What to do after I ask her out?

[Lind L Ry]

I like this girl and I plan on asking her out, and I think she likes me too, tho im like 50% sure. Lets say I ask her out and she says yes. What do I do now? I'm only 13 so... It would be the first time I ask someone out, and the first time to have a gf if she says yes. I have a few classes with her, and I sit near her most of the time. But what do I do if she says yes?

And if she says yes, what do bfs do? I'm only 13 and in middle school.


What do I say after she says yes or no? Like Yes - "Cool" No - "Oh ok?" IDK What do I say to depending on her response.

[Hyper]

Go out with her? :P

If no well too bad that may happen as well and happens to almost everyone at some point.

It's a relationship like any other except intimate.. Think of it as having a best friend but a little more and a different kind of friend - there should be no instructions or formulas for human relationships so just go with it

[pageplant77]

I agree with Hyper. Treat her like she's your best friend. Call her, hang out with her, and just have fun with her! Having a gf isn't scary lol Its really cool to be able to have someone that you know will be there for you. Bit of advice though, DONT overreact to some of the things she does. There will be some things that she does that might get you mad, but just dont make too big a deal about it, otherwise you'll be fighting ALL THE TIME.

[Gir1337]

We'll first off, I hope she says yes. If she does, you have a new girlfriend, she'll help you with your problems etc, be there for you and shit. Just talk to her, it'll be akward for the first week because you're still getting to know her, just sit by her and don't talk if you feel akward or try to make conversation.

[Lind L Ry]

I've known her for two years, but havn't ever talked to her, she goes to my church and everything.
Thanks for the help so far, I think it would be awkward kinda, and we would have nothing to talk about, because im really shy with girls, expecially with her. :(
So I just basically walk with her to classes and everything. I don't think I would be comfy bringing her to my house, because of my siblings/parents, they dont know anything on how I like her or anything. The reason Im asking all this, is because I dont want to go up to her ask her out, say "Awesome" :/ , then just act a little more like I have been, we are kinda friends atm, not really that much.

What should I say if she says yes?
What should I say if she says no?

[Donkey]

Hi

You say that you haven't talked to her yet. I'd probably first strike a friendship before asking her out, as that could be way too much too soon and could confuse her a little. If you both know each other a little before starting a real relationship, I think it would work better. Just start a conversation about something random, it's OK if you're shy - lots of girls find that cute.

Once you two are somewhat good friends and you feel comfortable about one another, you could mention the possibility of a relationship and see how it develops. There is no set way to feel or act, just be relaxed and chilled around her and be who you are.

As a recommendation though, take her to see a film - go on walks, or go bowling. Those cliché things, don't go all out too soon just go with the flow kind of thing lol

If she says yes, all you have to do is smile. You could hug her, or whatever. Be soppy. If she says no, it'll probably be "but I still want to be friends" in which case agree with her and say that you also want to be friends and you understand, followed by another hug. Hugs tend to resolve most things, right?

Good luck!

[Lind L Ry]

Sorry, what I ment was that I've known her for about 2 years and I talk to her everyday. She sits at my table, and near me in 2 classes, so I have a chance to talk to her, which I do everyday at school. We are basically friends, but we never have really reached the 'good friends' area, if you know what I mean. I've never really talked to her outside of school, I dont have her number or anything, and see her throughout the day. I would consider us friends, but not good friends or anything higher then just friends. Sorry if I confused anyone.
And if she says yes I just smile? I would picture that awkward not to say anything, but if thats what other people would do.. then i guess.

[Donkey]

Hmmm.. okay. Well perhaps you should talk to her more often, ask for her number etc., before you make a move because otherwise she might be overwhelmed. Just be friendly, chilled and cool.

If she says yes, yeah. Why not just smile? I don't think it'd be too awkward, you don't want to say "thanks" or "oh, great, let's get started" because it's not really a moment when there's anything you can say but rather you have to do something like smile or hug for greater effect.

[Lind L Ry]

How do I bring that up?
I cant just walk up to her, or just randomly ask for her number in a conversation.
I have no clue whatsoever on how to bring that up.

[Donkey]

Become better friends, then when the conversation is about to end say something along the lines of "oh, by the way, I don't have your number, do I?"

[Lind L Ry]

Thanks for the help.
I'm going to ask her out tomorrow hopefully, if I havnt chickened out like today and yesterday :( . Yesterday and today I feel like I hate myself for not asking her out. I was so close to asking today, but IDK what happened. I decided Ill ask for number afterwards, I guess. I'll be like " Hey, I really like you, and im just wondering if you'd like to go out with me. " Thats what I plan to say. The problem is that I can't really find any time with her by herself. The only time that really happens is at the end of the day near the bell, but the problem is that I always run out of time; I figured I would need about 5 minutes to exchange numbers and stuff after I ask her out. I'd like to ask her in the morning when school starts and stuff, but there are tons of people around :( . What should I do?
Sorry if Im bumping this anyhow.

[Donkey]

You're not bumping :) I don't think it would take 5 minutes to exchange numbers, and you don't need to do it right then and there. Be more relaxed mate, just approach her when she's alone and you feel comfortable and ask the question. What happens next should come naturally.

[Lind L Ry]

K, will do, btw thanks for replying so quickly.
I wish I could do it asap, but thats not the best.
BTW: I guess Im that kind of person that over-reacts to alot of things.

[Donkey]

Haha it's alright bud, we're all human - I do too when it comes to me personally.