Ughhh!

[Buddy]

So my friend and I were text messaging each other about a week ago and she forwarded me a text wanting me to tell her a secret before 2010 was over. I replied "You have guessed at it and I want to tell you but I'm afraid people won't accept me." I was planning on telling her I am gay but I got sacred and backed out of the conversation. Now she is getting angry at me because I won't tell her. Its not that I don't think she'll accept me its that I'm afraid others will find out and it would get back to my family... So I have no clue what to do. Should I "man up" and tell her or just keep putting it off? I really need you guys' help and advice on this...

[nick]

So my friend and I were text messaging each other about a week ago and she forwarded me a text wanting me to tell her a secret before 2010 was over. I replied "You have guessed at it and I want to tell you but I'm afraid people won't accept me." I was planning on telling her I am gay but I got sacred and backed out of the conversation. Now she is getting angry at me because I won't tell her. Its not that I don't think she'll accept me its that I'm afraid others will find out and it would get back to my family... So I have no clue what to do. Should I "man up" and tell her or just keep putting it off? I really need you guys' help and advice on this...
Did you actually send the "You have guessed at it and I want to tell you but I'm afraid people won't accept me" message, if so you've already dont the hard part, its pretty obvious which way that conversation is going. So if you went that far and she hasnt reacted with total horror I think you should not leave her guessing. There are worse things than being gay.

[ccrunner]

Do whatever to not ruin your friendship what's more important a good friendship or what some jerks think of you

[MoveAlong]

Did you actually send the "You have guessed at it and I want to tell you but I'm afraid people won't accept me" message, if so you've already dont the hard part, its pretty obvious which way that conversation is going.

I agree that at this point it's a little obvious.
"I'm a high school male that's sharing his feelings about how I'm worried about being accepted about my secret"

What do you think his secret is? He has a tissue box collection? No, that he likes men.

Now this is why I've vowed not to trust anyone with my secret - the first person I told opened her big fat mouth in a "mistake" and the word got passed between two people. Luckily a BETTER friend stopped the wildfire.
I would only do this if you can trust this person, since it sounds like the first person you're admitting yourself to-and that's a very important stage. I don't know about my other queer folk all up in here, but being able to say you're gay to someone else for the first time is a milestone for you as a gay person.

So I'd say just tell her if you can trust her. Then, if you want to go all the way so everybody knows, tell another. That's how it works. If you want to keep it a secret then don't tell anyone else. Also, please don't release all of your gay thoughts or feelings or feelings about being accepted on her - it's a terrible burden and a strain on the relationship, but the risk that comes with this situation.