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goofball
December 3rd, 2010, 10:54 AM
Hi all. Don't want to make this sound really depressing. Just straight to the point and honest.

I am a very shy person and don't speak much. Basically the only interactions I have with people I don't know is through sport. And because of pressures, I rarely play sport.

I had a couple of friends from different "groups" in the school and wanted to bring them together to make a group of our own so I wasn't alone alot of the time. It finally happened.

So everything was good. I finally felt like I belonged to a group after 3 horrible years of high-school alone. We started going places and everyone became tighter.

As everyone became closer friends, I seemed to slowly drift away or be excluded from the group I HAD STARTED. As I said, I'm quite shy and don't talk much. So...my two best friends - didn't know each other until I introduced them. They then became good-ish frineds. But not best of friends. So one was having a sleepover, and asked the other one if they wanted to go. Obviously said "yes". And they invited some others but not me. Several more of these events occur over the next few months.

I feel so left out and ignored. As if, my group doesn't value or even see me anymore. I am wondering if I should move on (which would end up in failure because I am shy beyond belief) or if I should tell what I think is going on or ask them why they've been acting like this, and excluding me.

I'm lost, and help would be appreciated.
Sorry it's really long! (tldr) ;) thanks

Donkey
December 3rd, 2010, 01:05 PM
I think you should stop letting your shyness stop you from living life. You won't get anywhere constantly restricting yourself like this. However hard it is, just stand up and talk to them - get more involved, people will get bored of you and less interested in being friends with you if you don't talk or get involved yourself. Be more outgoing, you can become that - you just don't know it yet. It will make everything much easier and better for you. Something else to try is building up closer relationships with people alone so that you build stronger connections and the group as a whole will embrace you more.

whereismymind
December 3rd, 2010, 03:08 PM
Try not to be so shy invite some of them over to yours for a sleepover try to interact with them more, like Donkey said don't let shyness control you.

Kelsey123
December 5th, 2010, 01:53 AM
I totally understand where you are coming from. I'm terribly shy as well. Just keep making an effort, never give up. True friends will come your way :D