Is This Normal to be thinking like this?

[DreamSeeker]

I'm with a great girl now :) And it's made me really happy :D But I just keep thinking the same thing over and over :/

I keep thinking that she just does not feel/want a full relationship, sure she'll hug me and all sorts. But like when I just sit there and want a cuddle, or to lie down together. She'll be wanting to do something else or not get my hints. Also when I kissed her the other day, she just replied Okay. Then we parted (I was taking her home). Nothing like I feel it should be, me and my Ex would kiss for ages and then just spend moments after. Another thing is like on texts, she'll only ever put Ly/Love You after I put it. If I forget or never do, she won't. It's like she is just following me :/

Also I just get the feeling like she just does not like me, I had this feeling with my Ex. Like when I see videos of them or something, I feel like that don't care about me and just are there to not get me upset (When I get dumped, I take it REALLY bad..) Is this normal to be thinking like this, if not how can I overcome it.

[ktmay96]

I don't know if its necessarily "normal". I've never felt that way, but I've only ever had one boyfriend and I can tell he really likes me. But like with me, I'm kinda the shy type and (at least at the beginning of the relationship) I was scared of doing something wrong/dumb/embarrassing. Thats just kinda who I am. Now I'm a little better, but still sometimes worry about doing something wrong. She could be the same way, underreacting to make sure she doesn't do something wrong. Now its a little hard to tell from this post, because your coming from the position of thinking she doesn't like you so it kinda tweaks the perception. But like with the cuddling and the kissing, she could just be really shy. She might not want to cuddle in fear of doing something "wrong". And the "love you" thing, she might not wanna say it at the wrong time or something. Or maybe she doesn't "mean" it. Depending on how long you've been going out and her personality, she might not "love you" and merely likes you and only says it after you because she doesn't want to seem mean. That doesn't mean she doesn't like you it just means that she is uncomfortable saying "i love you"
But, again, there is always the chance she's only with you to not hurt you. She liked you in the beginning and may not anymore. But in that situation, all you can do is enjoy her company, spend time with her, and act like you don't feel like she doesn't feel the same way about you. If you are still really concerned about it after a while, confront her privately about it. Worry about it all the time will only freak you out and if she does feel the same way, it might either push her away or you might accidentally push yourself on her and be clingy just because your worry about her not liking you. Just push it out of your mind, and if it continues to be an issue, confront her. And if you do end up breaking up, don't worry. It obviously wasn't meant to be, and there is someone else out there for you.
And haha sorry if this is long. I always try to help too much and cover everything and end up putting too much detail. :P But i hope it helped!

[Art_dude]

I think it's a natural response to the feedback you're getting from her, or lack thereof.

I think you pretty much nailed it when you said, "It's like she's just following me."
I had a situation where I felt more emotionally invested than my exgirlfriend, and that she wasn't as "into it" as I was :/

Sometimes people just express their affection in different ways - it may seem cold of her not to respond with an "I love you" or enjoy cuddling as much as you do, but to her she might show her love in other ways. Or she just might not like you to the degree you do which is perfectly normal. No one ever loves their partner the exact same degree in a relationship - it's perfectly healthy to have a slight imbalance. It's when the imbalance gets too severe however, when it begins to be a problem.

I say give it a little more time and she how she responds. She might just need a little more time to get comfortable with you and let her walls come down. I hope this helps :D

[rextoystory]

Seems like she's following you, maybe she's not sure of what she wants and feels weird when all this happens, maybe she's having a hard time in her life or got out of a relationship.. i don't know her, but you should talk to her and see what happens... or you could wait and see if she gets a little closer :)

Take care, good luck!