SilentlyScreaming
December 8th, 2010, 04:35 PM
Hello! I've been in a relationship with a guy 7years older than me for a while. It started back in may and ended around july for three weeks then we got back together.Then came august, he was moving an hour away so we broke it off. I thought all was good until he told me he had a new girl...two days later. It crushed me.
ANYWAY - So were together now...sorta. We were together till about three weeks ago,but we've been fooling around and treating our friendship like a relationship with no title. He calls it "friends with benefits" I call it, I like you,but whatever. He's always saying how much he loves me,that I fascinate him. I make the world more interesting. I think he's mixing up love with infatuation and total lust.
He's told me he's loved me after we were together for a month,if that. Seemed soon. I think he is using me to get sex and then he's going to leave. We've gotten incredibly closer the past month, and i feel pressured to have sex with him. Even though he says he hasnt been pressuring me sending a text like "I really wanted to have sex last weekend" is totally pressuring. He wont admit it and often gets mad if I bring it up. He gets mad if I dont do the sexual favors he wants. He's told me Im hopeless and he cant take me anywhere. He puts me down alot and puts people like me down, and my family.
I'm a virgin,he knows it. It means alot to me to be this close with someone like this. Im not so sure it means the same to him. He's claimed to be a player,he'even admitted it to me. "Yes im a player but im in a relationship right now". I asked him what sex means to him and he said that only girls he LOVES get to have sex with him,yet I hear stories of one night stands constantly.
I dont understand if he's SO GOOD with women,why does he stay with me if he just wants sex. It makes no sense. Las tnight he texted me this (because I didnt give him a BJ sunday,because I dont like it) "If oyu cant keep up with my sexuality,maybe we should re-think things". So now that were friends with benefits, I've wanted a relationship and he says "That means sex".
Im not really sure anymore.
ANYWAY - So were together now...sorta. We were together till about three weeks ago,but we've been fooling around and treating our friendship like a relationship with no title. He calls it "friends with benefits" I call it, I like you,but whatever. He's always saying how much he loves me,that I fascinate him. I make the world more interesting. I think he's mixing up love with infatuation and total lust.
He's told me he's loved me after we were together for a month,if that. Seemed soon. I think he is using me to get sex and then he's going to leave. We've gotten incredibly closer the past month, and i feel pressured to have sex with him. Even though he says he hasnt been pressuring me sending a text like "I really wanted to have sex last weekend" is totally pressuring. He wont admit it and often gets mad if I bring it up. He gets mad if I dont do the sexual favors he wants. He's told me Im hopeless and he cant take me anywhere. He puts me down alot and puts people like me down, and my family.
I'm a virgin,he knows it. It means alot to me to be this close with someone like this. Im not so sure it means the same to him. He's claimed to be a player,he'even admitted it to me. "Yes im a player but im in a relationship right now". I asked him what sex means to him and he said that only girls he LOVES get to have sex with him,yet I hear stories of one night stands constantly.
I dont understand if he's SO GOOD with women,why does he stay with me if he just wants sex. It makes no sense. Las tnight he texted me this (because I didnt give him a BJ sunday,because I dont like it) "If oyu cant keep up with my sexuality,maybe we should re-think things". So now that were friends with benefits, I've wanted a relationship and he says "That means sex".
Im not really sure anymore.