Best Friends Fight

[tommyboy101]

I used to be friends with this guy, we were best mates, like brothers. We did everything together. Then he got a girlfriend and became a bit of a toss lol. He started treating me crappy, like ignoring me and paying me out. One night I asked why he was doing this, and then he just abused me, hit me and left. This was early 2009, since then we haven't spoken.

Everyday I kinda regret asking him why he was treating me bad. I'd like to just go back to before we had the fight. He's just broken up with his girlfriend. I really want to send him a text or message or call him or something just to say hi and see if he wants to catch up. I know he'll probably say no, but I still want to. Im kinda stuck. Help me out please. Any thoughts?

[Art_dude]

I'm sorry dude - sometimes friendships just end. In this case it sounds like your mate really liked this girlfriend of his and outgrew your friendship as a result. I'm assuming this was his first relationship? This is very common for younger guys as they get older - one of the friends has his first girlfriend, it's new and exciting, and he neglects everything else as a result.

You should never regret anything - regrets are the past crippling you in the future. You had every right to ask why he was tossing you aside. I think it was a very brave of you to ask him. I'm sorry it ended in conflict, but I think it showed you his true colours.

I think the text message is a great idea - it's a nonthreatening way to catch up with him and see how he's doing. It's been a while since you've last spoken to him so both of you have undoubtedly matured to some degree, so he's probably in a better place now then he was. I say go for it. Sometimes old friendships can be rekindled in a much better place.

[Amnesiac]

I'll have to agree with Alex here, friendships never last forever. It was his actions that resulted in you guys excommunicating, nothing you did. You shouldn't feel regretful for trying to save that friendship.

Catching up with him is a good idea, just so you guys can be on good terms again — not necessarily friends, but not enemies either. There's no guarantee he'll have matured to that point, but there's no harm in trying.

[johntoyhurry]

The best friend is the true wealth of life. That is good to make many friends and also make some friends as best friends. They are any time ready to help us and also support us in any thing. The best friends are always come with use.