family member pissing me off

[ackmedsgirl666]

so my family knows that i am trying to be openly gay and that i am with a girl. a few weeks back tho i had made the mistake of making out with a really hott guy and my family became so happy with me and couldn't believe or so they thought that i wa straight again:(
anyways i was at my grandmas this past weekend and she noticed that i was texting alot and thats when she found out that me and ann-marie were still together and she got set off claiming that for once my family was soo happy that i was going down the RIGHT path and i got insulted.
also my grandmother said that her deathwish is for me to find a nice guy and marry him... but i cannot do that because somewhere inside me i know that i am truly gay and loveeee women especially my adoringgg fiance<3
i don't want my family to leave me but what do i do to get rid of the hurt that i am feeling now because of them...
idk what to dooo!!!!

[Sapphire]

You can't force them to accept your sexuality. They sound like they might come around with time though. Grandparents are not going to be the most accepting family members though, so just keep that in mind and don't be too harsh on them if they take longer than others.

You could make it easier for them all by not kissing guys (this makes you seem less sincere about your sexuality and your current relationship) and leaving them to come to terms with it. If you do this and are sincere and honest with regards to your relationship with Ann-Marie then they will have no option but to accept it.
Obviously, doing anything with an air of rebellious teenager will not help them accept your sexuality or your relationship.

[ackmedsgirl666]

ok thanks and i truly know that i am a lesbian but i guess that i was just trying to get everybody off of my back and by making out with this guy they were so happy and forget about my being gay...
but now its right back where i started
and its not just my grandma its also my dad. my aunts and uncles, and pretty much all of my family including my own mother
she even told me that i am a disapointment to them all

[Sapphire]

I understand your reasoning behind kissing him but you need to show them all that you are certain about your sexuality and that you are being adult about it to get them all on side.

I truly am sorry that your family are being like this.
The best you can do is give them the time and space to come to terms with it while staying true to yourself. Stand your ground without being confrontational or rebellious. Winning them over will be easier if they see you are being adult about it.

Don't listen to their comments about you being a disappointment to them. You are who you are and there is nothing wrong with that. Your family is supposed to provide you with love and support unconditionally. They should accept and support you whatever your sexuality but instead they are rejecting it. They are the ones who are being a disappointment.

[smitty35]

your family is VERY traditional. If they cant accept you for the way you are then there is nothing you can do about it but ignore them. You can try and sit down with them and talk it out.