A Christmas Conundrum

[The Joker]

Well, my mom's boyfriend will be at our grandma's Christmas party. The last time I saw him, he did (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showpost.php?p=1104071&postcount=3) this (http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=89730).

I said I was OK with him being at the party, I'm really not. I don't want to interact with him whatsoever, just don't want to talk. I asked my mom to tell him to not give me anything. I'm afraid he's planning on getting something for my birthday that apparently I'll love. I overheard a phone conversation. I really don't want to get anything for him because I'm worried I'll like it, and then make it seem like I like him or that I've forgiven him at all. I'm afraid that he'll get me a gift, I won't give a positive reaction, and my family will think I'm some sort of needy/whiny bitch for not accepting his gift or whatever.

I'm actually really pissed that my mom is even talking to him at all. He's really creepy to me. Planning out a road trip for him and my mom to go shopping in Seattle, telling her he loves her. Every time he called her "babe" on the phone, I fucking cringed. What a fucking creep.

[nick]

This is a tricky one. Its difficult for your mother to get caught in the middle, maybe for her sake you should try to put up with it over Christmas if you can. If her bf gives you a present that you like there's no harm in saying "thanks", doesnt mean he can expect to buy his way into favour with you but I dont see that deliberately being sulky would do any good either.

If your parents have no chance of getting back together then I would guess your mum would be kind of young to contemplate spending the rest of her life alone. Its not nice seeing someone come in and behaving all lovey, but she probably needs that in her life.

[jockboy14]

I know somewhat of where you are coming from. When my mom and my step dad first went out, I didn't like him at all. But, you have to get that he is making your mom happy (or else she wouldn't be with him right?) and I think when a mom that hasn't been happy in a while becomes happy, then its a big thing. So try to get along with him, at least for the sake of your mom.

[The Joker]

I know somewhat of where you are coming from. When my mom and my step dad first went out, I didn't like him at all. But, you have to get that he is making your mom happy (or else she wouldn't be with him right?) and I think when a mom that hasn't been happy in a while becomes happy, then its a big thing. So try to get along with him, at least for the sake of your mom.

He's a 50 year old man that thinks fucking with a 14 year old is "good for him (me)".