How do I tell my friend?

[erible]

Ok so this is sorta confusing. Well i first started self harm last March (so about 9months) and I told one of my best friends, she was angry and hurtful and conceited and told the principal, thus my parents found out and that was horrible. I had to go to therapy , I went once but m dad took me out because he thought I didn't need it and he didn't want to pay but my mon wanted me to be in it but she didn't have the money for it and she actually cared unlike my dad (they're divorced) and so after about a month or two after they figured out I was doing good without cutting, usually only once a week or less. Then I started cutting more but then got back down to once a week, and now within he last 3 months I've got back into worse than I did when I first started. My thighs are covered in cuts and scars and Ive been suicidal and I really want to go to therapy but my parents haven't brought up self harm since like April, and they think I've stopped- anyways (I'm really sorry I'm ranting and rambling) well 3 months ago me and my other best friend were in a deep conversation and she said shes been suicidal and then I told her I self harm and we were crying and all that jazz. Well we haven't talked about it since September but I really want to tell her I need someone to talk to about it because I'm in my worst self harm phase and I just want a friend, she's pretty much my only friend who knows (who I'll talk to her about it) and I just want to tAlk to her, I'm sorry this turned into a rant but how can I tell her I need to talk without coming off as conceited? (sorry for typos-usin my iPod)

[Ambrosia]

Telling someone you self-harm isn’t easy. I’ve considered telling my friends tons of times but always chickened out in the end. Since your friend already knows maybe you should just sit them down and tell them you really really need to talk. You already know how her reaction is so there’s no fear of rejection of the fact. Its obvious that it doesn’t bother them. So after you get over the initial issue of being unable to start the conversation the rest should be easier.

[Nikko]

Telling someone about self harm in my opinion is pointless unless your seeking help its your bussiness no one elses.

[AppealToReason]

Telling someone about self harm in my opinion is pointless unless your seeking help its your bussiness no one elses.

In my opinion, telling someone can help a person a lot. Just getting it off your chest and knowing that a friend is there for you helps. Of course, you need to have a trusting friend.


OP, I don't believe she'll think you're conceited since she is most likely going through a similar situation. Don't be afraid to talk to her. If she is a true friend, she'll listen no matter what. If that doesn't work out, we're always here if you need someone to talk to. ;)
Good luck, Ericka. Hope you start feeling better soon.

[erible]

Thanks guys :) I think I'm just gonna have to straight forward tell her. I told her I needed to talk to her about something abou a week ago but I've stalled verytime she brought I up (she doesn't know it's about self harm) and in September when we were talking she didn't judge me and she said that even though were going through different things we could help eachother. And have you guys tod anyone you self harm? How did you do it? I usually burst into tears if I have to talk about (like when I was in therapy, I was sobbing)

[Mike321]

I was in a similar postion to you a few years ago, I had a friend who already knew about it but we didnt talk about it often.
Its a really hard thing telling someone that you self harm, but you already know she wont reject you or react badly, so this is one less thing to worry about.
And you've just got to go for it really, once you start telling them about it, it doesnt feel that difficult (if you've got a friend who you can really open up to).
Just tell her what you've already told her, that you really need to talk to her about something, and what I did was basicly just come out with it. It was one of the hardest things I've ever done, but it really helps having someone to talk to and who can help you.
I hope this helps anyway, and good luck