OMG Highschool Drama!

[smalltowngirl9189]

My best friend (Drew) is going out with a friend I've known for a loooong time (Tori). My ex and Tori's ex (Bryan) is still in love with Tori. I still like Bryan, but he doesn't seem to notice me unless he needs something. Tori wanted nobody to know about her and Drew yet they hold hands throughout school! She's blaming Bryan for telling everybody.. well Bryan was almost in tears since he still loves Tori and is best friends with Drew. When Tori started yelling at him it mad me mad because he told nobody! How should I resolve everything between us?

[Art_dude]

Your friend Tori seems to be a little paranoid about this new relationship being known, and as a result is placing her anger on Bryan. When something unexpected happens to us, especially something we don't want publicly known, we feel better when we know what the source of the problem is so we can try and place guilt - it makes us feel like we can try and get some justice. Tori probably knows that Bryan didn't say anything, but is placing blame on him anyway because he's her ex boyfriend - it's more plausible than blaming a close friend of hers. By blaming Bryan, she's giving herself an excuse to be upset with him (perhaps about some unresolved issues she still has with him.)

I wouldn't jump into this problem between Tori and Bryan - it's their own battle, and they need to resolve it themselves. I understand you're frustrated about Tori treating Bryan like that, but it's not your place to intervene. If it comes up however, don't be afraid to pull Tori aside and express how you feel about her behavior. Tell her it's not okay, and that she should apologize so everyone can move on. I hope this helped. I fyou want to talk or have any questions feel free to PM me :)

[smalltowngirl9189]

Thank you