her parents treat her like shit, she's at a school that has no intention of encouraging its students to succeed and her health is so poor that the doctors don't even know the full extent of what's wrong with her.

Sorry if this is an essay but I really need some help, someone to talk to about all of the confusing shit that's going on in my life atm, it's so damn stressful (N)

Thank you for whatever time you can spare to talk to me,
Harlequin

[KillerKing]

Love is love in my opinion. You can't love someone more or less it's just love. You may not feel the same way as you did about your last boyfriend but maybe thats a good thing. Less is more right? If you 'loved her too much' to the point where your smothering her then surely thaat would be a bad thing. When you say is it okay for her to be more into you than you into her, you have to consider if your her first boyfriend or if your something new to her. Everyone get's excited when something new happens. As for the rough time, stick with her, support her when needed but don't lie about your feelings to her or yourself. It can only worsen things.

Best of luck!

[Zazu]

Love is love in my opinion. You can't love someone more or less it's just love. You may not feel the same way as you did about your last boyfriend but maybe thats a good thing. Less is more right? If you 'loved her too much' to the point where your smothering her then surely thaat would be a bad thing. When you say is it okay for her to be more into you than you into her, you have to consider if your her first boyfriend or if your something new to her. Everyone get's excited when something new happens. As for the rough time, stick with her, support her when needed but don't lie about your feelings to her or yourself. It can only worsen things.

Best of luck!

I second this.

[Coolcar65]

You cant make yourself love someone and if you dont like her.... Then thats it. Plain and simple. Shes maybe just not the right person for you and dont feel bad.