Advice , how to stop myself.

[RedTheViking]

Me and my girlfriend almost had sex, we were both naked and we were grinding on each other. It was completely consensual on both sides.
we both really wanted it.
but i stopped, reason being shes 13 and a half, and ive just turned 16.
god.i have no where else to turn. i need help.
weve been going out for 2 and a half months.(we were best friends for 6 months before that) but weve been grinding on each other for that whole 2 and a half months. (with clothes on though)
i know it sounds bad. and it probbaly is. i know i shouldnt be doing anything of the such with such a young girl.
thats why i stopped. but i know its stupid to say i love her , but from what i know what love is , i do.
shes really mature for her age and definately doesnt act 13 and half.
she offered to have sex with me for my birthday. and ive said no .
the way im saying it , makes her sound like shes a slut. but shes not. she just loves me , again to young say it properly . but still.
the reason i need help is . I cant stop myself sometimes.
i honestly cant. my body wants it so much. and it doesnt help when i know her body wants it just as much as me. she wants it just as much as me.
its hard to be around her without lusting after her.
i just dont know what to do. im afraid ill give in to my urges. but i cant not spend time with her.

need opinions. and advice. and most likely beratement

[Fact]

Me and my girlfriend almost had sex, we were both naked and we were grinding on each other. It was completely consensual on both sides. we both really wanted it.
I doubt this a little from what you later said, but of course I could be wrong.

but i stopped, reason being shes 13 and a half, and ive just turned 16
I'm aware that girls mature faster than guys, but this is a really bad age gap for the pair of you. From experience, 13 year old girls are still finding their feet, no matter how decisive and strong they appear on the exterior.


weve been going out for 2 and a half months.(we were best friends for 6 months before that) but weve been grinding on each other for that whole 2 and a half months.
This is not a long period of time at all to be doing such acts with a girl of that age.


thats why i stopped. but i know its stupid to say i love her , but from what i know what love is , i do.
IMO, no one this age knows what love actually is. I doubt your girlfriend does either.


she offered to have sex with me for my birthday. and ive said no .
the way im saying it , makes her sound like shes a slut. but shes not. she just loves me
If she's setting a date to have sex with you, then it sounds to me like she's trying to play up to what she thinks you're expecting. Sex should just happen naturally within a relationship and it seems that the only reason you haven't so far is because you haven't allowed it.


the reason i need help is . I cant stop myself sometimes.
my body wants it so much. and it doesnt help when i know her body wants it just as much as me. she wants it just as much as me.
its hard to be around her without lusting after her.
↑ this is why I doubt your 'love'.
No matter how much you deny it, you want her body. I don't know what your personal relationship is like, but from the length of time you've known each other/been together, it sounds like the relationship is flawed.

Sorry if you think I've been harsh, I just wanted to tell you how I see it, because that's what you asked for.

[jockboy14]

Me and my girlfriend almost had sex, we were both naked and we were grinding on each other. It was completely consensual on both sides.
we both really wanted it.
but i stopped, reason being shes 13 and a half, and ive just turned 16.
god.i have no where else to turn. i need help.
weve been going out for 2 and a half months.(we were best friends for 6 months before that) but weve been grinding on each other for that whole 2 and a half months. (with clothes on though)
i know it sounds bad. and it probbaly is. i know i shouldnt be doing anything of the such with such a young girl.
thats why i stopped. but i know its stupid to say i love her , but from what i know what love is , i do.
shes really mature for her age and definately doesnt act 13 and half.
she offered to have sex with me for my birthday. and ive said no .
the way im saying it , makes her sound like shes a slut. but shes not. she just loves me , again to young say it properly . but still.
the reason i need help is . I cant stop myself sometimes.
i honestly cant. my body wants it so much. and it doesnt help when i know her body wants it just as much as me. she wants it just as much as me.
its hard to be around her without lusting after her.
i just dont know what to do. im afraid ill give in to my urges. but i cant not spend time with her.

need opinions. and advice. and most likely beratement


you say you have no where else to turn. I'd like to suggest you go and just talk to God. Ask him for the courage to say no and the strength for self control. Just ask him to take over and to always be with you and your girlfriend when yall are together. You sound like a real good kid, you have a good head on your shoulders. You know that its gonna be wrong if you do it, so you know you shouldn't, and you haven't, which is a big thing. A lot of guys know its not good, but they do it anyway. Just keep on setting limits for each other.

when you two are together, keep these 3 rules:
1. keep the lights on
2. keep upright, dont lay down
3. keep ur clothes on (especially keep ur dick in ur pants)

keep on fighting the urges bro.