I need advice about what to do with relationship

[jokerboy08]

Im 16, and me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 years now. She loves me uncondisionally, she cares about me so much, and im the ONLY thing she has. She has no real friends, her sister does not care about her and she just needs me. I do love her with all of my heart, i do care about her but i do not feel the special feeling i usto with her anymore, in fact, that feeling has been long gone a while ago. I feel trapped in the relationship and i dont know what to do. If i leave her she has no one to talk to, and honeslty, i could not see life without her because it has been so long but the fact that i dont feel something in this relationship makes me want to end it. My feeling are so mixed right now. Plus ontop of all of that i have depression so idk how im going to feel knowing i dont have her to talk to at the end of the day because my life has not been the greatest. Im not one of those guys that talks to a bunch of girls so its not like i can find someone anytime soon to feel in love with again. Iv had over 15 good friends leave town over the years and i dont have much people to hang/talk with. Idk i feel as tho im just rambling on now so please someone help me out. :(

[Donkey]

How do you feel about her? Do you still love her? If the feeling has gone, can you get it back by getting closer to one another again?

This is definitely a difficult one if you want to end it though. I think you should sit down and talk to her about getting involved with some community activities or similar. Making friends, for both you and her. Or just invite her to come along to something you're doing, whatever that is. Language courses are an example of a great way to meet new people.

I think if you're all she has, you have to be very careful with leaving her. You don't want her to do something stupid. So if you're really content on ending on it with her, it is your responsibility in my mind to ensure that the hit is as soft as possible for her - as in try to ensure that she has "somewhere to go." This is one of the few times I'd say, don't be honest. Telling her frankly exactly what you think bluntly could really hurt her and you don't want that.

Here are a few ideas that you could try:

Tell her that as a romance, the relationship is over but as close friends and having a close bond it is very much continuing and try to reiterate that you care about her and love her, but you feel the relationship is no longer working in that way anymore. Spend the same amount of time with her, but relieve yourself of the stress of being in the relationship.

Find a group of friends yourself, or as I said get involved in a small community. End the relationship however, still remaining friends. Stay in the community and ensure that you both have friends and are friends with each other and that she is not alone.

Talk to her sister (depending on the situation, of course,) and tell her how you're feeling and that you need her help to make sure that your girlfriend is okay.

I really hope you work this out bud

[Azunite]

Do what I did, find her some friends.
Introduce her to a friend group, if these friends are close to you, tell them to try to get closer with your girlfriend and encourage your girlfriend to be closer friends with them.
I once had a similliar situation, and this worked.
Though you will have at least a month's suffering if you are going to try this

[yankeefan7723]

From what I've read you neither of you really spend much time apart. That may be the problem.

Get involved in after school stuff. You both should make some more friends and have things in your life besides each other. You can't be attached at the hip. It will never work. Just find some things for you both to do without one another. Maybe then, after some time apart, you'll lust for her and that feeling will return.

Remember, too much of a good thing is a bad thing.

[Kelsey123]

don't just end it. love is hard work. it doesn't just fall in your lap. please realize that. Work to fix things with her. you can work together. bring back the spark

[Coolcar65]

If you feel you dont like her anymore maybe the best thing would be to go your own seperate ways at least for a while, while you get your head straight and if your not dating anymore doesent mean you cannot be freinds you can still be her best freind and if she pushes you away try to make her understand that although your not with her she will always have a freind to rely on.