Parents dont let me grow up?!

[Noneedforapplause]

My mom was always acts like im not 14. she acts like im 8. When i first got bigger muscles and such she freaked out and pointed it out to everyone. She doesnt let me handle my own crap and she always goes through my phone. I feel overprotected you could say and i want it to stop. Im 14. She also takes my wallet away from me when i need it. Its really annoying. Help!

[Ender]

I feel the same, they wont let me grow up. Im almost fucking 16 for christs sake! I do my hw for the classes that actually matter, i spend a majority of my time working or on forums / managing my websites. Don't bitch about my grades in stupid classes, dont bitch about where you have to drive me because you wont let me get my license. Stop stressing out and yelling at me because I'm living my life on the path I choose, which is much better than most in this town. And it could be so much better if you weren't always bogging me down and stressing me out.

Sorry, this is a hot topic for me right now. Things are a bit rough at home. But yes, I agree. Parents need to back off. But honestly, theres not much you can do until you turn 18.

[Amnesiac]

I'm not going to make any assumptions here, but maybe both of you guys should try talking to your parents? If that's not an option I understand, I don't know much about either of you (:P) but sitting down and having a serious conversation can, at least, sort out some issues you have with your parents.

[Apparitions]

Try talking to her about it and explain that you want more independence etc. Also, hide your phone and stuff so she can't find them.

[Lights]

I am a strong believer that it is incredibly wrong for parents to go through their children's mobile phones. It's an invasion of privacy, and my parents appreciate that.

There's not really an easy way to make things better, because parents will act how they want to, and it will take quite a lot to change their minds. The best you can really do is act mature and responsible, and hope that soon enough your parents will give you a little more space. Good luck.

[Fourth Dimension]

my mom wants to think that im still 12

[Coolcar65]

Shes being overprotective because she cares about you. In her eyes your still a little girl. What you have to do is seriously sit down with her and talk. Shes gotta realise that your not a kid. As to the phone talk to her and lock it. That way she cant go through it.

[SlightlySane]

Do you pay for your own phone bill? If so, is it listed completely under your name without you parents written anywhere?
You parents probably pay for your phone giving them every right to look through your text messages. Is it something I think they should do? Not really. But are they legally allowed to? Yes, they have every single right in the world.
You're only fourteen, no you're not a kid anymore, but this also doesn't make you a legal adult. You aren't as grown up as you'd like to think you are and your parents, while it may be annoying, do have the right to do what yours have done.
In most cases they only looking out for your best interests. While it may be overprotective, it's what they feel is your best interest. Any form of disrespect towards this is only going to enforce their idea that you need to be protected more.
At the very least sit down and talk with your mom about how you feel. If you don't feel you can do that, then you should probably just deal with whatever is thrown at you.
I know from experience that talking to your parents can make things better. I've done this at several points in my life and it worked wonders for our understanding. Just remember that you are still a child, and to her you'll always be her little boy. Remember as well that she is a grown adult and has much much more life experience than you, and some of her decisions really are for the best.

[Voodoo]

Hell, that's the way my mom was until I a few years ago, when I was 13 she found out that I was having sex.... That was not fun but yeah not that it's the right answer (don't do it it is illegal) But now I'm 16 my mom is still being over protective. She still says "give me a kiss sweetie" I just look at her and walk away. But the best thing is to sit down and have a talk with your parents about it. NOT do sexual things or being a jackass about it like I do. (I've tryed it my mom still doesn't get it) But explain to her that you need the independence

[Kitsune_sama]

I find it rather annoying sometimes when they treat you like a kid, my mom should stop thinking I'm that impatient,impulsive kid I used to be and now I make better decisions. Also I think they are being overprotective of you because they care about you, but why not tell them that they are being overprotective and maybe they will understand. My mom just annoys me to hell because all she misinterprets a situation,GETS MAD and then messes up my day. Honestly, I think she should learn to listen to the doer rather than using your own person judgement.
Good Luck with your problem with your parents.

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

I feel the same, they wont let me grow up. Im almost fucking 16 for christs sake! I do my hw for the classes that actually matter, i spend a majority of my time working or on forums / managing my websites. Don't bitch about my grades in stupid classes, dont bitch about where you have to drive me because you wont let me get my license. Stop stressing out and yelling at me because I'm living my life on the path I choose, which is much better than most in this town. And it could be so much better if you weren't always bogging me down and stressing me out.

Sorry, this is a hot topic for me right now. Things are a bit rough at home. But yes, I agree. Parents need to back off. But honestly, theres not much you can do until you turn 18.

18 is not a magic number. And she bothers you about you're classes because school is really important and that's a good thing to figure out early.
When I turned 18, all that happened is that I could vote, move out, get married, sleep with whoever I wanted, and not ask to go places. But I still have a 1AM curfew and I still have to do chores, and she still checks my grades to make sure I'm passing.

Theirs a lot to learn, you guys are really trying to grow up to fast. I know you're anxious to be treated like an adult, but you won't be treated like that until you're self-supportive. I.e; you have a job, own you're own place, pay all you're own bills ect.

[Weeping]

I don't have a lot to say about this, but well, if it really feels uncomfortable/whatever for you, you should have a sit down and talk to her.

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