religion in family

[HeroesAndCons]

so i know that this christmas eve party is gonna feel soooo awkward
reasons are is that i am wiccan and we celebrate christmas eve with my (very cathloc) side of the fam
what can i do to stop akwadness and so they dont fight with me cause i openly wear my pentical

[Black Eight]

Your beliefs are your beliefs, not your family's. Your family needs to understand that. You wouldn't ask them to change their beliefs because it makes you uncomfortable and they shouldn't ask the same of you.

I'm atheist and my friend's family is very conservative and doesn't approve of my beliefs. I think it sprouts from their own insecurity about their religion. I hope this helps.

[HeroesAndCons]

Omg thanks for the reassurance

although i told my cousen that is cathloc i am wiccan cause last night she asked bout my pentical she is cool with it :)

[Syvelocin]

Lol, I'm a satanist and I get to hang out with my aunt and uncle and they're extreme catholic. XD

Thank god most of my family is nonreligious though. I was over at my soon-to-be parents in-law's house. My god, I couldn't stand constantly looking at nativity scenes and crosses. I respect religions but when your religion is the exact opposite like that... it's really hard to have to deal with the Christian stuff for extended periods of time.

I can't even tell my family though. Well, my parents know of course, but my mum's advised me to not tell my aunt and uncle. I think she has a point, since we had an incident one year where my uncle told my GRANDFATHER he was going to hell. That was a reunion I'll never forget.

All in all, respect their beliefs. When they say grace, quietly wait for them to finish and then eat. Maybe even try to get someone in on winter solstice. I don't know what wiccans do, but we just have a nice party, and I usually let my family in on it by cooking dinner for them and letting them know that it's like my Christmas. And they usually don't protest me cooking for everyone so... :P To tell you the truth, the pentagram might not be a good idea. Maybe if you were to wear a shirt that is high enough so you can slip it under? So you're still wearing it but it might not be too... controversial for them. Just to avoid all arguements as much as you can. I very rarely wear the sigil of baphomet unless I'm around my fiancé or somewhere like a concert, where I won't run into people throwing holy water on me. :P I just prefer to avoid that whole thing.

[HeroesAndCons]

well wicca since it is a nature based religion we beleve in peace and tranquility within the trees family and selves thats one of the ways i can control my self harm but anyway like my family wears their crosses and stuff like that so i thought "Hey why not do the same but with my pentical" since i am kindof open with telling my dads side and they concern but they arent all like THE POWER OF THE CHRIST COMPELLES (i thnk thats how u spell) YOU BWARAFG but they do say that their wayis better and i kindly ignor it

such as thanksgiving when they do lordy lordy pray pray (i have no clue what they call it) i do the prayer of abundunce and i say "so mote it be" instead of "amen"

but with my moms side i am going to be a little open and bacically not be a fake infront of them cause im sick of pretending that i am christian so im going to make them christmas/yule cards this year and hopefully they get the point

my immediate family thinks its all a phase but i would never do that its like saying a muslim and putting a scarf on my head for a month and taking it off but i highly respect religions so i would never do that, but ive been a true wiccan for about 2 years now and i am getting ready for yule and im gonna try to do something special with my family and make a yule log and burn it

but hopefully this year is good

[Sith Lord 13]

Honestly, I'd suggest not saying anything to the non-immediate family. Don't go along with their stuff, but don't push yours on them. When you know saying something is going to start a fight, you don't say anything. All you do is resolve to learn from their mistakes and when you're with your kids to treat them better.

[Syvelocin]

^ Agreed.

[HeroesAndCons]

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agreed

[ShatteredWings]

Food for thought: What's wrong with paying lipservice?

[Nicky97]

what can i do to stop akwadness and so they dont fight with me cause i openly wear my pentical
In my opinion, you can wear it (your pentacle, your beliefs) but not "talk it".

Religion is very personal, and after a short while, if you are silent, my guess is that it will pass and it won't be any fun to bully you about it.

I don't believe you have a right to talk it, to push it onto others, or to try to make a statement about your independence. They obviously are not into that.

Wear it, but don't talk it...

Good luck, enjoy your family as much as they will allow. They either want to include you in "family" or they don't. Time to find out.

[Sith Lord 13]

Food for thought: What's wrong with paying lipservice?

Nothing wrong with it, and lord knows I've done it many a time, but it's not particularly pleasant, and sometimes it's worth rocking the boat a little to be true to yourself.

[ShatteredWings]

Nothing wrong with it, and lord knows I've done it many a time, but it's not particularly pleasant, and sometimes it's worth rocking the boat a little to be true to yourself.

Except when rocking the boat is a good way to cause more trouble than it's worth, which is generally what these kinds of conflicts are ultimately.

[Sith Lord 13]

Except when rocking the boat is a good way to cause more trouble than it's worth, which is generally what these kinds of conflicts are ultimately.

By that logic, gay people from conservative homes should spend their whole life in the closet.

[ShatteredWings]

Not their lives.
Until they can move out.