pageplant77
December 8th, 2010, 09:21 PM
So let me start off by explaining my story.
Last year I started attending a new school after I moved. This school was a neighboring/rival school of the school I used to go to. I was a sophomore then. The new school year had just begun and I was in a new school and the only person I knew here was my cousin. In my old school, I had been an antiprep and I didn't care about my social status or anything. So I didn't have very many friends, and the ones I did have I wasnt close with. We didn't hang out or anything. Well right at the end of the last school year I had there I had a change. I started trying to be an extrovert instead of an introvert, and I starting caring a lot more about my appearance and social status.
And when I came to this new school, I was an extrovert, I was well groomed, I dressed nice, I made jokes a lot, and I laughed and smiled a lot to let people know that I was an easy going guy. And I also mentioned how much I hate the rival team often. Well needless to say, it didn't take long before I made friends. But even these friends I couldn't hang out with. They said they never hang out with the "noob" And since I was new, the "noob" was me. Anyways, this group of friends was a very tight group. They were all best friends and they never even asked me questions or anything to try to get to know me. And the rest of the year pretty much went on like that.
During the summer, I would always ask myself why they would never ask to hang out even now that it was summer and I wasn't "noob" anymore. But I remained optimistic, telling myself that "when the new school year gets here, I'll be able to hang out with them finally.
When the new year came, it started out great! I was glad to be back in school and seeing them everyday and they seemed glad to see me again too. Well, that didn't last for very long. Eventually, one of them told me off saying not to talk to them anymore, and then she told me that I was annoying and a creeper etc.. and later I found out that hardly anyone from the group liked me. I felt completely lost and alone after this. But I just told myself that I brought this upon myself by laughing and smiling way too much around people that I wasn't really comfortable with and people who weren't comfortable around me. I was determined to fix this, and to try to get to know them better, but there was just one problem. I need to do that outside of school, and well, I'm in no position to ask to hang out without being shot down. So the best thing I could have done was just be less annoying, because clearly I was. And it seemed to be working, until today... Today at lunch the people at my table moved my books that I placed on the table down away from them one spot and filled the spot with all their books, they just said that that was the new book spot. Which was absolutely ridiculous because there's two empty spots at their end of the table. I took this as my sign to just leave. If they don't want me there then I'll just leave. But there's one problem, I don't know who else I could sit by and "attempt" to make friends with. It's been over a year here and I still dont have any good friends. I have a lot of casual acquaintances, but no friends. I did what everyone told me to do to make friends, and it obviously failed. Miserably. I don't know what to do now though.
Is there any way I can make new and BETTER friends? Ones who I can hang out with? And is there any way I can even make friends who will actually accept me into their group instead of ignore?
I'm really struggling here. These things shouldn't happen to someone who is really sociable and extroverted... Any advice would be Greatly appreciated! :)
Last year I started attending a new school after I moved. This school was a neighboring/rival school of the school I used to go to. I was a sophomore then. The new school year had just begun and I was in a new school and the only person I knew here was my cousin. In my old school, I had been an antiprep and I didn't care about my social status or anything. So I didn't have very many friends, and the ones I did have I wasnt close with. We didn't hang out or anything. Well right at the end of the last school year I had there I had a change. I started trying to be an extrovert instead of an introvert, and I starting caring a lot more about my appearance and social status.
And when I came to this new school, I was an extrovert, I was well groomed, I dressed nice, I made jokes a lot, and I laughed and smiled a lot to let people know that I was an easy going guy. And I also mentioned how much I hate the rival team often. Well needless to say, it didn't take long before I made friends. But even these friends I couldn't hang out with. They said they never hang out with the "noob" And since I was new, the "noob" was me. Anyways, this group of friends was a very tight group. They were all best friends and they never even asked me questions or anything to try to get to know me. And the rest of the year pretty much went on like that.
During the summer, I would always ask myself why they would never ask to hang out even now that it was summer and I wasn't "noob" anymore. But I remained optimistic, telling myself that "when the new school year gets here, I'll be able to hang out with them finally.
When the new year came, it started out great! I was glad to be back in school and seeing them everyday and they seemed glad to see me again too. Well, that didn't last for very long. Eventually, one of them told me off saying not to talk to them anymore, and then she told me that I was annoying and a creeper etc.. and later I found out that hardly anyone from the group liked me. I felt completely lost and alone after this. But I just told myself that I brought this upon myself by laughing and smiling way too much around people that I wasn't really comfortable with and people who weren't comfortable around me. I was determined to fix this, and to try to get to know them better, but there was just one problem. I need to do that outside of school, and well, I'm in no position to ask to hang out without being shot down. So the best thing I could have done was just be less annoying, because clearly I was. And it seemed to be working, until today... Today at lunch the people at my table moved my books that I placed on the table down away from them one spot and filled the spot with all their books, they just said that that was the new book spot. Which was absolutely ridiculous because there's two empty spots at their end of the table. I took this as my sign to just leave. If they don't want me there then I'll just leave. But there's one problem, I don't know who else I could sit by and "attempt" to make friends with. It's been over a year here and I still dont have any good friends. I have a lot of casual acquaintances, but no friends. I did what everyone told me to do to make friends, and it obviously failed. Miserably. I don't know what to do now though.
Is there any way I can make new and BETTER friends? Ones who I can hang out with? And is there any way I can even make friends who will actually accept me into their group instead of ignore?
I'm really struggling here. These things shouldn't happen to someone who is really sociable and extroverted... Any advice would be Greatly appreciated! :)