scared of my dad.

[tashbash3]

okay, hmm, where to start?
well, my dad has been looking at 23597498242380 porn sites the last couple of months, and recently, i was on his laptop and was typing into the address bar, and loads of incest porn sites came up, like mother-daughter?

and there's loads of ones of teens and girls peeing?! :|

he's never done anything to me, (i don't think) although i can't remember alot of my childhood.
i realise, that yes, he is human and people WILL look at those things, especially seeing as my mum died a few years ago, he doesn't have anyone to . . yaknow. . .

i'm just really uncomfortable with it, especially the whole incest thing, my mum was sexually abused when she was a child, and i'm just so scared!

and i don't trust men, at all. i dunno what to do?!:confused:

[Fiction]

have you got another female relative, such as an auntie or sister that you can talk to this about? Preferably an older relative.
You could try and talk to your dad about it but I don't think you'd really want to do that... but if you're comfortable with it then...

[OneDeep]

Sounds creepy but I've seen the same kind of stuff on my dad's computer.. its disturbing but u gotta ignore it. Maybe to hint him, when u look at his computer, clear his history. He will get the point soon.

[Kiko]

Define loads? I found teen porn on my dad's computer once but I didn't think much of it. Most people draw a good line between porn and real life so I wouldn't worry unless your dad starts acting strangely. From what you wrote it seems like you have a decent amount of trust and respect for your dad so I wouldn't give that up just because he has strange guilty pleasures.

[Coolcar65]

Well first of all i hope its not child pornography. People get turned on by diffrent things and although we might think its way past weird he might think its normal. I would just not think much about it and try to forget it.

[Charleigh]

dont let it intimidate you. your dad might just be directing his emotions in a certain way that might help him, but concern others. i wouldnt say anything to him though because he might feel as if its invading his privacy. i think you should just stay out of his room, and not go onto his laptop anymore. if he knows about you going on his laptop, he might be aware that you can see what hes been looking at, it might be his way of telling the truth and not keeping any secrets.
pm me if there is anything. good luck x

[polkagurl]

a loss of a wife is hard. my grandmas mom died at a really young age and my grandmas dad married within months. it was wrong of him but that's a whole other story. the thing is that men really take it hard at first and even the thought of not having sex with that person anymore as well is very difficult. especially if you're committed to the person. but then again i know exactly where you are coming from about being afraid. as stated in previous replies try going to a female relative, if you cannot do that, think about it and talk to your dad. some father-daughter bonding time will be good for both of you. but just ask him, and explain to him that you are NOT invading his privacy but you feel very uncomfortable and if he does do anything to you at that time, remember you have sources. you can call the police. good luck ! and be tough, i know it is easier said than done but be true to yourself.

[Shadowhunter]

I can't say that I have been in a similar situation but I agree with the people above. I mean he did lose his wife and that can be pretty traumatic to someone..and sometimes people have weird ways of trying to cope...and I think charlie could be right maybe this is his way of crying out that he need's someone to talk too..I mean he most likely is aware that by you going on his computer there is a chance you'd uncover the sites.....is you're dad a type of person that would bottle up his emotions? because that could be what this all is..his way of acting out in an attempt to maybe be heard...maybe he just needs someone to talk too..and it could bring you too closer , also build maybe a little more faith in one another....I mean I can't imagine what he (or you ) must be going through with the lose of a wife or mother...but death can do weird things to people..now I'm not saying my first instinct would be too look up porn..but everyone is different maybe he just needs someone to open up to..but he needs someone (maybe you) to confront him first because he won't confront someone about how this is affecting him.

[cooper.]

it depends if you think porn has something to do with reality. i kind of doubt it.

[aaron4455]

dont worry if he dont act wiered around u or do anything that would hint that he wants to do that stuff then dont worry

[Bobthebeast666]

Its only porn as long as he doesn't do anything to you your safe

[Alaph]

okay, hmm, where to start?
well, my dad has been looking at 23597498242380 porn sites the last couple of months, and recently, i was on his laptop and was typing into the address bar, and loads of incest porn sites came up, like mother-daughter?

and there's loads of ones of teens and girls peeing?! :|

he's never done anything to me, (i don't think) although i can't remember alot of my childhood.
i realise, that yes, he is human and people WILL look at those things, especially seeing as my mum died a few years ago, he doesn't have anyone to . . yaknow. . .

i'm just really uncomfortable with it, especially the whole incest thing, my mum was sexually abused when she was a child, and i'm just so scared!

and i don't trust men, at all. i dunno what to do?!:confused:

There's probably nothing to worry about, just because he looks at something doesn't make him likely to do anything.