Annoying :(

[Nevermore]

So my parents are checking my body every two days to make sure I haven't cut. They said their tired of dealing with it. If they see a single bruise, cut, or burn I got straight to the mental institution. :( I fell yesterday while running out to the car because i was late and I slipped due to the rain, I know I'm going to get bruises, I have 2 small light cuts, nto from me but my viola and the fall on my thigh and hand. I just hope when my dad checks he realizes they weren't self inflicted.. I'm reallly scared. :( I've been so good with not self injuring. It's just embarrassing because they look at my scars, and arghhh!! I just want them to leave me alone.

[Fiction]

maybe tell them straight out that you accidentally hurt yourself instead of leaving it until they see the injuries? Cause that'll make it look less suspicious.
As for them leaving you alone at least they are showing you that they care. They are only doing it because they want you to get better and don't know how to do that other than to make sure your not doing it.

[Nevermore]

Very true Kathy. Thank you for showing me the positive outlook on it. I'm a pessimist, so it's hard to see the positive sometimes. I think telling them about it might make it more suspicious though. I'll just mkae it look like I didn't notice them if they ask about it.

[MadManWithaBox]

Your parents likely, haven't encountered this sort of problem before. They're sad their daughter feels the need to hurt herself, and this is most likely the only way they know how to react. So don't be too hard on them, at least they care.

[georgiamay]

my parents used to do this too, but i moved it so they wouldn't see them. But then they found out about that, their searches became more detailed.

The psychiatrist I saw told them to pretend nothing was going on, because it would help me that way, which I'm grateful for.

Like Kathy said, tell them you fell over, and say something like, "urgh, i fell over the other day, it really hurt, look what happened!" it should keep them away from suspecting.

[DecemberFlower]

My parents know they can't really stop me cutting but don't approve of it, I think you can only get sectioned if your self harm is a considered a big risk to self.

[Mike321]

They're only being like that because they care about you, and dont want you to hurt yourself
I think you should proably just tell then what happened and that it was an accident, atleast that way you know you've been honest with them.
And its good to hear that your doing well

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

Tell them that you fell, and that their searching you, makes you uncomfortable. If you dont already go to a counselor, you could suggest going to one instead??

[Bath]

That must feel so awful, them looking at one of your most personal parts of you, your cuts. It's not something you want to show the world. They do care about you and love you, but examining you to the point where you're uncomfortable isn't usually the best thing. They ARE your parents, though, so they are allowed to do that, but maybe suggest seeing a therapist/psychologist. Or, a new or different one, if you can do that.

Good luck♥

[Nevermore]

They do care, and I understand that, but sometimes I feel as if they are looking for a reason constinatly to argue and make fun of me. My mom constantly makes fun of my self injury. Espeically when we get into a heated argument. I told them that it makes me feel uncomfortable and they said they don't care. They are really insensitive about the whole thing. However, much better than last year.
I will tell them that I fell.
Quitting cold turkey on an addiction is hard... :( I just wish thye understood.
I know they are trying to help but invading my personal space by grabbing my arms and legs to check, telling me to pull up my shirt, and part of my bra, is embarrassing. I don't let anyone see me without clothes, espeically them. So it's very awkward.

[MadManWithaBox]

That sounds like a personal space violation. You should talk to them about that. As for their insensitiveness, try getting an outside source to talk to them, like a teacher, or friends parent. And don't try to go cold turkey, cos it's just painful. Try setting yourself goals, like going one week without cutting, then two, a month, a month, and so on. PM me anytime.

[Nevermore]

It is a personal space violation. I have their response if I'm done with this, this is the only way it's goign to work. Problem is, if I get an outside source to talk to them about them being wrong with what htey are doing, they will flip. They of course can NEVER be wrong. I'm being forced to go cold turkey. One little scratch, cut, burn will send me to the institution. Now you're probably wondering how often do I harm myself? At least 3 times every two weeks. Which would consist of at least 30 cuts each of those 3 times. So cold turkey will be extremely hard. I can't even bruise myself instead of cutting. So I'm afraid of doing the rubber band trick. I can't bite myself or dig nails into my skin, hit myself with anything. Basically no self harm period. At all. I can't cut them all out cold turkey. Being forced to do so is hard.

[Syvelocin]

^ You SHOULD NOT be forced to go cold turkey. At all. Checking your body like that and forcing you to not even do the safer forms of self-harm is preposterous. That can often do more harm than it would to slowly wean yourself off of self-harm. It's a drug, and can be just as unsafe to just stop altogether with no outside aid. Checking your body doesn't do anything but show that your parents do really need to trust you more, and in some cases pushes you to be more creative and secretive about your self-harm. And going cold turkey has been, personally, a horrible experience. If you're desperate enough, you WILL self-harm, with whatever you have handy, and frankly, I'd rather someone self-harmed with a clean knife or razorblade than whatever they can find lying around (a pencil, a rusty nail, a paperclip that's been who knows where). In my household, after the initial time I self-harmed, my family left it completely alone other than getting me into therapy. They didn't talk about it, they didn't check me or push me to stop. And I think if you're working on stopping, that's the best way to go really. Have you read the Bill of Rights for People Who Self-Harm? (http://www.palace.net/llama/psych/brights.html) It covers a few of the things you're actually dealing with, and I agree 100% with the things that article brings to the table. For instance, 2. The right to participate fully in decisions about emergency psychiatric treatment, 3. The right to body privacy, and 6. The right to choose what coping mechanisms they will use.

[HeroesAndCons]

omg thats so sad im sorry to hear that but also rith is right that since its hard to stop they shouldnt do cold turkey cause that will prolly mess up ur mind even more i hope that they notce its not self inflicted either

good luck

[MadManWithaBox]

Of course your parents will flip. They won't like be told how to their jobs. but frankly, their not being very good parents, they're overreacting. If you get someone in to talk to them, and make them listen, they should relent.

[Nevermore]

Thank you all for your help. I shall definitely bring that up Rith. Thank you. I'll try to explain that to them that it won't help, and list the reasons you mention. Maybe if I'm still seeing my psychologist, I'm not sure if I am or not, considering it's been over a week. If I am I will tell her my reasons and ask her to talk to them.

Heather- You're right. It's making me literally go insane. At least I feel like I'm going insane. Instead of being able to control my emotions, I can't. I'm not allowed to show emotions, I get yelled at. So I hide them. I've learned to suppress my emotions since the age of 2. Now not being able to control, or release anything, I feel like I'm going to explode! Thank you

You're right Matthew. I guess the person they would listen to is my psychologist, I just need to see her and get her to talk to them. If not I guess some other adult I know. Thank you for your help.

[MadManWithaBox]

Good luck :) Pm if you ever need to.

[HeroesAndCons]

Good luck :) Pm if you ever need to.

Ooh me too

[MadManWithaBox]

We're both here for you :P