My friend is not as friendly as i thought...

[SimSailorNick]

I'm not sure if this goes in here but just move it if it doesn't.

So, i have or had this friend in school and he's been nice but after the time he came out and told us that he was gay, he started become totally biatchy. Like he started talking mean even though we didn't do stuff, he starts turning almost every situation into a negative, he always looks at the bad side of things. It's like whenever he's around, he gives off these super bad vibes. Should i leave him or not?

My two other friends and i have been feeling strongly about this but we're not sure what to do because if you turn against him, he really turns your life into a living hell. He can destroy you physically, emotionally and socially. He's really just an insecure pain in the butt and i really don't want to do anything with him right now.

I was thinking of just not talking to him if he doesn't talk to me and if he does then I'll act normally but i won't be the one starting the conversations. What do you think?:confused:

[Fact]

I'm not sure if this goes in here but just move it if it doesn't.

So, i have or had this friend in school and he's been nice but after the time he came out and told us that he was gay, he started become totally biatchy. Like he started talking mean even though we didn't do stuff, he starts turning almost every situation into a negative, he always looks at the bad side of things. It's like whenever he's around, he gives off these super bad vibes. Should i leave him or not?

My two other friends and i have been feeling strongly about this but we're not sure what to do because if you turn against him, he really turns your life into a living hell. He can destroy you physically, emotionally and socially. He's really just an insecure pain in the butt and i really don't want to do anything with him right now.

I was thinking of just not talking to him if he doesn't talk to me and if he does then I'll act normally but i won't be the one starting the conversations. What do you think?:confused:

You pretty much answered your own question in the parts that I highlighted.

He turns every situation into a negative because he's an insecure pain in the butt. If he's too much for you to handle, then you might want to just stopping talking to him - but not being mean, until he realises that he's pushing people away that wouldn't care about his sexuality if he stopped being so paranoid.

Perhaps you should talk to him about why he feels he has to be so pessimistic and aggressive before you stop talking to him. If you're going to do that, I suggest not doing it in front of other people who aren't involved and trying to keep calm about it.

[georgiamay]

:arrow: family and friends.

[KillerKing]

I can understand this situation. Ever since my friend came out, it's really shown in him. I feel like I've just read my own past couple of months. My friend has become nothing but bitchy, vein and arrogant. He doesn't care about anyone else or what happens unless it involves him. I know gays are typically stereotyped in this way but I know a few gay people and they are nothing like he is. However, in my circumstance it would be incredibly hard to ignore him as we sort of 'share' a best friend. What I can advise though is that you talk back. Ever since he started with the constant insults, I decided to start throwing it back in his face and the only time I talk to him is when I absolutely have to. So I all I can advise is that you just don't take his attitude, and if you havn't already, realise that his sexuality is not a shield for his attitude. It took me a while to realise that just because he was gay didn't mean I couldn't be mean to him too.

I hope it works it for you anyways!