View Full Version : not sure about my sexuality.
jacklotsofstars
December 18th, 2010, 04:19 PM
hi, im 13 years old. i watch gay porn while i masterbate, and i like muscular, hot, guys with big dicks. i want to have sex with a guy some day. but, i am more attracted to female personalities and facial looks tho. i dont really like girls' "parts". a lot of my friends are girls, and a lot of people say i am and talk gay, even tho i want to be straight. what is my sexuality? is it normal to be this way?
Preacher
December 18th, 2010, 04:33 PM
It's not abnormal to question your sexuality. I do however think you're not straight by the things you tell about yourself. And you also like girls you say? If you're attracted to both than it's simple : you're bisexual xD
Zazu
December 18th, 2010, 04:37 PM
You're 13. You're young. You'll have hormones raging around your body like the bloody clappers at the moment.
The only way you'll find out about your sexuality is through life experiences and other bits and bobs throughout life. Follow your impulses. Realise that you can't 'change' your sexuality. Be happy with who you are.
None of us can tell you what sexuality you should label yourself with and it's completely normal to be feeling how you are at the moment. Just chill and let la vie take its course.
jacklotsofstars
December 18th, 2010, 04:45 PM
the problem is, that i DONT want to be gay whatsoever. mostly because all the bullying i have to go through, and coming out, and having my family and friends having to deal with it. do u think that its ok if i say im straight, have girlfriends, but then hide my gay side? also i like the pleasure of my penis so i dont really care who i fuck or who gives me blow jobs. but i also like other dicks.
Preacher
December 18th, 2010, 04:55 PM
the problem is, that i DONT want to be gay whatsoever. mostly because all the bullying i have to go through, and coming out, and having my family and friends having to deal with it. do u think that its ok if i say im straight, have girlfriends, but then hide my gay side? also i like the pleasure of my penis so i dont really care who i fuck or who gives me blow jobs. but i also like other dicks.
nobody forces you to be gay, take your time. I think at your age it's better to wait a while before comming out xD Then as you get older, generally people aren't gonna bully that much anymore so than you can come out to some close friends or family, cause hiding your sexuality isn't the best thing to do I think. That way you'll hurt a lot af girls that thought they could trust you...
Dunce
December 19th, 2010, 01:37 PM
You're young. I know a good about three people who came out as being gay when they were 14, and now they're 16 or 17, and have partners of the opposite sex, so they were wrong about being gay. I'm not saying you're not gay, I'm saying sexuality can fluctuate during puberty.
I know you don't want to be gay, but sooner or later lieing to people is going to get you down, and you'll want to do what makes you happy. Happiness is WAY more important than what people think. People get over hearing someone they know is gay/bi, and its worth it in the end.
Don't think about it too much. And don't try and be straight, because you'll end up liking boys even more because you feel like you cant have them. Just go with the flow and don't worry. I know how scary it is and how useless this advice can seem but please take it into consideration. You dont want to be gay now, but soon enough you'll realise you dont care which gender makes you happy.
personally I think you're bisexual :P
jacklotsofstars
December 19th, 2010, 02:04 PM
You're young. I know a good about three people who came out as being gay when they were 14, and now they're 16 or 17, and have partners of the opposite sex, so they were wrong about being gay. I'm not saying you're not gay, I'm saying sexuality can fluctuate during puberty.
I know you don't want to be gay, but sooner or later lieing to people is going to get you down, and you'll want to do what makes you happy. Happiness is WAY more important than what people think. People get over hearing someone they know is gay/bi, and its worth it in the end.
Don't think about it too much. And don't try and be straight, because you'll end up liking boys even more because you feel like you cant have them. Just go with the flow and don't worry. I know how scary it is and how useless this advice can seem but please take it into consideration. You dont want to be gay now, but soon enough you'll realise you dont care which gender makes you happy.
personally I think you're bisexual :P
thank you for that. that made me now feel a little more confortable. but say i was bisexual, and i liked guys and girls equally, and i just went out with girls and didnt express my gay side..
Colin
December 19th, 2010, 02:53 PM
No you aren't gay, you're just curious.
Dunce
December 19th, 2010, 03:55 PM
thank you for that. that made me now feel a little more confortable. but say i was bisexual, and i liked guys and girls equally, and i just went out with girls and didnt express my gay side..
Erm... I used to think this way aswell, but I got used to the idea of going out with either. You'll probably get used to it too(if you're not just bi-curious) but I guess you could try to not express your attration to men, but if you really do like men you'll realise that you cant ignore your feelings.
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