No attraction?

[Dunce]

I dont think I'm attracted to either sex... I was straight until I was about 14. I didnt just presume that, I really had feelings for some guys. Then after that for about 2 years I thought I was gay, I felt attraction to women and none for men(except on certain days :L) and then when I came to terms with it and realised that I want to go for whatever makes me happy I went off women staright away.. it's not a phase because its been about 6 months :/ I didnt know people could just turn asexual?! I know people figure out sexuality in their teens usually but I didnt think sexuality could appear in childhood and disappear when you're 16 :/
I dont have a bad attitude to relationships(alothough others attitudes get me down), and I'm not under stress or anything. Ive heard people say the words 'im just not looking for a relationship' and thought maybe that could be my case, but when people say this I'm sure they dont mean that they arent attracted to anyone.
This is so annoying, does anyone feels the same way or has anyone ever felt like this?

[Syvelocin]

Maybe you just aren't attracted to the people you are around? Or are you still not attracted to people you used to be attracted to?

To tell you the truth, I've never fell hard for anyone I went to school with. I might start liking them as a person, but none of them were attractive to me. I'm only attracted to one girl my age. Everyone else that I'm attracted to is older than me :/

It's possible to turn fully asexual, yes. I turned partly asexual (I'm emotionally and physically attracted to all sexes but I'm not sexually attracted to anyone). Cycling through sexualities like that is unlikely though. 6 months could still be a phase, and it could still be hormones or whatever. Most sexualities are there to stay once you figure out your preference.

[Tristin.]

i agree with rith, it could just be a phase. Iv never heard of somebody changing over such a short period of time though.

with your age, hormones are still flying and could well change again in another 6 months.

dont be worried :)

[Shenron]

I too, agree with Rith. Phases can last a long, long time. I thought I was straight til I was 13, then I thought I was gay til I was 15, now I identify as Bi...

[Cryofthewolf]

Yes, it's nothing to worry about. You will fall somewhere on the sexuality line at one point.

Even if you do turn out to be asexual, it isn't a big deal. It doesn't make you weird or anything. Personally, however, It would drive me crazy if I couldn't find a woman/man to spend the rest of my life with. But yeah, I wouldn't concern yourself too much at this point in time. Just focus on living life and enjoying it. (Especially living where you do, you lucky lass.) :-P

[Aspiringanonymous]

I came to terms with it and realised that I want to go for whatever makes me happy I went off women staright away.. it's not a phase because its been about 6 months :/ I didnt know people could just turn asexual?!
Asexual here, went through a similar trajectory of experimentation fail but at a younger age.

The overwhelming consensus is that one's sexuality is innate and not a conscious choice, but I would definitely argue that nature creates the capacity while factors after birth determine the extent of one's self-awareness, and thus the extent to which that capacity is acknowledged and allowed to flourish.

Being laid back, and going with whatever feels more comfortable and natural to you - this part is important to note. Most non-heterosexual people go through 'phases' (I hate this word, but whatever) of questioning and struggle, in attempt to make sense of the apparent disparity between their experiences, and the inferred 'correct way to experience life' that we are all bombarded with from the moment we are born. For some people, even the awareness that 'yes, the majority's way is not the only possible way' takes years to develop, while in the meantime, they may feel that no known acceptable identity suits them perfectly and/or 'something seems not right', but be unable to pinpoint the exact cause.

A lot of social conditioning works on an unconscious level, especially after many years of exposure. It appears to be universal and a part of one's 'nature', whatever that really is, and thus is not questioned, much less considered as a possible explanation to one's persistent feelings of general incongruence - until something triggers one to examine it critically.

I wouldn't take the opinions of most people too seriously, to be honest - asexuality is much more invisible than other sexualities, and plenty of people still hold the view that it's "against human nature", whatever the heck that means.

Over time (no, it's not instantaneous), I noticed that the integration of my asexual identity as a part of my person, helped me develop a more coherent world view in many critical ways. Granted, it wasn't the only factor at work, but it certainly played a part. Much of what previously appeared too messed up to even attempt to understand, started to make more sense to me, with a logic that suited my mind, even if it didn't for anyone else. And that's how I can say with certainty that it's not a "phase", no matter how much opposition I encounter.

Listen to your own voice - your intuition. Also bear in mind that everyone's experiences of self-discovery are different. Go with what works for you.

[Dunce]

Personally, however, It would drive me crazy if I couldn't find a woman/man to spend the rest of my life with. But yeah, I wouldn't concern yourself too much at this point in time. Just focus on living life and enjoying it. (Especially living where you do, you lucky lass.) :-P

I know it wouldnt make me weird but it would drive me crazy too :/

and thanks everyone :)