normal for two guy friends....?

[paranoid1]

The other day, a friend and I were just hanging out in my room. We're really close, we tell eachother everything. But alot of stuff happened.
1) we were talking about & showing eachother our boxers
2) we hugged eachother 2 or 3 times
3) we were sitting really close on my bed & he was leaning/laying on me
4) i layed my head on his lap and almost fell asleep
5) he layed over my back while playing a game on my computer
6) while i was laying on my stomach, he lifted my shirt up and started poking my back, and talking about something we discussed before
7) he massaged my foot

also, we tell eachother all the time that we love eachother, because we consider each other brothers...
we're both straight.
it's been worrying me a little if this all is normal for two straight friends? opinions?

[Captor K]

Meh, guys are affectionate, too. I'm openly gay and I've noticed that a number of straight guys can get touchy-feely with me — massaging, hugging, patting, all that jazz. Not that I mind, I just find it amusing. In the case of your friend, I wouldn't particularly think anything of it.

[Mynameisconner]

I think it's perfectly normal.

[smitty35]

i see a dilema. I think you should just enjoy it. If you want to have a relationship with him, make sure you both agree before taking it another step. But from what I hear i think its jus some brotherly love. Have you two every Jacked off together?

[spires]

no its not normal if i were u i would talk to him and tell him u dont like wat he doing

[ccrunner]

My friends and I are all straight and we all sleep together and on each other eventually but we don't do none of that other stuff but I don't think it bad. Just talk to him if you are worried if he your Beaty he will listen and respond

[MoveAlong]

no its not normal if i were u i would talk to him and tell him u dont like wat he doing

I think you should do this if you in fact DIDN'T like what he was doing.

It does sound normal to me. Sure, it may seem unusual to a lot of folk, but it sounds innocent to me. Now there is something that could happen here, just to mention it:

Let's say he's gay, or bi or curious or whatever. I don't think you should reject him, I think you should treat him the same. You can still have brotherly love if one person is gay/bi.

If it bothers you then I would say something. But if it doesn't or you're happy with it, then let it keep going.

[paranoid1]

i see a dilema. I think you should just enjoy it. If you want to have a relationship with him, make sure you both agree before taking it another step. But from what I hear i think its jus some brotherly love. Have you two every Jacked off together?

no, we've never done that. but we've talked about it. at first we said it was weird, but then we got more in depth with it, and it came to the surface that we both kinda wanted to. but then we decided that we probably wouldn't, but i think we will someday. i don't want a relationship, and i know he doesn't either, but it looks like we both do.

& that night i called him and asked if he thought it was all normal, he didn't really say, but he said if it bothers me that the next time he's over we'll play video games & talk about girls and cars and guns & rough house, and we'll just forget about that day.

it all didn't really bother me, but it made me worry about what others would think about us.

[KillerKing]

Well it's not like anyone else has to know, it's your business. Personally without the lil background info on the two of you i would of thought there was an unspoken... desire of sorts between you. But if you both feel comfortable about it then just go with it. It can be something if you both want it to be and if you don't want it too be something then it doesn't have too. Bottom line... Go with what you feel is right.

[affablyeaseful]

That sounds to me like it's just affection between two really close friends. There's nothing wrong with that. Even if one of you liked it or was turned on by it, if it feels good and you're both comfortable why stop? Who cares about what others think, he's your friend and you guys can act how you want together.

Personally I'm kind of jealous that you and your friend are so close that you can let your guards down and show the affection that often goes unspoken between close male friends.

[wiip]

sorry- you say 'poking' your back; that means with his fingers, right? cos I know in Britain poking alludes to the use of a more sexual organ... across the pond it's a lot more innocent. Which is it?

It sounds to me like he has feelings for you- you're probably both rather curious, and, next time your ''round, tell him that you are a bit unsure about it, but didn't mind...

Forget what others think; live your life! Who cares what they say? One day you'll move away. Never live in the eyes of others. And anyway, you'd trust him not to blab if anything happens, right? Just check that he wouldn't discuss it when you see him. You should probably surf the web when you see each other: visit normal sites, chatting, showing him sites you like visiting... then visit a porn site, and discuss that as if it were any of the others. See how he reacts, how you feel, what you both feel like doing. Take it from there.

Hope I've helped!


Personally I'm kind of jealous that you and your friend are so close that you can let your guards down and show the affection that often goes unspoken between close male friends.

can I just agree? :)

[adakr]

I'm totally like that and I'm straight! I like to hug my friends and put my head on there shoulder. I'd love to cuddle with one of my friends but I think my friends would probably think its weird if I asked. I've always wanted a brother or a friend that I could hug and stuff like you guys do and I even cry at night because I don't have one. Your lucky to have a friend like him and don't worry, its not gay for straight guys to do that unless you start laying naked together or something. Hope this helps man!

[Fourth Dimension]

if you are close i really dont see anything wrong your best friends and you show you affection for one another its okay for you both to be straight and love each other doesnt mean your gay or bi your best friends and best friends can love each other without being in love or gay/bi i think its totally normal i have friends im like that with

[tyler007]

I think it was pretty normal (what ever that is). I think if you liked it, and enjoyed then there should be nothing wrong with it. My best freind and a few of my close other friends do stuf like that too. It does not matter if you stright or curoius, (or bi or gay)
if you like doing it, and like the affection, and having fun with your friend, AND hes cool with it too. Just have fun,
Let us know how it works out in the end, i see you have already do it once.

[Firemisson]

Sounds like something twin brothers would do.

[Alexithymia]

Something that really annoys me is that the stereotype is that all straight men are no affectionate or feminine at all and that all gays are completely feminine. My straight guy friend can be like this, and he knows I'm gay. It is normal, for any guy. Don't worry so much. Be who you are :)

[Dorsum Oppel]

Why would you concern yourself with what other people do? Any relationship between people is individual and unique, if it's okay for you two, then there should be no concern.

[Grid]

Normal for two straight friends...well....in that case...I'm going to go with no.

[Alexithymia]

...normal for two straight friends?
:) Don't worry, we all miss things sometimes.

[paranoid1]

:) Don't worry, we all miss things sometimes.

i don't really understand what you mean?

[Daniel_]

Sounds like your bi curious. If you feel straight, I'd ask him to back off a little. Theres no problem with loving each other, or letting other people know, but for 2 straight guy friends.. Thats a little much.

However thats just my opinion, if you like it, go for it.

[Fushigi]

hmmm if u feel something different about what u guys doing... then there is really something going in between the two of u... well u said that u feel like he is ur brother maybe its like a bromance thingy :)

[delaney1414]

i think its fine hes just raly close to you and thats not always a bad thing

[ITSGUCCITIME]

I don't think so

[greekboy]

It is completely normal for two friends if you are both happy with it. Sounds like you are both close and have a loving but platonic relationship. It might not be common, but it is not abnormal. Now if you were to start blowing each other then that might mean something else, or, maybe not.

[Dimitri]

Don't worry dude, I have a really good guy friend(I have known him since pre-school) and we act like that sometimes but honestly I can say that either of us would gladly take a bullet for the other. I think you do have a really good realationship going but if you do not feel comfortable with all of this you need to let him know. Btw my best friend and I are both straight.

[Hokage]

You guys don't seem like you're lovers or anything I have a few friends I do the same with but we don't have feelings for each other just bros.