So she wants to "test the waters"

[Necroxfiendx07]

**this is a continuation of another topic i made** Me and y girlfriend dated for a year and 6 months. She broke up with me november 2nd, saying i didnt accept her for who she is, and says i got a little controlling sometimes. But said she still loved me. November 7th we got back together, hours later i pushed quitting cigarettes on her like a dumbass and she broke up with me again saying i proved i could never change. We didnt talk for a few days, then out of no where we started talking again. She came over the next wednesday and we got intimate and everything felt normal. Everything was the same, only i wasnt a "boyfriend" and she wasnt my "girlfriend". I asked her once more to take me back and she cried and said she didnt wanna be in a relationship right now, i guess because of the stress. Anyways, since then we talked everynight and talked AS IF we were dating. Saying baby, and i love you, etc. Saturday night she got sick, i called to make sure she was ok and she told me to leave her alone. So i sent her a huge text about how i proved myself tp her and couldnt take it anymore, i said to give me a call if she wants me in her life. She ignored me for 2 weeks until recently i sent her a text asking how shes doing. She answered and we started talking like friends. She made it clear though that she thinks she should be alone and focus on work/school. I had to accept it. Until about 4 days ago and saw on her facebook that shes in a relationship. I was furious. Sent her a huge text about how she lied to me and im removing myself from her life. So of course she replied and we kinda had a flame war for a bit. She tells me she didnt lie. She says she really doesnt want to be in a relationship, hes just a very nice guy that put her on the spot and asked her on a date. Well that wasnt good enough for me. I asked her if she wants me in her life to give me a call so we can put everything on the table and get everythig out there. So that night she called and we talked for about 2 hours. She told me she wants to "test the waters", and that shes not ready to be in a serious relationship right now. But that shes not going to have sex with anyone. Says she still loves me, misses me, and says im so much better then the guy shes kinda seeing. She even told me that every guy she dates after me is a downgrade. But unfortunately, i have to just be her friend for now, as she told me thats what she wants. However, when asked if there was a chance for us in the future, she constantly tells me"who knows, idk the future", yet she tells me she still loves me. She even said we probably shouldnt hang out for a while since it would be too tempting for her. She told me not to wait around for her and to to out and date around. But i told her she knows exactly what im gonna do anyways. She said shes just not over the issues i had during our relationship and wants to see if its even possible to be happy elsewhere. So we agreed to be friendly. At this point, shes the one calling ME and texting ME everyday. I just dont know where i stand at this point. If i continue to be her friend, have her flirting and laughing, is there a chance she will open herself back up to being with me again?

[Charleigh]

thats a tricky one. so one minuite the both of you are like, really loved up and things couldnt get any better. the next you are like, fighting and arguing. seems like she doesnt really know what she wants. she seems to be sending you mixed messages by telling you she loves you but then telling you she cant be with you, seems a little strange. i guess you just need to ask her what she really wants and that sending you mixed messages isnt helping either of you. good luck!

[Necroxfiendx07]

I dont think she means to send me mixed messages, since im the one who asked her if she still loves me. But whether i asked or not, it appears she still loves me, but feels she needs to do this for whatever reason. Sometimes i wish life was easier lol.

[Kelsey123]

move on

[Shenron]

Tis puts you in a bad spot. See, I can tell you love her very much, and from what you said, she loves you too. But women are....different. She knows the right one for her is right in front of her yet she doesn't go after it. I think maybe you should give it a while. Give her a few months. But, if someone else comes along and you want to go out with them, go ahead, because there is no certainty for a future between you two. I know it may be hard to accept it and move on, but sometimes that is the best thing to do. If she does still love you, she will find you when she is ready. Until then, do your thing. You don't want to push yourself on her because that will only push her away.
If you want to talk feel free to pm me :)

[Punannannan]

Only you can decide.
Do you value your relationship with her enough to wait on her?

[Necroxfiendx07]

So we talked last night. I just let her know that if she is ever able to take me back things would be a lot different. i wouldnt be as crazy and needy as i was. She even asked me about a few things, that usually means she has interest. I think my window of opportunity is growing, which is good for me, even though she told me not to get my hopes up cause she really doesnt know what will happen between us. Though she admitted the feelings she has for me are much stronger than the ones she has for that other guy. She even makes fun of him while praising me sometimes. I feel like if i just keep it cool and keep her laughing, it'll only be a matter of time. I just told her i 100% support her decision and no matter what she'll have me helping her each step of the way and she said that meant a lot to her. Im feeling very positive now. Im not TOO positive, afterall nothing between me and her is guaranteed, but im certainly in a much better position with her than i have ever been since the break up. Any more advice?

[Rutherford The Brave]

She's lying to you.

[Necroxfiendx07]

She's lying to you.

What makes you say that?

[Necroxfiendx07]

Anymore suggestions? Theyre dating now

[Rutherford The Brave]

Anymore suggestions? Theyre dating now

I told you.