What should I do?

[nybabygirl]

I met this guy in October and we started talking. It's now December and I found out that he has had a girlfriend since the beginning of October, before we even met. He has been coming over every week since we met. The girl he is dating lives about 2 hours away. I went to visit someone near there in November and he said I would love to go there and visit my best friend. Last I checked best friend and girlfriend are completely different. He has failed to mention that he's had a girlfriend for the three months I've been talking to him. I now feel like he's been seriously taking advantage of me. The problem is I'm not supposed to know anything about this. He was talking about his girl problems with my friend last night and he didn't know she was at my house, which is kind of messed up on my part. I understand that, but I don't know what to do. I'm completely furious with him and he can't even know.

[Fact]

Yes he can know. Just because you happened to be in the right place at the right time and found out about what he might've been hiding from you, does not mean that you can't confront him about it.

Let him know that you saw what he said to your friend and basically demand an explanation. If you're not 100% sure on it, then you might want to be a bit less aggressive/assertive and just talk to him about it.

From the way I read it, it sounds like he's been leading you on, but that's just what I see. It's definitely worth asking him about it in order to get the truth.

[KillerKing]

Completely agree with 'Fact' (Very original name :) )

You have done nothing wrong on your part, after all it's not like you 'poked' around to find out what you know. I'd say given his 'girlfriend' lives 2 hours away that it's a long distance relationship and he doesn't really want to stay in it and would rather be in a... closer relationship. It may be the explanation as to why he has not told you.

If your interested in him in that way, it may be best to ask him how he feels about you first, to see if he confesses to his relationship.

[rextoystory]

Again, agree with "Fact".

You deserve to be respected. And the guy needs to learn how to respect you, for now just avoid him... or if you're going to talk to him, make sure you are ok with it and that you are careful with what you say.
If you need further advice, I'm available.

Take care, and good luck! :)

[nybabygirl]

thanks for all of the advice :) i ended up getting really impatient and asking about it and he gave me the whole story. Our relationship is sort of strained at the moment, but no matter what if he can be honest, he's a good friend to have. We're hanging out tomorrow night. We're going to a party, so we'll see how that goes. Thanks again :)