Hard time...

[Hiroka]

So I am together with my girlfriend for a week and 1 day now...
sadly, 2 days ago she lost her virginity to 1 of my friends :o
I had to find out by actually asking my friend, which led to her telling me that she lied..
Now I wouldnt really care if she told it straight up, but that she lied seriously put me down..
I thought of breaking up with her, but slept 1 night over it and see what happens.

We are still together at this moment, we never met in person but she might come by this weekend.

Just wondering what I should do, stay with her or break up with her.
Seriously I dont know what to do... :/

I think that I should just give her another chance, because she probably was nervous about my actions about it. But who knows?
Thanks in advance,

Hiroka

[Donkey]

She had sex with someone else while you two had only just been dating? And you wouldn't have cared if she didn't lie? Sounds odd to me. And you've never met in person?

Seems to be a bit of an odd relationship, and that she had sex with someone else makes me think that she's not worth it. If she had sex with another person it shows a lack of respect for you and relationships only work around the basis of trust and respect. I personally wouldn't continue with the relationship, but it's your choice.

Should you give her another chance, even though she had sex with someone else 6 days in? Does she have any other qualities that could ever make up for that?

[Hiroka]

She had sex with someone else while you two had only just been dating? And you wouldn't have cared if she didn't lie? Sounds odd to me. And you've never met in person?

Seems to be a bit of an odd relationship, and that she had sex with someone else makes me think that she's not worth it. If she had sex with another person it shows a lack of respect for you and relationships only work around the basis of trust and respect. I personally wouldn't continue with the relationship, but it's your choice.

Should you give her another chance, even though she had sex with someone else 6 days in? Does she have any other qualities that could ever make up for that?

we weren't dating... we have a relationship at the moment and not dating!
And no, everybody has to learn from his/her mistakes.
However, if they make the same mistake again then I wont even make an excuse to forgive him/her.. I would just say: get the f*** out!

I also know that she likes him, but likes me alot more so please keep that in mind. She also asked me a trio with him, her and me... I did agree with the trio though because I was aware of the situation between him and her.

Never expected her to go and have intercourse behind my back..

[Donkey]

Okay, so you're not dating but she's your girlfriend... right. Everyone has to learn from their mistakes but it is clearly morally wrong to have sex with someone when you're in a relationship with someone else - that isn't a mistake that is made by anyone who has respect for you, sorry.

I think you should just tell her it's either you or him, if you really want to be in a relationship with her make it clear that what she did was wrong and you won't accept it again.

[Hiroka]

Okay, so you're not dating but she's your girlfriend... right. Everyone has to learn from their mistakes but it is clearly morally wrong to have sex with someone when you're in a relationship with someone else - that isn't a mistake that is made by anyone who has respect for you, sorry.

I think you should just tell her it's either you or him, if you really want to be in a relationship with her make it clear that what she did was wrong and you won't accept it again.

Thanks, this will really help me! :D

Edit:

Alright, I spoke with both of them and she promised me that she wont do it again.
She said she loves me the most and they both know it is her last chance!
Im glad of the results and hope that my relationship with her will improve.

Thanks for the help Donkey, you were the only person that really helped me out ;)
I posted this on another forum but they just said shes cheating on me and that I should break up with her.. They are wrong and you are right ;)
You deserve respect Donkey.

[dmeek7]

Hey, I hope it works out for you two. I personally wouldn't stand for that kind of behavior behind my back, but everyone is different.