My boyfriend and problems....

[Kelsey123]

okay so today my bfs mom was helping him do laundry and took him shopping for new clothes so he would be ready for work.....the night before he told me we would be able to text/talk but that wasn't the case that actually happened....
basicly I had texted him a couple times and then I called him later and she freaked out even when we had been on the phone less than three minutes....

Is that normal? Seriously?

she is so possesive of him idk what to do....

and then my bf put me on speaker phone later that day and she started telling me off saying he was her child and she was helping him get work ready and all this shit...and that she can spend time with her son and there is nothing wrong with that...

I never said anything was wrong with it or anything. I think it's nice that they spent time together... all I wanted to do was talk to my bf for 5-10 minutes but she had to freak out about it...

I mean she has a history of not letting him talk to/text me when he's at her place...so idk what to do?


Is this normal? How do I deal with it?

anyone else have problems like this?

oh yeah forgot to mention he is 24 years old...

[The Madman]

No it isnt common but i wouldnt say it is uncommon.

First off what age are you?

Second of all. Sounds like she is a possessive b*tch to me. I don't see anything wrong with talking to your boyfriend for a little while. If he is 24 and she is being possessive he needs to tell him to back off.

Third of all, I can see where she is coming from in a way, if she doesn't see her son very much and doesn't spend a lot of time with him can you blame her for wanting a mother/son day every once in a while?

[Kelsey123]

I'm 19. he's 24.

yeah I mean I get that she wants time with him but screaming and hollering over a few minute phone isn't that a bit much...

[Shenron]

Well, if he is 24, he needs to let her know that you are a priority to him and she shouldn't intentionally, or unintentionally sabatoge your relationship. I mean, I know people who have broken up with their boy/girlfriend because of the parents...

[Daniel_]

Hes 24?

Either 2 things can be done here.
1. He can move out from his parents house, and buy his own clothes and not be bothered with it.
2. He can tell his mother hes done being a mammas boy, and you two can continue your relationship.

Both are related to each other, and if he STILL lives with his mom, and she buys his clothes, gets him ready for work.. You SURE you want to be with him...?

No offense intended at all, I'm just kinda saying...

[Kelsey123]

Well he has his own appartment...I know it is a weird situation...but he's out of work and he like is in a very very tough spot right now.

He's a construction worker with a college degree.

His mom is controlling to him in order to get her help...I mean in some ways he has to go along right now because he needs her help.

I've helped him out a lot....and so has his mother...but his mother tries to set rediculous rules like we can't text/talk if they are spending time together....which we don't go along with of course....

she bought him clothes resently because he has no money to buy it himself....and I know this is a hard situation and i'm just wondering what to do about it....

We are definately staying together, because whatever his situation is right now I love him with all my heart and it's worth it to me.

[Kelsey123]

can I ask for more advice? Please?

[harjob]

You both are adults so you can take yur own decisions. I suggest three of you sit and discuss the problems and come out with solutions. Many time we assume things other side. If you like him be firm with it