How do I tell my Family?

[DreamerGirl]

So Ever since I was 14 I knew that I was Bisexual. But my Family doesnt know that. I dont want to keep it from them forever so I feel like I need to tell them soon but Im afraid to tell them because of what they will say and how they will react. Also im not really sure if I should tell my parents or my older brothers first. They are usaly more understanding than my parents and are always doing their best to protect me. But im afraid my parents will get mad. So should I tell my brothers first and then my parents? Or tell them all at the same time? or can you give me some other suggestions?


Help :confused:

[nick]

If you think your parents will react badly then it might be an idea to tell your brothers first so that they are ready to give you some support if needed. Many parents will feel initial shock or disappointment but that should usually soon give way to the realisation that you are still their daughter, the same child that they have always known and loved. Sometimes parents know more than we think, when I came out to my dad he had already guessed.

[Sosaku]

What nick said, but if you feel that your brothers will understand and be there for you, you can probably tell all of them at the same time, just don't make a big deal out of it. Tell them, and be sure of what you are telling them, let them ask questions if needed. Keep them comfortable that you know what you are doing, and that you made your choice not through peer pressure, etc., but on your own...(idk what i just said in that last part....think i'm sleepy lol so scratch that) But, good luck, I plan on comming out before january 2011, i hope this christmas break isn't my last...

[Shenron]

I know how you feel. If you think your parents will take it badly, then I would suggest telling your siblings first. Ask them to be there with you when you tell your parents. They will support you as best they can. Coming out to your family is a great idea, you just have to be careful about how, and when you do it. I know if I came out to my dad, he would disown me. So I chose not to. If I can help in any way, please let me know. Good luck! :)

[DreamerGirl]

Thanks for the input. I think telling my brothers first would be better. They most likely wont freak out the way my parents would. But dont really know how I would go about telling them or what I would say? :huh:

[AxelxXxRoxas]

If your going to tell them, say it straight don't hint about it, thats my opinion anyway i find it easier just to say it. im gay and my family dont know but my best friends do, so i kno how you feel.

[notactive]

I told my mum first which was a bad idea because I knew she would have the worst reaction (which she did) then I felt awful and was too scared to tell anyone else. Luckily my mum told my dad and brother and they were both very supportive. So my advice would be to tell the people you think will be most supportive first so that if someone doesn't react too well then you will have support behind you to make you feel better. Good luck =)

[DreamerGirl]

Yeah. looks like telling my brothers first would be the best thing. Im gonna think of how im going to say it and what I should say and let you all know how it goes.

[Alexithymia]

While I may not be the best here, I have told my friend. I knew that he was extremely supportive, except I had no clue how to say it. I could go with the straight out saying "I'm gay" or I could hint up to it. I ended up giving him a note and then slipping away when he opened it. Gah, my self confidence sucks.

For you, just start doing something with them, and when you feel ready just tell them the two hardest words to say. "I'm gay." Make sure you know how to respond to their questions that they might ask. You know them best, so you alone know how to prepare for their questions. But I'll give you a start for some of the question.

What's it like to be gay? (That was the first one that I got.)
How long did you know you were gay?
How did you realize you were gay? (Stupid question, in my opinion. I just started liking the same sex.)
Are you sure? (Make sure you know the answer to that.)

Hope this helps! :)

[Weeping]

In my opinion you should do this the way it would feel best for you. And since you said your brothers use to be more supportive and understanding, it may be a good idea telling them first. Then you could prepare yourself for telling your parents. Don't tell them if they're like stressed, angry, e.g. Do it when everybody's calm. And if you tell your brothers first, then ask them to be by your side when telling your parents, so that they can support you if needed.

Good Luck!
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[DreamerGirl]

Hey everyone! So I talked to my brothers about it and they were really supportive they weren't upset at all and they are gonna help me think of some questions for when we tell my parents :)

[Shenron]

Hey everyone! So I talked to my brothers about it and they were really supportive they weren't upset at all and they are gonna help me think of some questions for when we tell my parents :)

That is great! I am glad it went well. Please give us an update once you tell your parents :)

[DreamerGirl]

So I told my parents today. With the help of one of my oldest brother . My older brother couldn't be there because he had work anyways. My parents totally freaked out and started lecturing me and saying how it was wrong but my brother being the awesome person that he is defended me and said It doesnt matter what her sexuality is she's still your daughter and you should still respect her feelings. As long as this makes her happy. My parents were like ok when he said that they are starting to be ok with it but are still skeptical so I guess it went well. If it wasnt for my brother I would have probably gotten killed.

[Weeping]

Well, I'm glad to hear that it turned out well. And that your brother helped you! :D

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[nickisadinosaur]

Aww, your brother sounds like a nice guy. It sounds like it went pertty well, thats great![:

[smitty35]

If you really are proud of what you are, then I say go for it! let the world know. That wont make you any less human if you are bi.