does it hurt you when you tell friends your bi and they completely hate you for it?

[wisse2012]

this is a question for all those who have had friends hate them for dumb reasons. i have just recently told my friends i was bi i now have 2 friends who are ok with it. it sucks does anyone else kno what im talking about? iv even thought about suicide because of it. if you have let me kno if u want to pm me please do i love to talk to ppl

[Nihilus]

First of all: Don't commit suicide! It is not worth it and you will hurt the people who love you. The friends who left because you told them that your are bi are not your friends. Yeah it sounds harsh, but true friends should be accepting of whatever. Find new friends.
I have never experienced this, but yes, I bet would hurt a lot.

[rextoystory]

Don't!! Relax, maybe they're not used to it... let them be for a while... and... just talk to them, if they're true friends, they will stand by you no matter what :D

Good luck!

[usedtobejv]

Im str8, but I guess it would hurt a lot.

[gay_boy94]

it hurts a ton especially when before you tell them you were like never aapart from them and all you can do is talk to the people who accept you try to get those who don't to accept you and if they don't then forget them and move on they don't deserve you

[rextoystory]

Well if the question is if it hurts (sorry for the other post if it seemed kind of off topic) ... yeah it should hurt, losing friends is one of the worst things that can happen to you :S

[Beatles385]

I myself am not gay or bi. I have friends and family who r however. This is coming honestly from someone like ur friends. At first I was uncomfortable with the IDEa of one of my friends I've known since pre k being bi. After a few months of spending time with my uncle (who is gay) I realized that people are still the same people regardless of their sexuality. To me it's kind of like racism. Y would u hate someone for one detail. U should love people for who they are. Not by their sexuality. But as far as advice, give it some time. Then u will learn who ur true friends are

And yes it will hurt. But if u give it time it should go away when u find ur true friends

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[Zazu]

The people who I considered to be some of my best friends in Secondary (High) School started a 4 month long hate campaign against me (including false allegations of rape) when I came out to them. I think having people who I would have trusted with my life suddenly turn against me and turn out to be complete homophobes was possibly one of the most painful things I've been through for a long time.

I went from being friends / acquainted with most of the 300 people in my year to having 2 friends.

I went through a nasty phase of depression / suicide / augmentation of my bipolar which was obviously total cack. Two suicide attempts and two years later and I'm nearly over it all. It's left me with a fair few problems which I can't seem to shit though such as finding it incredibly hard to trust any one.

I think ultimately you have to come to the following ultimatum in your mind: "You laugh at me because I'm different, I laugh at you because you're all the same."

You're not alone on this mate and you'll have the community of VT here to support you.

[Hunterboy]

im 13 and think im bi and my best bud knows and he is cool with it

[Mrs.KermitTheFrogx]

noooooooooo suicideee :))
your strong for telling you friends
imm wayy to scaredd
ii thinkk i am ?
ive exsperimented with some of my bestfriends
but ive got one bestfriend whoos totally against lesbians / gays
and ii really dont want her to stop inviting me to sleepovers and stuff
so i just hide it :) atleast you had the courage to tell them
i totally respect you dudee :))) xx

[KylieEatWorld]

I'm straight but I would think that it would hurt deeply for your friends to hate you for a part of you. Hating someone because of their sexuality is like hating them because they like yogurt. It's a preference and it's not very nice. Don't commit suicide. The people who hate all of you because of a small part of you are not very good friends and you wouldn't want them in that state anyway. Just find people who love you just the way you are.

[Mynameisconner]

I am bi, and I told my friends, and they all accepted it really good. They were actually excited.
My point would pertain to the fact that depending on who you tell, the reaction it invokes will be different. I'm sure there are some "friends" out there that wont be worth telling, they will have a reaction completely detrimental to your relationship. There are some though that don't freak out based on sexuality, and these are the people that become your true friends. PM me if you need any advice or comforting. Please never commit suicide :/