I need help guys.

[The Madman]

Wow I didn't think I would need help but I guess we all do one time or another. I really need help...
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Ok I'm going through a hard time with my girlfriend right now. I can't really talk to anybody else so I thought I would put it on here to see. I would talk to my friends but one is best mates with her so she would definately tell her and upset her. The other doesn't really know about relationshippy stuff so... here I am.

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Right, it started last weekish, We started annoying each other over little things and it kinda "grew-up". Last week we were fine thought, this weekend however.... on Saturday I was out with my mate ( guy ) and he needed condoms for him and his girlfriend so I bought him them and I bought myself another pack while I was at it. I wasn't implying anything I just wanted to be safe, so i told my girlfriend that I had got them and she was really annoyed. She said we weren't going to have sex for ages and that it wouldn't be that often to start with, i tried explaining that it was for safety but she wouldnt listen. We took her dog out with a different friend ( her best friend ) and we were walking and I was argueing with our friend about how cold the loch was at Outward Bound ( I went to a course a few weeks ago ), she said it would be cold but not cold enough to get Hypothermia but I said it was, now, I know better since I jumped in the frickin thing and she didn't go. Then we started talking about animals and etc etc long story short, Celina ( my gf ) started calling me a know-it-all which she normaly does. It got on my nerves so I just left her and went back to her place myself. When she came back we went o nas normal etc etc.

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Later that night ( sounds like a story lol ) she was texting me and stuff and I find out she still loves her ex-boyfriend a bit.
[ This guy is an absolute prick who does not care one bit about her, he has got 4 girls pregnant and he is 3 years older than her, he would rather save himself than her ( you know the type )]
So once again it started to escalate into an arguement and now everything she does annoys me now. I don't want to break up with her because I love her so much but it is getting closer and closer to it.
If i do it it would really upset both of us.

I used to think we would get married but now i'm not so sure. I can't see us together in the future anymore.

She also keeps saying things like, oh he is a boy, he doesnt know anything. It really pisses me off.

So... help... advice? Please...

[Fact]

Sounds like she's really annoying, no offence.
If you're finding that you're losing the feelings you had for her before that made your relationship happy, you have two choices;

1) try and get those feelings back, but then you run the risk of losing them again which could make the process a lot more painful
2) break up now and see how you both feel. I don't know how long you've been together, but if it's not all that long then you may find that you get better quicker than you think. You may not though, so just food for thought.

If you'd like to talk about this, feel free to PM me, I don't bite.

[The Madman]

Thank You.

We have been dating 2 months, I know it sounds like crap and everything but I really do have strong feelings for her, no matter how long it has been.

I don't want to break up with her but I don't want my feelings hurt and I don't like hurting hers.

[ktmay96]

It kinda sounds like you need to do one (or both) of two things.
1.Talk it out.
2.Take a break.
Obviously you both are annoying eachother in someway, and need to let eachother know. Instead of arguing about it, you guys need to talk about it. For example first, with the condoms, maybe it wasn't the best idea to tell her you bought some, but you did and there's nothing you can do. And since you guys then went onto arguing about it, you need to do the most important thing that needs to be done after an argument. Apologize. Now maybe you weren't necessarily wrong, but just say sorry you guys argued. Tell her it was just a misunderstanding. She may have taken you buying condoms as wanting to have sex with her, and felt pressured. And while you may have said that it was just a precaution, she is obviously very adamant about her beliefs and didn't want to even think about having sex. But the bottom line is just say sorry.
Now for the dog walking event, leaving her probably wasn't the brightest idea. Tell her that, that your sorry for the argument and for just walking away. You should also remind her that you love her and that just like everyone else you get annoyed sometimes. Also let her know you don;t like it when she calls you a know-it-all.
And also, maybe taking a break is good. Not to "see other people" or breaking up, but just getting a little air and reassessing the situation later. Also, a break will help cool you guys down. I've experienced it with friends, spending too much time with someone can make them just grate on your nerves, and if you don't get some air, it will just get worse.
Hope this helps, and good luck.

[The Madman]

We are talking it out as I type right now.