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SilentlyScreaming
December 17th, 2010, 09:21 AM
Hello again! I posted a thread a few weeks back about my boyfriend,I think he's using me. http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showthread.php?t=89609
Anyway - So were supposed to hang out this weekend and he WANTS TO HAVE SEX. He made that pretty effin' clear. I told him I'm not ready and he keeps.pushing.it.

He said "Well I think you're ready,we should try" what a bunch of bull. " I want to make love to you and whisper in you ear I love you". "We should try this weekend,even if its a little bit"

Am I missing something? Did I not just say I wasnt ready! Our entire relationship is crap. Its not based on being able to talk to someone,but how full of lust we are for eachother. We have nothing in common! Were the same personality types in two different worlds. I mean, if we get into a conversation about certain things we clash constantly. I know there's no way in the world I will ever marry him.

I'm 17,he's 24 (stupid....I know...) and I think he think's he can do this because he thinks I dont tell anyone. My best friend knows about him,she hates his guts. It's like I know what I need to do but I'm afraid.

I've met his parents,and even his mom has told him - "You're going to hurt her!". But its not enough... You'd think if he even cared he would over see his lust ?

I dont want to break up with him before christmas,although sometimes I think he deserves it. Theres no doubt in my mind that I love him,for what reasons Im not sure. All I know is if someone loves you,they dont push you into doing stuff you dont like. They damn sure dont lie to you either.

I needed to vent this out. Opinions ?

laurita_21
December 17th, 2010, 10:28 AM
It sounds like he's just in it for the sex. And if you don't give it to him it's most likely to brake up with you, he sounds like such an ass hole though. If I were you I would have already broken up with him. Why won't you just brake up with him?

The Madman
December 17th, 2010, 11:45 AM
Tell him to go away, he is definately using you, and he is too old for you.

Maverick
December 17th, 2010, 12:22 PM
Time to end this and find somebody right for you that listens and have a great connection with. Youre wasting your time with this clown.

Aves
December 17th, 2010, 12:30 PM
Time to end this and find somebody right for you that listens and have a great connection with. Youre wasting your time with this clown.

Ant has the right idea. He's just using you, and it's blatantly obvious. I know it will suck being alone on Christmas, but it's better than being with someone who doesn't love you the same way.

SilentlyScreaming
December 17th, 2010, 02:19 PM
Honestly I've narrowed it down to being with him because he makes me feel good. It's stupid but I have my issues. I'm just glad I can finally recognize it. I'm going to go shiopping with him tomorrow, I'm gonna talk to him about this if he blows up I'm done. Well....im done now actually so it doesnt matter.

Shenron
December 17th, 2010, 02:23 PM
I am glad you are moving on. Nothing productive can come from this relationship. He is in it for the sex. If he truly loved you he would want to wait until you were ready.

ktmay96
December 17th, 2010, 04:38 PM
Honestly I've narrowed it down to being with him because he makes me feel good. It's stupid but I have my issues. I'm just glad I can finally recognize it. I'm going to go shiopping with him tomorrow, I'm gonna talk to him about this if he blows up I'm done. Well....im done now actually so it doesnt matter.

Well if thats why your with him, what you need to do is find someone else who makes you feel good and loves you at the same time. And that relationship will make you feel more than good. Because if this crappy (no offense but he isn't respecting you or acting like he cares about you and or feelings one bit) relationship makes you feel good, a good relationship will be so much better. You just have to get rid of this guy. If he just wants you for sex and your looking for love, its obviously not worth it. Find someone who loves you. If they love you, they'll wait.

SilentlyScreaming
December 17th, 2010, 11:52 PM
I find it funny that he hasnt talked to me all day. What does HE have to be mad about? jerk.

jockboy14
December 20th, 2010, 10:48 PM
guys like him deserve to be lonely for Christmas.