Where to draw the line?

[GryffindorSeeker]

I've wondered for a while where other guys would draw the line between curious and gay.

I've done some sexual stuff with other guys but never involved penetrative sex and I've never had feelings or a relationship with them, we just have fun together.

I say I'm straight but just like to have a good time with some friends.

What are your thoughts?

[Dimitri]

Personally I think that is the line right there. I would still consider you str8/curious

[ATown]

If you have buttsex. Your bi/gay. ;)

[howyoudoin93]

I think the line lies in emotional attraction. If you are emotionally as well as physically attracted to a guy (i.e. you want to have a relationship with them) then you're gay. If you just like to get off with a guy, you're curious

[abcd1234]

i think you cn only really tell once you've had some of both
lol
but i think having a good time with a guy is okay
but if you feel in love with one, then you're gay

[Bretts]

I think your just curious. But if you have sex with him then your either gay or bi.

[ray8806]

I think the line lies in emotional attraction. If you are emotionally as well as physically attracted to a guy (i.e. you want to have a relationship with them) then you're gay. If you just like to get off with a guy, you're curious

I agree with this one

[jockboy14]

Emotional attraction is a big thing. You can think that a guy is physically attractive, and i think most guys think this about guys, because you may want the same bod he has. but once you get some emotional stuff, like u wanna cuddle or somethin, then it may say something. but dont worry about anything because feelings like this tend to come and go or wane after a while, and you probably wont know anything until you are like 20.

[ccrunner]

I do believe you are gay once penetration is achieved. Your just curious

[ShaneK]

There is onli one guy i fool around with my best friend, an yes there is an emotional attachement. I have just split with my long term gf, who i loved deeply. But I a friend who is becoming my girl friend as our relationship developes.

Sexuality is fluid you can't tell who you will be attracted to in life. I wouldn't be so eager to assign a label to yourself. Without gettin into details some very straight right wing married men have had sex with me. They would be the last anyone would suspect of ever sleeping with a boy.

Like you I have never had penetrative sex with my friend. If you wana label so much i would say str8/slightly bi

Just enjoy yourself and don't get hurt.

[Victor ODonnell]

The line seperates emotional and physical attraction!
If you wanna see his dick, and are able to forget about it, You are curious!
But, if you fall in love with his dick, you are gay!

[nick]

Its not so much what you do, its what you feel that determines your sexuality.

[SWMG]

When you start feeling emotionally attracted to a guy then is when you start crossing the line buy if you just have fun with them its ok

[Brandon.]

When you start feeling emotionally attracted to a guy then is when you start crossing the line buy if you just have fun with them its ok

agreed.

[Sean the Griffin]

I do everything except butt sex - thats a no no and my friends are the same.

[imma]

its your choice

[NoLongerInUse]

i think you were just curious! i dont think anyone is particularly gay! unless they are attracted and have feelings for boys! i think in my opinion that having sexual activity with other boys is just curiosity, experimenting, and having fun! its just our hormones!

[CaliKiDD]

I do believe you are gay once penetration is achieved. Your just curious

what if he didnt like it ???:cool:

[LittleMonsterMike]

Okay so i am bi sexual and i've had emotions for but men and woman and i'm okay with that
but when i was first experimenting it was just physical so don't be so quick to say that physical attraction can't lead to emotional attraction

[CaptainObvious]

Are you at all sexually attracted to other guys? If yes, you're bisexual. Bisexual spans a very wide range from people who prefer the opposite gender to people who prefer the same gender, so it's not a particularly meaningful label, but sexuality is determined by sexual attraction and if boys can get you up (to be crass), you're not straight.

[VeniVidiVici]

being gay is about feeling emotional attraction and physical attraction to guys.
It is also a self title, so unless you feel you are gay/bi, you cant be classified as gay or bi.

Im only physically attracted to guys, thus why i determined i am bi.

[obbylue]

Whenever these discussion come up, there seems to always be two levels of thought. The first level is very essentialist-based and says that actions determine things - if you do anything with a guy you are gay or AT LEAST bisexual, or if you have anal sex then somehow that magically makes you gay when a blowjob doesn't.

The second level is people who don't worry about actions, which I agree with, but start to talk about emotional attraction and such. My problem with this (and at least one person brought it up) is that we have emotional feelings for all people in our lives - and it is really hard to start figuring out how one emotional feeling is different from another.

This is just my two cents - and I'm probably confusing people. But yeah, I felt I had to say it!

[usedtobejv]

I think you are gay when you want a boyfriend

[Nancy Boy]

You are either very curious or a tad bisexual. Hehe. DON'T worry about it. (:

[tyler007]

Well i have jerked off with freinds and trades hj and bj but that where i draw the line. We have fun and mess about, but no kissing or anal is envolved.

[Tyler1]

Well i have jerked off with freinds and trades hj and bj but that where i draw the line. We have fun and mess about, but no kissing or anal is envolved.

I jack off with a couple friends and would luv to try giving and receiving bj. We have given each other hj. Feels so much better when u get a hj.

[Tyler1]

I do everything except butt sex - thats a no no and my friends are the same.

Yea, me too.

[smitty35]

you are str8 curious

[twotall]

you can go to a certain point but dont go to far or push trying to because you can mess up a friendship because i did with one of my friends and we nearly talk now

[chase.]

I think being curious, is just when you want to try things with another guy, such as experimenting. I also think being gay is just when you want to have anal sex with another man for pleasure, which there is nothing wrong with. There are too many people who discriminate against gays. I'm not gay myself, but I also don't see a problem with it? People take the word gay as being an insult, when it shouldn't be. So you like guys? What's the big deal?