My boyfriend's dad tried to have sex wth me?!

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

To start this off
I'm an 18 year old female, and my boyfriend is 23 and in the U.S Army.
I've known his family for a while, he has four siblings, he is the oldest of them all. (Siblings: David 22 In Army, Jacob 20 In Army, Kyla 18 EMT, Sonja 16)
I'm friends with all of his siblings (ages 16-22) and his parents/grandparents love me.

Well, when my boyfriend Michael, was back on base in Fort Hood, I was staying the night at his house with his two sisters.
Kyla had already gone to bed so Sonja and I were outside chain smoking, it had to be about midnight to one at this point.

Her dad who I know really well, comes outside and begins talking to us.
After a few minutes he tells Sonja to go inside, after a short argument she obliges and disappears into the kitchen.

I don't have my cell phone on me or anything. Just cigarettes.

At first he starts talking to me about Michael and our relationship, than the conversation turns to how attractive he finds me and how curious he is to see what's beneath my shorts.
:eek:

He makes a lot of comments like that as we talk, about how attractive he thinks I am.
It was weird and creepy.
Because he's like fourty two.

At some point,
He turns to me and says; "Is there any chance I could seduce you tonight?"

I was completely bewildered. I don't know what to think of this, I mean, HE'S MARRIED AND I KNOW HIS WIFE VERY WELL!
Not to mention I'm dating his son!

When I brought that up all he said was "I'm not looking for a long term relationship, just a fling."

Ohh god, what do you guys think of this?

[Rex99]

Maybe it was a test? But seriously, that is just down right nasty and inappropriate. I can't believe the nerve this guy has. Lucky it ended there, hopefully he didn't force you to do anything. But now I can't even imagine how awkward it must be for you and your boyfriends father. So sorry you had to share such a bad experience.

[yankeefan7723]

Maybe it was a test? But seriously, that is just down right nasty and inappropriate. I can't believe the nerve this guy has. Lucky it ended there, hopefully he didn't force you to do anything. But now I can't even imagine how awkward it must be for you and your boyfriends father. So sorry you had to share such a bad experience.

Agreed.

As much as it will wreak havoc on his family, you have to tell your BF's mother. If he's looking for a fling with his own son's GF, he's desperate. He'll probably end up cheating if he hasn't already. Yes this could lead to relationship problems with your BF's parents, but honesty is the best policy. She needs to know before she finds him in bed with some cheap, to keep it friendly, woman he found on the street.

It may affect your relationship with your BF, but it's not about you two it's about his parents. If you're still unsure talk it over with your BF.

[Vkid]

creepy, and weird, i wud bring it up to your boyfriend....but in the most elegant mannor possible and at the right time

try to avoid being in situations where ur alone with this guy, cuz he's a real slime bag

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

I already told my boyfriend, he didn't say much about it and he still won't tell me his outlook on it. He told me to avoid being alone with him and that he was just a creeper.

I may tell his wife, but they already have relationship problems. They have separate bedrooms, and their dad is always talking about leaving. I don't think it would do anything except make me unwelcomed. I'm going to try to just avoid being alone with him, I'm not usually put in that situation though fortunately.

[Fiction]

Thank god he didn't force you into anything. I don't think you should tell his wife, sometimes things are best left kept to yourself.

[Love.Hate]

Oh My Goodness! Im glad he didnt force you to do anything.
I wouldnt tell his wife, that will cause more hostiliaty.
Just try not to be alone with him from now on xx

[Donkey]

Tell his wife or not? On the one hand, it's the fair thing to do - she's unknowingly married to someone who's preyed on her son's girlfriend. On the other hand, thinking of her, is it best for her? Is it best for you? Considering both things, as usual logic comes on top of morality. I still think you should consider it more carefully.

And yes, I'd avoid him. Make it extremely clear you're uncomfortable with the idea and him talking about it. As much as you can, say it friendly as if it wasn't THAT weird. He may be a creep, but he's a creep you want as better relationship as you can with.

Life's a bitch, this situation is a bitch. Your boyfriend's dad is a bitch. Good luck.

[whereismymind]

Avoid him as much as possible, as for telling the wife its the decent thing to do but if he's likely to lie so be weary of that. I hope things go well good luck :)

[OnceMoreWithFeeling]

I would not tell his wife, I they get a divorce you will feel horrible. Also your friends and boyfriend may not be very happy with you.

[HeroesAndCons]

ew EW EW EW EW
THAT IS JUST WRONG u should tell ur parents too cause sexual harassment

i would tell his wife too that is just wronggggggg

[closed]

As everyone said - you are lucky it didn't go on. Personally, i think you should force the opinion of your boyfriend out. Do not tell his mother unless he says it's ok. Otherwise it will just be ruining your boyfriend's parents relationship.
It's isn't a sexual harassment. You are 18. If he didn't invade you privacy physically, and didn't harass you mentally (continued talking bout sex after you asked him to stop) this is totally legal. It's wrong morally. But not illegal.
Before invading someone's familly, make sure it's the right thing to do.

[loz4]

He sounds like a bit of a creep, but from what you said it doesn't seem like he forced you to do anything so I say leave it be, forget it happened.

[BreatheHopeIntoMe]

Yeah.. That's pretty much what I'm doing. We both have been ignoring that it even happened.
The weird thing is, is that while he was hitting on me, he was asking me for advice on how to fix his marriage....

I think the obvious first step, is to not hit on you're son's girlfriend. =p


And I can't force the answer out of my boyfriend, I tried and he told me to stop nagging because he wasn't going to tell me.

[Fiction]

Your boyfriend must have a reason for keeping this secret so don't try to get it out of him. Leave it and he may decide to tell you at a later date :)

As for his dad, as everyone has said, ignore that it happened. It sounds to me like he's very upset/depressed about his and his wife's marriage and is therefore doing things that he would not usually do.

[salema]

i will said too don't tell his wife and try to be away from him (dad of your boyfriend)
and asked ur boyfriend to have solation about that witheachother away from problems and good luck

[libra210]

Extremely weird

[iWasBornThisWay]

You shouldnt avoid him, no you should go up to him and confront him, and tell him how it is and how its gone roll. If you avoid him, it will just leanger in your head until the day you die because something like that cant dissipear until its confronted.

I dont mean confront him in front of everyone, just alone. And if he trys to do something to you... Scream as loud as you can girl or call your boyfriend or 911 something.

[Fiction]

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