View Full Version : What the fuck is going on.
Kaius
December 4th, 2010, 06:10 AM
I'm getting so sick of being here at home. I mean its like I'm a guest in my own home at the moment. Anything my parents stressed out about I get the blunt of it without even doing anything to deserve it. My dad doesn't seem to want me around any more. If i ask to go with him and my mother when they go out he refuses, my mum will say yes and he'll stress out and ignore us for it. I know i'm not here because they want me to be, its because i have to be until its obvious i can actually look after myself when living alone. I'm even actually paying them once a month for keeping me there and for things i need. I'm starting to get sick of the attitude im presented with all the time. Im stepping on glass and sooner or later its going to cut me. Sorry, just needed that out.
Scarface
December 4th, 2010, 06:17 AM
Well, a lot of times it's because people handle stress differently. As in; some people take their anger or stress/emotions out on the people they love a.k.a the "scapegoat" so they feel better. Just how some people find it a release to speak about how they feel. Your father is just not one of those people to talk about how they feel, though he would rather take all of his emotions out on you, you shouldn't take everything he says too personally.
Also, it could be that they need space to talk about something between the two of them. Or just some "adult time" to be away from the kids and everything. I'm sure they're not deliberately trying to odd you out. I would just give them some space, let them go where they need to go and try to avoid your father when you know he's in a bad mood if you can. It's not always easy seeing as how you live with him, but when you know he's frustrated, and is taking things out on you. You just have to imagine yourself in his shoes and what he might be going through. I'm sure after everything cools down with him or things settle (if there's anything wrong) everything should be sorted. I hope things get better man.
whereismymind
December 4th, 2010, 01:40 PM
If he seems in a bad mood avoid him until he cools down, like Goose said I think they just wanna spend time together and I doubt their just trying to exclude you. If you feel like this and your paying for your accommodation maybe you should try to find somewhere else to live. I hope everything works out for you.
Kaius
December 4th, 2010, 01:45 PM
Yeah, i had a thought of that but I hardly ever really ask to go out with them, but whenever i do it just seems to feel like im in the way.
nick
December 4th, 2010, 06:45 PM
Aaron, I dont know what the fuck is going on. I do know something about the background and its complicated. You dont deserve this treatment. Its like you were a solution to a problem at the time, but actually the problem didnt exist. This is horrible. Your parents should know that they cant fuck with your emotions like this. Maybe, just maybe, shoot me down, they dont realise how much you love them.
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