Confusing Friendship

[paul33]

I have been friends with another guy for about a year now, and within that time we’ve become progressively more intimate. We first became friends through a mutual best friend, and for a while that was our only connection. We started hanging out and drinking together alone last spring and once went on a picnic together, at his suggestion. The apparently homoerotic part of our relationship began with jokes and ass slapping but developed into caressing and recently dry humping. He now lives in another city with our mutual close friend and I visit every few months, though I intend to go permanently when it’s possible. When I was there last the contact we had seemed intensified after we had not seen each other for a while. We were drinking a lot the whole time, and he and I did a lot of play humping, touching each other’s faces, hair, and nipples, and cuddling, often when our other friends were around and also in public. He even grabbed at my crouch quite a few times, both of us always smiling and always laughing. On the last night I spent there we were both quite drunk and had been on the couch sort of thrusting at each other, we then smoked weed together and both of us slept in his bed, although nothing really happened there. It wasn’t awkward or anything in the morning, and never really is between us.

I identify as bisexual and believe I have feelings for him, but that said I wouldn’t want to risk my friendship with him or with the best friend we share. After reading this description it might seem obvious that there is some mutual feeling between us but I’m still not totally sure and don’t know how to act the next time I see him, or how to direct our relationship. Laughter and conversation and drinking take central positions in the friendship I have with this guy, and with the people we both hang out with, and it may be hard to find sincere feelings particularly in such unexplored terrain as this. If anyone has been in a similar situation before or has any suggestions it would be nice.

[Dark_Hellfire]

I have never been in your exact position but I have been around friends who have been. Not necessarily to the drunk and drugs extent but at the end of the day the issue is the same.

What I would suggest is perhaps nudge a conversation onto talking about sexuality and such. Once you know exactly where he stands then you can proceed from there. Once you can confirm that, you can then move into "wooing" him so to speak. I don't feel it would cause any problems with your friendship with him or your mutual friends seeing as you both freely done it in front of them and in public