How many other girls have this problem?? (Sex)

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

I'm 18, and have been having sex since I was 14 (unfortunately because I was young and dumb).
But ever since I started, I've noticed that it's never felt 'good' for me. It's always felt like either nothing, or painful. =\
I don't know if this is normal or if it's problem. I don't like not being able to find pleasure in sex, it sucks.
Does anybody else have this problem?

[Dunce]

I'm a virgin so I dont know, but masterbating does nothing for me. NOTHING!! depressing.... so I sort of know how you feel?

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

Maybe.. Who knows, I've heard that it can be ovarian cysts. O.O

[Syvelocin]

I'm not sure really. I mean, I personally hate, hate, hate, sex. It's a hassle, it's not worth it, it's not something I've ever been interested in. However, I do get, you know... when we do... eh... you get it :/

Whatever you're doing might not do it for you. Maybe vaginal penetration isn't your cup of tea and it doesn't feel good. That happens. Do you know if it... feels good with other.. forms of stimulation?

Sorry, I'm awkward with discussing this sort of thing :P

[Fiction]

It doesn't really feel good for me either, but that could be because it seriously fucks up my heart and i usually end up almost passing out ¬¬

[ShatteredWings]

Teen sexuality -> Girls p101

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

LOL Syvelocin! Yeah I get what you mean, and I can get 'good feelings' (If we're going to be awkward about it! =p) from 'other' forms of stimulation if by that you mean handsies or oral.

I've tried a lot of things like lube and that KY yours and mine plus the KY Intense, but NOTHING helps! It sucks!
The weird thing is, that I still lovee sex. It may not feel good at all, but the closeness is awesome. I like the passion I guess.

Fiction:
You shouldn't even be having sex ms. 15 year old!=p
But how does it fuck with you're heart? That's odd.

[Fiction]

I have a heart problem so... And shush :P

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

I'm not making fun of you in the least. =p

[harjob]

I went though all the posts. First thing many time we indulge in sexual activities when we are not mentally and physically mature. The age tis happens differs very much. That is why most of the parts of the world marriage age is min 18 or even more.

Some times indulging in sex makes it unpleasant, painful etc. etc.
So my suggestion would be wait till you really feel so.

I do not want to be rude or hurt someone just my feelings

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

I went though all the posts. First thing many time we indulge in sexual activities when we are not mentally and physically mature. The age tis happens differs very much. That is why most of the parts of the world marriage age is min 18 or even more.

Some times indulging in sex makes it unpleasant, painful etc. etc.
So my suggestion would be wait till you really feel so.

I do not want to be rude or hurt someone just my feelings

But I've heard of girls getting pleasure from it even the first time (when they were like 14)... =\ Idk

[Fact]

I went though all the posts. First thing many time we indulge in sexual activities when we are not mentally and physically mature. The age tis happens differs very much. That is why most of the parts of the world marriage age is min 18 or even more.

Some times indulging in sex makes it unpleasant, painful etc. etc.
So my suggestion would be wait till you really feel so.

I do not want to be rude or hurt someone just my feelings

The fact that the minimum age to marry does not have anything to do with sexual pleasure because marriage and sex are almost completely unrelated. When marriage was first created, its purpose was not to find someone to marry in order to have pleasurable sex... It was to become socially excepted, start a family, have a husband around to do majority of paid work and produce heirs to your family.

I agree with your opinion that a lot of people have sex too early. Being a virgin I can't comment on factors to do with when you've had sex, but having not had sex, I still don't see much point in it on the whole, other than to feel a close connection with the person and of course reproduction.

[Taaylor]

i started having sex when i was 12, now im 13, foor me sex is amazing, i really enjoy it

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[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

The fact that the minimum age to marry does not have anything to do with sexual pleasure because marriage and sex are almost completely unrelated. When marriage was first created, its purpose was not to find someone to marry in order to have pleasurable sex... It was to become socially excepted, start a family, have a husband around to do majority of paid work and produce heirs to your family.

I agree with your opinion that a lot of people have sex too early. Being a virgin I can't comment on factors to do with when you've had sex, but having not had sex, I still don't see much point in it on the whole, other than to feel a close connection with the person and of course reproduction.

Eh, It's hard to explain. It's like... something they do with only YOU and just YOU. It's meaningful, and its just a new level of love.
Of course you shouldn't have sex unless you really love that person, but I also believe that a lot of kids 'think' they love their partner, but honestly, I don't even know what love is yet. It takes a lot of life experience and living to find out what true love is. I probably won't know until I'm thirty five. =p



i started having sex when i was 12, now im 13, foor me sex is amazing, i really enjoy it you shouuld try oral & get your partner to lick you !(:

That's disgusting...

[Colloquialism]

I've had sex twice. Once, the first time, I was totally comfortable with where I was and what was going on. I was really aroused beforehand, and I was on top - I didn't come, but it was really good. More soft-pleasant than really urgent, if you know what I mean.

The second time was at my boyfriend's house, where it was really cold, I was worried his parents would come home, he was on top and I wasn't exactly ready. It was more like "Oh well, when are we going to get the next chance?" than "Yeah, this should happen right now." It felt like nothing, then started to hurt a little bit (I'd guess because neither of us shave down there.) Not sure which of these factors made it good/not good; maybe it was all of them.

I'd try thinking about what makes you feel comfortable and secure before you have sex. Always know you're with a partner who will stop immediately when you ask (and will be able to help you through a crying jag or two.) And most of all, be absolutely positive that you really want to have sex right then - not just because he does, but that you do.

Hope this helps. ^_^

[LingeringLove]

i started having sex when i was 12, now im 13, foor me sex is amazing, i really enjoy it

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Wow, at 12? How on earth can you be ready at 12? I'm 13 now, and told I am very mature for my age ( I am) but how can you be mentally ready at 12? Inning trying to be mean D: I just wanna know =/

[lipstick_kisses23]

I have the same problem you do, but it's caused by the fact that my boyfriend has a small penis.

[polkagurl]

imma virgin at 16 but i definitely masterbrate and i love itt .
it's probably because you started at age 14 and things are just different, and
hormones will definitely act differently because you started at a young age.
maybe start watching chick flicks? and that will make you see guys more positively
and you won't only want them sexually but emotionally.
like i know when i masterbrate i have to think of guys that have the whole package
of positive things :) maybe that might help just a bit? good luck !